Why do we care - why can't we just let it go?

[Guest guest]

I was talking with my sister today after she told me that her due date

got pushed out and my mom replied with " Well, I don't know how that's

going to work because I have theater tickets around that time and they

cost me a lot of money. " Ummm, yeah, this is my sister's first baby!

But, that is besides the point. I was upset for my sister

considering my mother wasn't at her baby shower because it would cost

her too much. Anyway, I was going off and my sister was telling me

that she didn't react. She said that we react differently to our mom

in such a way that I basically " cut her out and don't tolerate her

sh* & t " whereas my sister just kinda shrugs it off because she has

" accepted her for who she is and knows that she is never going to

change. " It got me thinking though, why do I really hold on to this?

Why can't I just shrug my shoulders and say " oh well, that's just how

my mother is?? "

It pains me sometimes to hate her so much while at the same time feel

bad for how sick she is.

I know that I just can't take her crap in my life and that it affects

me. I wish it didn't, but when I share the things I hear from my

mother with other people they tell me it's not normal and that I need

to protect myself, which I truly believe. But, is it all worth it?

I'm so confused.

-Coop