Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Sometime around my mid to late twenties, my mother decided we should be best friends. This was after ignoring me my whole life, except to spy on me. I often think that her insistence that she see me a lot and talk to me a lot is more in relation to how other people see our relationship, than it is to her wanting to actually be " close. " I think she gets embarrassed when her sisters ask her what is new with me if she has nothing to report. Also, one of her big complaints is any time that someone in the family hears something (very minor) about my life that she didn't hear first. I think she loves to talk to her sisters and tell them all the dirty details of my life, to create the illusion of closeness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Me too! You wrote " Also, one of her big complaints is any time that someone in the family hears something (very minor) about my life that she didn't hear first. " My nada is the same way. Last month, she heard something minor from my grandmother that I hadn't told her yet and was appalled and offended that grandma knew and she didn't. > > Sometime around my mid to late twenties, my mother decided we should > be best friends. This was after ignoring me my whole life, except to > spy on me. > > I often think that her insistence that she see me a lot and talk to me > a lot is more in relation to how other people see our relationship, > than it is to her wanting to actually be " close. " I think she gets > embarrassed when her sisters ask her what is new with me if she has > nothing to report. Also, one of her big complaints is any time that > someone in the family hears something (very minor) about my life that > she didn't hear first. > > I think she loves to talk to her sisters and tell them all the dirty > details of my life, to create the illusion of closeness. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Really interesting vegdeanna! I wonder if this is the real reason why stepnada gets mad when we distance ourselves from her. She doesn't want the truth to be exposed - that she is a viscious, ugly person and her " kids " don't want anything to do with her. I know for a fact (from hearing phone calls between her and her sister) that she loves to dish on the negative stuff, so she's either bitching about things in our lives that she doesn't agree with, or bitching that we're not around. Either way, you never win, so why try? > > Sometime around my mid to late twenties, my mother decided we should > be best friends. This was after ignoring me my whole life, except to > spy on me. > > I often think that her insistence that she see me a lot and talk to me > a lot is more in relation to how other people see our relationship, > than it is to her wanting to actually be " close. " I think she gets > embarrassed when her sisters ask her what is new with me if she has > nothing to report. Also, one of her big complaints is any time that > someone in the family hears something (very minor) about my life that > she didn't hear first. > > I think she loves to talk to her sisters and tell them all the dirty > details of my life, to create the illusion of closeness. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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