Sound familiar?

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Thank-you all who responded to my lengthy intro......update....Nada has

kept it going, since I have not given in and apoligized to her

.....Initially she trashed me BAD to all my sisters and she now continues to

undermmine me with my siblings whenever opportunity is given and she throws

lots of little dirty digs my way.....We still talk on the phone, but it is

very strained...she plays mind games with me on the phone and ofcourse

always leaves me with a back-handed dig to think about. Anything innocent

thing I say she may twist and use against me later. The fall-out started ~2

months ago and she doesn't seem to be letting it go...I call it character

assassination.. For the past 2 months I tried to be loving to her and move

forward but she refuses to accept this outcome, unless she says I apoligize

for something I feel I did nothing wrong. I know regardless she will keep

it going due to her illness. I have recently decided on not allowing her to

abuse me in anyway with her mind games and dirty digs.. From now on when I

speak to her on the phone, it will be very brief and I will not give her

too many details of my life. If I feel like she is up to something, I

immediately tell her I have to go. I no longer care to call her often and

do not care if she calls me at all. I am moving forward and I am strong and

confident in my decision. I think she has realized this, from the last few

conversations with me, as I cut our conversations very short when I could

tell she was up to something on the phone or if her tone was negative in

anyway with me..................Right now Nada is definately displaying #16

behaviour.............cheers Broomie

Ok here are some terms, expressions, behaviors, etc... I use when

refering to Nada ...Sound familiar?

1) She is on the warpath..she's on the go!!!!!

2) She is planting her seeds (she goes around to each daughter and

undermines you )

3) It is all about HER pain

4) She wants you to suffer...(one sis says, " she's out for blood " ), very

hurtful and mean things said underhandedly, dirty digs, Nothing is off

limits if you get on her bad side....she may then target your relationship

with your husband, how you spend your money, raise your children, whatever

she can to bring you down, etc....to make you feel like crap.

5) Twisted truths and lies of omission

6) character assassination

7) She rallies up her troops (call all my sisters, tells her twisted truths

and trashes me, tries to get their sympathy and on her side)

8) It's all about " divide and conquer "

9) She wants to keep the drama going (she can quickly move from one drama

to another, sometimes they are linked together, then linger on one drama)

10) If it's not one thing it's something else (with her)....(fighting with

the sales lady, gardener, father, daughter, in-laws.....etc....)

11) doesn't care if her drama puts a strain on siblings relationship, as

long as she is top dog with each

12) It's all about control

13) She has her favorites (good daughters) and there is always a scapegoat,

the bad daughter (she has targeted me many times over and recently the last

2 months and I expect for a very long time)

14) Has never said " I'm sorry "

15) She told me.... " I tend to see the worst in people, I just can't help

it....If I hear something about someone, I think the worst "

16) It's all a game with her and she has got to win! Mind-games

16) After the drama settles somewhat, she sinks into a depression and goes

on a " self-pity poor me " trip and seeks attention from her

daughters.....she tells everyone how bored, lonely, depressed she is, with

noone to help her, bla, bla, bla,,,,,,,

Sound familiar?