RE: Sound familiar?

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my nada does the I'm never sorry, divide and conquer, character attack, pit one

sister against the other, poor me, my Pain is the most important, and constant

demand of her attention.

To: WTOAdultChildren1@...: broomie@...: Wed, 2 Jan

2008 03:56:09 -0300Subject: Sound familiar?

Thank-you all who responded to my lengthy intro......update....Nada has kept it

going, since I have not given in and apoligized to her ....Initially she trashed

me BAD to all my sisters and she now continues to undermmine me with my siblings

whenever opportunity is given and she throws lots of little dirty digs my

way.....We still talk on the phone, but it is very strained...she plays mind

games with me on the phone and ofcourse always leaves me with a back-handed dig

to think about. Anything innocent thing I say she may twist and use against me

later. The fall-out started ~2 months ago and she doesn't seem to be letting it

go...I call it character assassination.. For the past 2 months I tried to be

loving to her and move forward but she refuses to accept this outcome, unless

she says I apoligize for something I feel I did nothing wrong. I know regardless

she will keep it going due to her illness. I have recently decided on not

allowing her to abuse me in anyway with her mind games and dirty digs.. From now

on when I speak to her on the phone, it will be very brief and I will not give

her too many details of my life. If I feel like she is up to something, I

immediately tell her I have to go. I no longer care to call her often and do not

care if she calls me at all. I am moving forward and I am strong and confident

in my decision. I think she has realized this, from the last few conversations

with me, as I cut our conversations very short when I could tell she was up to

something on the phone or if her tone was negative in anyway with

me..................Right now Nada is definately displaying #16

behaviour.............cheers BroomieOk here are some terms, expressions,

behaviors, etc... I use when refering to Nada ...Sound familiar?1) She is on the

warpath..she's on the go!!!!!2) She is planting her seeds (she goes around to

each daughter and undermines you )3) It is all about HER pain4) She wants you to

suffer...(one sis says, " she's out for blood " ), very hurtful and mean things

said underhandedly, dirty digs, Nothing is off limits if you get on her bad

side....she may then target your relationship with your husband, how you spend

your money, raise your children, whatever she can to bring you down, etc....to

make you feel like crap.5) Twisted truths and lies of omission6) character

assassination7) She rallies up her troops (call all my sisters, tells her

twisted truths and trashes me, tries to get their sympathy and on her side)8)

It's all about " divide and conquer " 9) She wants to keep the drama going (she can

quickly move from one drama to another, sometimes they are linked together, then

linger on one drama)10) If it's not one thing it's something else (with

her)....(fighting with the sales lady, gardener, father, daughter,

in-laws.....etc....)11) doesn't care if her drama puts a strain on siblings

relationship, as long as she is top dog with each12) It's all about control13)

She has her favorites (good daughters) and there is always a scapegoat, the bad

daughter (she has targeted me many times over and recently the last 2 months and

I expect for a very long time)14) Has never said " I'm sorry " 15) She told

me.... " I tend to see the worst in people, I just can't help it....If I hear

something about someone, I think the worst " 16) It's all a game with her and she

has got to win! Mind-games16) After the drama settles somewhat, she sinks into a

depression and goes on a " self-pity poor me " trip and seeks attention from her

daughters.....she tells everyone how bored, lonely, depressed she is, with noone

to help her, bla, bla, bla,,,,,,,Sound familiar?

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