Re: How do BP's interact with other BP's?

January 12, 2008

My stepnada also hated all my friends: the closer I was to a friend,

the more reason she saw make it known that she didn't care for

them. Especially friends who she knew were on to her or were

friends from my mother's side of the family.

As far as her reaction to other BP's - try to press two magnets

together and see what happens!

>

> I was curious to see if anyone has ever watched the interaction of

2

> people with BP. Growing up, my mother was always weary of my

friends--

> always found so many flaws with all of them...even the ones who

did

> wonderful things for me and who have always been by my side. But

there

> was one friend that she loved and when I had an argument with that

one

> friend, she put pressure on me to send her a card and make things

> better. What is so interesting to me is that now that I know more

> about BPD, I realize that this friend is also BP. I roomed with

her in

> college for a year and looking back I see the same symptons--you

never

> knew when you walked in the door what mood she would be in and

every

> day had a new drama that involved something happening to her. It

got

> to the point where it bothered me and I was walking on eggshells

> constantly. I looked for a new roomate the next year and got

> one....but my nada kept asking about my friendship with this old

> roommate. I couldn't figure it out! I wonder if they understood

each

> other and that was her attraction to this girl?

> Nan

>

January 12, 2008

Depends on their mood, if they've had anything to drink (always a good

cue to flee), etc. etc. etc... BPs tend to hate other BPs, but find them

useful to project all their failings onto the other one. So it's just

like anyone else, just a bit more kinky...

> I was curious to see if anyone has ever watched the interaction of 2

> people with BP.

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January 12, 2008

She proably sensed the insecurity in your BP friend. BPD's dont like

people with self confidnece, are happy and secure in themselves. It's

too much of a threat to themselves as center of the universe. But no

doubt if your nada had to live in close quarters for any length of

time with your roomate they would wear out each others welcome very

fast.

Tina

>

> I was curious to see if anyone has ever watched the interaction of

2

> people with BP. Growing up, my mother was always weary of my

friends--

> always found so many flaws with all of them...even the ones who did

> wonderful things for me and who have always been by my side. But

there

> was one friend that she loved and when I had an argument with that

one

> friend, she put pressure on me to send her a card and make things

> better. What is so interesting to me is that now that I know more

> about BPD, I realize that this friend is also BP. I roomed with

her in

> college for a year and looking back I see the same symptons--you

never

> knew when you walked in the door what mood she would be in and

every

> day had a new drama that involved something happening to her. It

got

> to the point where it bothered me and I was walking on eggshells

> constantly. I looked for a new roomate the next year and got

> one....but my nada kept asking about my friendship with this old

> roommate. I couldn't figure it out! I wonder if they understood

each

> other and that was her attraction to this girl?

> Nan

>

January 12, 2008

Nan,

About ten years ago I I traveled to San Diego to visit my aunt while my nada and

stepfather

were there visiting too. My aunt is my nada's oldest sibling and there is twenty

years

between them. Nada is the baby. My aunt even came home to help my grandmother

when

my nada was born. This was a VERY enlightening trip. I saw my aunt give my

nada nine

different kinds of hell. It was a most enjoyable trip as my nada was too busy

dodging her

sisters attacks to mess with me. I was highly amused. As bad as my nada was

and is...her

sister is ten times worse! I managed to get a few minutes alone with her

youngest son, my

cousin, and asked " is she always like this? " He confessed that yes she is. Wow

do I feel

sorry for my cousin...Guess I know part of how my nada got to be how she is.

Carla

>

> I was curious to see if anyone has ever watched the interaction of 2

> people with BP. Growing up, my mother was always weary of my friends--

> always found so many flaws with all of them...even the ones who did

> wonderful things for me and who have always been by my side. But there

> was one friend that she loved and when I had an argument with that one

> friend, she put pressure on me to send her a card and make things

> better. What is so interesting to me is that now that I know more

> about BPD, I realize that this friend is also BP. I roomed with her in

> college for a year and looking back I see the same symptons--you never

> knew when you walked in the door what mood she would be in and every

> day had a new drama that involved something happening to her. It got

> to the point where it bothered me and I was walking on eggshells

> constantly. I looked for a new roomate the next year and got

> one....but my nada kept asking about my friendship with this old

> roommate. I couldn't figure it out! I wonder if they understood each

> other and that was her attraction to this girl?

> Nan

>

January 13, 2008

my mom has this uncanny ability to find older mom-type figures for her

that treat her like shit. i don't know if they're actually BP or not,

but they sure seem like it. they would treat my mom like crap, then

she would take it out on me. there was this one woman who was the

mother of one of my mom's high school buddies and we would visit her

during the summer. jesus christ those were lame vacations. the

mother would be a bitch to my mom, then my mom would rage at me, hit

me, scream at me, pinch me, and i was trapped in a little texas town

with no hope for escape. (last summer my mom manipulated me into

going to this woman's house -- " IF YOU WANT TO SEE YOUR LITTLE SISTER,

YOU HAVE TO PICK HER UP FROM SUE'S! " -- and she was super-pissed that

i wouldn't stay longer than an hour. i was like, sorry man. this

place gives me the creeps. and wouldn't you know it...without a

punching bag to take all the overflow emotions out on, she realized,

HEY, this lady is MEAN TO ME and decided not to go back.)

i figure my mom is trying to find some sort of maternal-type who won't

reject her like her mom did, but she picks all these crazies. there

was this one woman who mom hung out with who DID NOT STOP HER HUSBAND

FROM MOLESTING HER DAUGHTER when her daughter told her what was going

on. i was like, MOM! how can you HANG OUT WITH SUCH A CREEPY

PERSON?!?! she sometimes had a lame excuse, but i gave her bloody

hell about hanging out with her and she knows not to bring that woman

around anymore. (i'm sorry, but on the evil scale, that one takes the

cake.) plus, the woman cornered me when i was 16 and told me that i

was a piece of shit and that she knew i was a piece of shit.

the creepy thing about these situations, though, is that it was like

my mom was positioning herself so that i would stick up for her. she

would put me in situations with creepy older females and allow the

older females to goad me until i lashed out and told them exactly how

sorry and empty and meaningless their lives were. however, when i

would do the same to her, it was not a welcome experience. IRONY!!

ugh...i've made so many crazy people cry, i can't even keep track. my

main concern, though, was getting the crazies out of the house and

away from my little sisters. they didn't need to deal with this

bullshit. it was almost a constant fight for me, but at least my

little sisters had a role model who said, " just because they're adults

does NOT mean they know what they're talking about and you don't have

to deal/listen to their crap. "

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