Steve and I talked

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He was over a couple of hours after work. We had a good talk. I laid with my head in his lap. We held hands. That was for maybe ½ hour. The rest of the time I was sitting up talking to him. But he says I am controlling. I see what he means after he told me things. But I told him I don't remember being that way or saying things he said I did. I believe him that I said them. I don't remember saying them. I told him I am trying to improve myself with yoga, effexor and changing from Avonex. I asked him to be on my side for this. He said he's always been on my side. I haven't been on his side. Again, I don't remember saying things that he said I said. I asked him to tell me if I was lapsing into my old ways. That was the only way I'd learn. I got 3 real hugs ( first time I've had both arms around me since he left), a kiss on the forehead. I kissed him on the lips and he didn't pull away. It was a lot of crying. I'm crying now thinking of it all. We will be apart for atleast a couple of months. I want the effexor working before we really start trying again. If it comes that far. I think it will. Today was the best talk and etc we've had since he left 13 days ago. I did tell him I felt it was emotional abuse he put me through the last 6 months. I know he said his problems have been going on for years. I told him again I thought that as emotional abuse for not telling me and making us both suffer through it. Enough! I'm crying

so hard I can't see. Thanks for all your thoughts, prayers, and friendship x0x0x0 Shirley

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That's awesome! Talking is the best thing and you've gotten off to a great start!!!

HUGS !!

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-- Steve and I talked

He was over a couple of hours after work. We had a good talk. I laid with my head in his lap. We held hands. That was for maybe ½ hour. The rest of the time I was sitting up talking to him. But he says I am controlling. I see what he means after he told me things. But I told him I don't remember being that way or saying things he said I did. I believe him that I said them. I don't remember saying them.

I told him I am trying to improve myself with yoga, effexor and changing from Avonex. I asked him to be on my side for this. He said he's always been on my side. I haven't been on his side. Again, I don't remember saying things that he said I said. I asked him to tell me if I was lapsing into my old ways. That was the only way I'd learn.

I got 3 real hugs ( first time I've had both arms around me since he left), a kiss on the forehead. I kissed him on the lips and he didn't pull away.

It was a lot of crying. I'm crying now thinking of it all. We will be apart for atleast a couple of months. I want the effexor working before we really start trying again. If it comes that far. I think it will. Today was the best talk and etc we've had since he left 13 days ago.

I did tell him I felt it was emotional abuse he put me through the last 6 months. I know he said his problems have been going on for years. I told him again I thought that as emotional abuse for not telling me and making us both suffer through it.

Enough! I'm crying so hard I can't see.

Thanks for all your thoughts, prayers, and friendship

x0x0x0

Shirley

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Aww, I'm so glad to hear it. I didn't want to say anything before, but my best friend has been married for 25 years, and 2 years ago her husband had an affair that was physical. He had sex with another woman. Up until that point, neither one of them had had sex with another person. They were high school sweethearts. Naturally, my friend was crushed, but separated for a while and went to counseling. They both realized problems that were in their marriage, they were many, but nothing as serious as his affair. They managed to work things out and have been back together since. They were separated for about two months before he moved back in. It's taken some time for them, and there are still bad days for them both, but thankfully they are doing okay now. I am an odd ball in that I don't think that something like this automatically has to end a relationship. If it's an ongoing continuous thing, then yes, but every relationship has bad spots, and none are all wine and roses all the time. Be true to yourself and your heart, and I think going on the meds and giving them a chance to work is a good idea, plus it'll give you two time apart to talk about things and work on them. Think about seeing a marriage counselor, I really believe that is what saved my friends marriage, that, and a lot of hard work on both of their parts. Anyway, I'm so happy for you, talking is certainly the first step to mending and healing. Hugs to you,

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Steve and I talked

He was over a couple of hours after work. We had a good talk. I laid with my head in his lap. We held hands. That was for maybe ½ hour. The rest of the time I was sitting up talking to him. But he says I am controlling. I see what he means after he told me things. But I told him I don't remember being that way or saying things he said I did. I believe him that I said them. I don't remember saying them.

I told him I am trying to improve myself with yoga, effexor and changing from Avonex. I asked him to be on my side for this. He said he's always been on my side. I haven't been on his side. Again, I don't remember saying things that he said I said. I asked him to tell me if I was lapsing into my old ways. That was the only way I'd learn.

I got 3 real hugs ( first time I've had both arms around me since he left), a kiss on the forehead. I kissed him on the lips and he didn't pull away.

It was a lot of crying. I'm crying now thinking of it all. We will be apart for atleast a couple of months. I want the effexor working before we really start trying again. If it comes that far. I think it will. Today was the best talk and etc we've had since he left 13 days ago.

I did tell him I felt it was emotional abuse he put me through the last 6 months. I know he said his problems have been going on for years. I told him again I thought that as emotional abuse for not telling me and making us both suffer through it.

Enough! I'm crying so hard I can't see.

Thanks for all your thoughts, prayers, and friendship

x0x0x0

Shirley

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Aw, Shirley, I'm glad to know you and Steve are talking. Wonderful. ) Now, is it just me, or have you been finding a few more of the brighter days and moments? I hope it's not just me! lol And I hope those brighter moments keep coming more and more and soon-enough out-number the darker days. And I hope the morning will soon be here when you wake and the first thing to enter your heart and mind is not the pain and trouble, but happiness and strength! It's good to see you laughing as you have been! ) Challis Shirley wrote: He was over a couple of hours after work. We had a good talk. I laid with my head in his lap. We held hands. That was for maybe ½ hour. The rest of the time I was sitting up talking to him. But he says I am controlling. I see what he means after he told me things. But I told him I don't remember being that way or saying things he said I did. I believe him that I said them. I don't remember saying them. I told him I am trying to improve myself with yoga, effexor and changing from Avonex. I asked him to be on my side for this. He said he's always been on my side. I haven't been on his side. Again, I don't remember saying things that he

said I said. I asked him to tell me if I was lapsing into my old ways. That was the only way I'd learn. I got 3 real hugs ( first time I've had both arms around me since he left), a kiss on the forehead. I kissed him on the lips and he didn't pull away. It was a lot of crying. I'm crying now thinking of it all. We will be apart for atleast a couple of months. I want the effexor working before we really start trying again. If it comes that far. I think it will. Today was the best talk and etc we've had since he left 13 days ago. I did tell him I felt it was emotional abuse he put me through the last 6 months. I know he said his problems have been going on for years. I told him again I thought that as

emotional abuse for not telling me and making us both suffer through it. Enough! I'm crying so hard I can't see. Thanks for all your thoughts, prayers, and friendship x0x0x0 Shirley __________________________________________________