Confusion

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I am slightly confused. I hope I am not the one with BPD. The problem

is... simply understanding my mother. I am used to seeing her go into

rages, say nasty things, pull out guilt trips, and try to control

everything If you cross her, or do something she doesn't approve of,

oh Brother!-

however she isn't like this all the time. She is very helpful with a

lot of issues. This is also when she tends to be the happiest is when

she believes she has the solution to a challenge or a problem. I

believe that this happiness comes from the feeling that she is needed

and won't be left behind? Do you think this is right?

It is difficult for me to understand that she might have BPD with this

change in character. The eruptions happen probably about every couple

of months with myself. I know at home with my father they happen all

the time. It appears that the man can't do anything right. He has a

chronic illness and I believe he is depressed all the time. I think

she definitely exhibits " I hate you, don't leave me " with him.

My husband thinks she is a nut case. When we returned from our

honeymoon, she was upset with us because he and I had planned the

whole wedding. Someone said something stupid at the reception and she

got mad at us. The same day we returned, she asked me to stop by so I

could pick up my things. She put all of my belongings out on the

front porch and proceeded to yell at us outside in the driveway.

After this wonderful show outside, she invited us in for a sandwich!

It was the most awkward moment ever.

My uncle asked my husband out to play golf. She was completely

paranoid about the entire ordeal.

But at the same time, she has very good intuition, and knows how to

read people. I think this was a trait listed in the book.

Does she sound BPD?

Thanks