Re: Hermit, Introvert, Extrovert

[Guest guest]

No, I don't know about this model, but I sure feel a lot better

after reading your post! I am constantly doubting myself, 2nd

guessing myself, examining my actions....etc. And I am definitely

drained by too much exposure to people, too much activity.

I feel better. Thank you.

Kyla

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> A few thoughts. Some people have said that they might be BPD

because they feel like hermits and would love to hole up alone with

books, tv, whatever is soothing. I thing people with BPD, like the

rest of us, can be either extroverts or introverts

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> Myers Briggs is a widely recognized personality test that

recognizes that introversion/extroversion is a continuum, with

people falling at different places along it.

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> Extroverts( 75% of the population) speak and think at the same

time, and get their energy being around others, while introverts (

25%) process thoughts mentally before articulating them. There is no

difference in intelligence. Introverts require down time to regain

energy and are drained by too much interpersonal contact.

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> Classic question on a scale of one to ten- all things being equal,

would you rather go to a party or a movie?

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> I wonder if Understanding the Borderline Mother really took this

into consideration when creating the models.

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> Anyone else know about this?

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[Guest guest]

It made me feel better when I found out about it too, so glad it helped.

Now that Im retired, I am the biggest hermit in the world and love it! Friends

and neighbours keep me focused in just the right proportions. If not for nada my

life would be ideal at last!

You might enjoy taking the Myers Briggs test and read the profiles- they saved

my sanity years ago when the office made us learn them.

The following site I havent tried but it is free and a start. There is lots on

line about this and I never tire of it.

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm

kylaboo728 wrote: No, I

don't know about this model, but I sure feel a lot better

after reading your post! I am constantly doubting myself, 2nd

guessing myself, examining my actions....etc. And I am definitely

drained by too much exposure to people, too much activity.

I feel better. Thank you.

Kyla

>

> A few thoughts. Some people have said that they might be BPD

because they feel like hermits and would love to hole up alone with

books, tv, whatever is soothing. I thing people with BPD, like the

rest of us, can be either extroverts or introverts

>

> Myers Briggs is a widely recognized personality test that

recognizes that introversion/extroversion is a continuum, with

people falling at different places along it.

>

> Extroverts( 75% of the population) speak and think at the same

time, and get their energy being around others, while introverts (

25%) process thoughts mentally before articulating them. There is no

difference in intelligence. Introverts require down time to regain

energy and are drained by too much interpersonal contact.

>

> Classic question on a scale of one to ten- all things being equal,

would you rather go to a party or a movie?

>

> I wonder if Understanding the Borderline Mother really took this

into consideration when creating the models.

>

> Anyone else know about this?

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I'm a BIG BIG hermit! I love my books & my sketch pads.

People overwhelm me, but I think it's because of my own

hyper-vigilance. I wear myself out with fear & mistrust.

I guess you can be a hermit without becoming a BPD hermit...a

high-functioning hermit! Based on that model, maybe you could be a

high-functioning queen or waif. (Although, it's really hard to imagine

a high-functioning witch! Yet, there are good witches in story tales.

I think that the witches' tendency to rage would keep them stuck in

the land of low-functioning BPDs.)

The enneagram is another personality tool. I really like it because it

describes each number in great detail (there are 9 total); low,

average, & high functioning; & the dynamics of the changing

personality during times of stress. It also talks about attachment

issues to caretakers during childhood years.

(I read parts of an enneagram book aloud to my husband. At first he

thought it was all a bit silly——but when I got to his number he became

an instant convert.)

I've noticed that people who dislike being categorized generally don't

seem to care for personality tests & guides. Those who like systems

and structures (like me!) can become obsessed.

http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

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> > A few thoughts. Some people have said that they might be BPD

> because they feel like hermits and would love to hole up alone with

> books, tv, whatever is soothing. I thing people with BPD, like the

> rest of us, can be either extroverts or introverts

> >

> > Myers Briggs is a widely recognized personality test that

> recognizes that introversion/extroversion is a continuum, with

> people falling at different places along it.

> >

> > Extroverts( 75% of the population) speak and think at the same

> time, and get their energy being around others, while introverts (

> 25%) process thoughts mentally before articulating them. There is no

> difference in intelligence. Introverts require down time to regain

> energy and are drained by too much interpersonal contact.

> >

> > Classic question on a scale of one to ten- all things being equal,

> would you rather go to a party or a movie?

> >

> > I wonder if Understanding the Borderline Mother really took this

> into consideration when creating the models.

> >

> > Anyone else know about this?

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

I agree with you that BPs can be either introverted or extroverted.

The questions on the Myers Briggs assessment, however, were created

based on how 'normal' people answer those questions. I do not think

this assessment would be valid for people with personality

disorders.

Those of us who prefer to be alone for periods of time might be

introverts, and might also be highly sensitive individuals. It is

definitely not an indication of being a BPD hermit.

Sylvia

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> A few thoughts. Some people have said that they might be BPD

because they feel like hermits and would love to hole up alone with

books, tv, whatever is soothing. I thing people with BPD, like the

rest of us, can be either extroverts or introverts

>

> Myers Briggs is a widely recognized personality test that

recognizes that introversion/extroversion is a continuum, with

people falling at different places along it.

>

> Extroverts( 75% of the population) speak and think at the same

time, and get their energy being around others, while introverts (

25%) process thoughts mentally before articulating them. There is no

difference in intelligence. Introverts require down time to regain

energy and are drained by too much interpersonal contact.

>

> Classic question on a scale of one to ten- all things being equal,

would you rather go to a party or a movie?

>

> I wonder if Understanding the Borderline Mother really took this

into consideration when creating the models.

>

> Anyone else know about this?

>

>

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