The Spoiled Speech

[Guest guest]

Sorry I have been out of pocket for the last week. I am in the middle

of getting my child off to summmer school and looking for a job and

generally be exhausted. But I had an interesting conversation with

the nada this weekend.

Have you ever had the " I spoiled you " speech?

We were talking about my son and she mentioned that she had a hard

time not spoiling him. And I agreed that he was hard not to spoil.

Then out of the blue she stated that she had spoiled her kids. And I

just looked at her. Finally, I told her that she had spoiled my

brother, but had never spoiled me.

Should have seen the look on her face. She even did a double take and

firmly told me that she had spoild me as well. I said nothing.

That woman has all but made me get down on my knees and beg for the

things others have always taken for granted. A home to grow up in, a

family, schooling and in the end my child, as I had infertility

problems and needed her help with the shots. She has always made it

clear that her conditions needed to be met before I got any sort of

affection or support. And this she calls spoiling.

Spoiling was the last thing on her mind with me. I am pretty amazed

that she so badly misunderstands her behavior towards me. She really

doesn't see it. But then what BPD does?

Food for thought