Re: Record-keeping

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OMG......I have written this either on this board or emailed it to

someone here.....but, YES!!!!

My nada has admitted to keeping track of our phone calls on her

calendar. She said " It was damn good thing you called, I

marked it on my calandar, and I wasn't going to call you ever. " I

blew this off, but was in horror of her doing this to me. I have

never heard of ANYONE doing this EVER......until I learned about

BPD. Learning about BPD, and posting here, has validated me to no

end!!!

Makes me wonder who else she does this with. Her mother, brother,

her sister has been NC with her, but did she write down the last

phone call with her. I personally think she only does this with

me. This is what lead up to my NC with her. I tried to talk

this phone issue out with her, told her I was busy, I volunteer at

the hospital, and cannot take phone calls there, etc. She wouldn't

listen, or believe me. She freakin lost it, and was no longer able

to control herself on the phone, and accused me of all kinds of

crap. Ignoring her, having my kids lie to her on the phone. Which

neither, have I done. She makes my life misrable if I don't answer

the phone. She leaves snotty messages, and she is such a bitch to

me when I call her back, that it wouldn't worth it, to ignore her.

As far as having the kids lie to her, I would never, and have never

put them in that position. I truly was in the shower one day when

she called, my youngest son answered the phone......and honestly

forgot to call her back. What is the big F-in deal??? Now we are

NC, hope she thought it was worth it.

She has me proven guilty and hung. I have read here, and in books,

that the BP will never see the goodness in their children. Which

gave me a real eye opener. I don't live my life like she does, my

sister, or my Foo's. So she won't see me apart from them, and their

behaviors. It makes me sad.....as I am a good person, and love

deeply, she will never benifit from knowing that.

Great topic......drlingirl

>

> Wondering if any of you fall into the category of KO whose BPD

parent

> keeps an actual calendar of phonecalls/visits for all to see? My

fada-

> in-law writes down every time one of his 3 kids calls him and then

> follows it up each day by writing " 9 days since Mike called....10

days

> since Mike called " etc... I'm laughing now since my H finally

started

> NC back in June--the calendar must be filling up with these!

>

> ~Elle

>