Urgent! Need advice today.

January 22, 2008

Hey guys,

I am so confused and kinda angry about my latest predicament. My mom

has BPD and I haven't talked to her since the holidays. Well, my

husband received a phone call from her at 7:30 am saying that my dad

will my husband's help tomorrow morning unloading a truck. My dad's

putting up a building for his new tractor and the pieces are being

delivered tomorrow.

Well, first, we live two hours away from my parents and in order for

my husband to get down there he will have to leave super early in

order to get there in time. Second, my mom has been trash-talking my

husband behind his back. He's had trouble finding a job (we both

graduated last year from college) and is now depressed and has

anxiety, and she's thinks he's just lazy. She's told me to kick him

out and get a restraining order against him! Why, I have no idea.

He has never been violent with me. She did all this in December. I

didn't do what she wanted, so now she's totally POed at me. Now, she

expects him to drop what he's doing and rush down there to help them

out? What the ef, people? She said my dad's going to call back

tonight so we better have our phones on. My dad also emailed me at

work and said the same thing.

I don't know what to do. If they asked like a week ago, maybe we

would have agreed. But I can just hear her: " Her husband's not doing

anything, so just ask him. " I feel like lying to her and telling her

he has an interview or a doctor's appointment, then part of me feels

like saying we have our own lives and they can't just expect us to

drop what we're doing to come running to help them.

What do you guys think I should do?

Jenn

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