When Should I Let Kids Know About Moms BPD

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Hello,

I have been looking at more of the other WTO boards, but my reason for

posting here is this; I feel that my wife has BPD, but she is

unwilling to see a doctor or go to any kind of counseling. She fits

all the criterias but 2. My girls are 14 & 17, and I am considering if

we would all be better of if we seperated/divorced. They know that

there is something " not right " but I haven't mentioned her acutally

being mentally ill. Although they often say " shes not right " . But then

again we have good days too.

If you all could go back to growing up with a parent with this

illness, when do you think would have been the right time to be told

more about what is going on? Would it be the same whether or not I

decide to stay or leave as to when they should know? As far as if I

decide to leave, should I get thier (kids) input about what they think

would be best? Are they too young to read Surviving the Borderline ( I

have not read it myself yet)? Or are there any other books that would

be age appropriate to help them understand?

Thanks DKC