Therapy

[Guest guest]

I found a therapist for myself to help deal w/nada. I'm still mad at

her for standing up at OUR church and announcing that " her older

daughter is going to give her another grandchild " . I'm mad because 1.

it's too early for that annoucement, I haven't heard the heartbeat, and

would want to be in the 2nd trimester; 2. She should have asked me if

it was ok; 3. It's my husband's and my announcement to make if and when

we want to; 4. She's acting all thrilled about this baby only because I

told her how hurt I was when she wasn't happy w/my announcements the 3

previous times I've been pregnant. Anyways my question for all of you

is...what should I say to my therapist, what should I concentrate on? I

could go on and on w/how annoying she is, all the stupid, hurtful

things she's said and done. But I'll have an hour for starters, and I

really want him to give me some insight into her and how to deal with

her.

[Guest guest]

Your therapist should want to hear as much as you can tell him/her

about what you are having difficulty with. The first appointment is

often a session to get some of that background information.

However, if you do have a specific issue that you need help on, let

the therapist know about that.

I think before your therapist can give you insight into her, you

have to give insight into yourself. What do you think about writing

down some of your issues and concerns. You could start a list of

things that you want to discuss. My experience has been that

therapists pretty much are willing to listen to whatever you want to

talk about.

Sylvia

>

> I found a therapist for myself to help deal w/nada. I'm still mad

at

> her for standing up at OUR church and announcing that " her older

> daughter is going to give her another grandchild " . I'm mad because

1.

> it's too early for that annoucement, I haven't heard the

heartbeat, and

> would want to be in the 2nd trimester; 2. She should have asked me

if

> it was ok; 3. It's my husband's and my announcement to make if and

when

> we want to; 4. She's acting all thrilled about this baby only

because I

> told her how hurt I was when she wasn't happy w/my announcements

the 3

> previous times I've been pregnant. Anyways my question for all of

you

> is...what should I say to my therapist, what should I concentrate

on? I

> could go on and on w/how annoying she is, all the stupid, hurtful

> things she's said and done. But I'll have an hour for starters,

and I

> really want him to give me some insight into her and how to deal

with

> her.

>