Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 My mother and her side of the family are 100% Italian, too. Hence why I relate so much to the Sopranos. Italians are stubborn, and child to parent loyalty is important, but abuse and manipulation isn't something that should exist in our lives no matter what our heritage is. > > I'm wondering if any of you have experieced what has got to be the #1 > argument trigger with Fada: ethnicity. He is mostly Irish and his wife > is 100% Italian. He dislikes the Italian part of his children's > heritage and faults them for embracing itdespite the fact that they are > more Italian than anything else. When we learned to speak some Italian > as adults to prepare for a trip to Italy, he went ballistic. His > personality is to drink a lot and start fights and he enjoys sitting in > bars with his friends and thinks he relating to them because of their > Irish heritage. He's very narrow-minded. He recently started an > argument because we do not seek out the Irish culture and festivities, > never took a trip to Ireland, never visited an Irish club... Before we > went NC, we had to end a visit simply because he was raging about this > asking us how we thought it made him feel! How freaking ridiculous is > that? Is this BPD typical? It sounds like a narcissistic tendency for > sure. > ~Elle > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Yes, this is BPD typical! The situation is different, but the behavior and actions are the same. He could also be narcissistic as well. Most people who have BPD also have other disorders, phobias, etc. And the personality disorders are on a continuum, so there is often overlap. Sylvia > > I'm wondering if any of you have experieced what has got to be the #1 > argument trigger with Fada: ethnicity. He is mostly Irish and his wife > is 100% Italian. He dislikes the Italian part of his children's > heritage and faults them for embracing itdespite the fact that they are > more Italian than anything else. When we learned to speak some Italian > as adults to prepare for a trip to Italy, he went ballistic. His > personality is to drink a lot and start fights and he enjoys sitting in > bars with his friends and thinks he relating to them because of their > Irish heritage. He's very narrow-minded. He recently started an > argument because we do not seek out the Irish culture and festivities, > never took a trip to Ireland, never visited an Irish club... Before we > went NC, we had to end a visit simply because he was raging about this > asking us how we thought it made him feel! How freaking ridiculous is > that? Is this BPD typical? It sounds like a narcissistic tendency for > sure. > ~Elle > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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