Ever After

[Guest guest]

This may sound weird but i was just watching the movie Ever After

with Drew Barymore and it really helped me realize a lot of things.

Throughout the movie, le (cinderella) is abused by the

stepmother, but le continues to bear it and accept it and go

through life like that. Finally, she gets so fed up she freaks out

and defies the stepmother. Toward the end, the stepmother asks

le what she wants, to which she replies, all she wanted was for

the stepmother to love her. she asks her if there is any tiny part of

her that loves her. The stepmother responds by saying " how could

anyone lovoe a pebble in their shoe " and then sells her to a neighbor

for some material possessions. the ultimate withholding of love. when

danielle becomes queen, she has pity on the stepmother and saves her

from death, but tells her although the stepmother will think about

her every single day for the rest of her life, she will forget her

from that point on and never have to think about her again. and she

goes on to be queen. and she doesn't feel guilt or remorse for the

loss of the realtionship.

I think the stepmother symbolizes all of our mothers, and danielle

shows our desparate attempts and wants and needs to just be loved by

them. i relize now that my mother is truly incapable of loving me and

is too selfish to care how i feel about that. so i really think i can

let go now. and get her out of my life completely without feeling

bad. i dont need a relationship with her to be complete. or to be

happy. and i dont need to feel bad because she really doesnt care

about my feelings anyway. i am SO HAPPY with this realization. its

like a weight was lifted. i hope the best for her but she doesnt need

to be part of my life. wow i know this is long but im just so happy i

felt like i had to share it with someone who really understood. ill

stay in low contact till my brother and sister are old enough to

contact me and then im done. i dont need to try to have a

relationship with her. anyways i hope this helps some of you who are

struggling with this issue right now. maybe you should rent the movie