Re: Re: BPD mom

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Agreed on all points! I recently learned that it is better for my own

health and happiness, I have to really distance myself from Nada and Spy

Sister. In my situation, my Nada was mad @ me the last few months and she

continued to keep it going when I wouldn't apoligize (control), so whenever

I called her to try to make nice (be positive and loving) or her call me,

she would always dish out dirty digs and manipulation and the mind games.

Yes, certainly acting like she didn't care if I called. So I figure cause

she is pushing me away with her behaviour and comments I will remove myself

from the equation, not call her and I am a lot happier and at peace. Of

course she has figured out what I am up to and is as mad as hell I'm sure

and since has stopped calling all together but gets " Spy Sister " to call

instead and relay her messages, find out stuff, etc...but I figured that

one out too and have since cut out calling sis as well or telling her

anything about my life, as she always runs back to mother and gossips and

trashes me. So I guess they both are up in arms with me and are probably

trying to figure out what they can do NOW to get me to apoligize to Nada

and make Nada happy. HA! I am sure Nada has called all my siblings again to

vent and trash me, how I never call her, how selfish I am with dad being

sick and her a senior and winter weather, etc. I know her behaviour has

nothing to do with me. I figure she will eventually crash and burn once

again with another sibling her target....cheers Broomie

>...mom is no longer in control of you and so lashes out against the

>person she thinks took you away from her, your boyfriend

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>...mom is irrational

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>I'd say SHE is the one asking for no contact. Do her a favor, IMHO,

>and give her what she wants.