Guest guest Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 That message helped me too! All my life I've been brainwashed to think I was the " unnatural " one for not feeling the love that was supposed to flow from me to " my mother " , especially since she loved me SO MUCH (read obsessively). But the unnatural thing is not our responses, it's the behavior we're responding to. Our responses are pretty rational, if you ask me. Maybe sometimes even a little TOO forgiving... Vi > > > > I've been reading all of your posts and it pains my heart to see > > obviously caring and good people in so much turmoil--wondering if you > > are being overly-critical, second-guessing your responses to your NADAs > > and FADAs... It's natural to want to study and investigate, analyze > > WHY these people drive us to this point when they are our " parents " and > > are supposed to love us... We shouldn't have to think so hard about > > whether to love them, forgive them, say " I love you " to them, share our > > life with them. If they deserved it, we'd JUST DO IT NATURALLY. > > > > Sometimes when I can't make sense of how I'm supposed to feel, I > > remember a greeting card that had Winnie the Pooh and Piglet together. > > I'm hoping this has meaning for you as it has had for me. Piglet had > > asked Pooh how to spell the word " love. " Pooh's response: " You don't > > need to spell it. You just feel it. " > > Elle > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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