VALIDATION!!!! Re: the quieter side of bp?

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My mother was FAMOUS for this!!!

She would dump all of my dresser drawers in the middle of the room as

well!!

Oh it was awful. As a child you are SO overwhlemed at the idea of

putting all of those UNFOLDED clothes back into the drawers

(epsecially because you don't know how to fold!!!). She would do that

and say, " don't leave your room all day until it is clean. "

Obviously I couldn't leave me room allllll day. witch.

I would NEVER do that to my children. NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

hahah THANK YOU FOR THE VALIDATIONNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!

> > >

> > > Bless you to the ends of the earth, honey. You may not realize

it

> > but you have done something very precious for your siblings. I

hope

> > it leads to stronger relationships and much happiness. It won't

be

> > easy to re-forge those bonds but I think you all can be stronger

> for

> > it. Tell them to come on down, we've heard it and worse.

> > > At least a thousand and one hugs for you and your hubby.

> > > Be strong

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Re: the quieter side of bp?

> > >

> > >

> > > ,

> > >

> > > Thank you SO much for your reply. You summarized perfectly the

> > > conclusions my husband and I have been reaching-- even the fact

> > that my

> > > parents must have deemed my husband a " bad " choice for me.

> > >

> > > You are 100% right that I am in a unique position to validate

my

> > > siblings. I actually sent each one an email with links to the

> > > BPDcentral website, and I have been in contact with two of my

> older

> > > siblings. One of them had actually suspected the BPD diagnosis

> but

> > > never thought that I would come to the same conclusion. This

was

> > the

> > > first time they had ever shared with me what it was like for

them

> > > growing up (they are so much older that they had left home

before

> I

> > was

> > > old enough to remember much.) I really needed to hear their

side

> to

> > see

> > > the full picture of what my mother was like. They needed to

hear

> my

> > > side to know that the behavior continues, just in a different

> form

> > than

> > > they saw. They may show up on the message boards one day soon.

> Two

> > of

> > > my siblings have not responded at all to my email, but for all

I

> > know

> > > they are furiously flipping through pages of the books I

> > recommended. I

> > > feel very good to have told them what I think is going on.

> > >

> > > Even just posting here has helped me clarify some things in my

> own

> > mind,

> > > and slowly but surely I am understanding why I saw such a

> different

> > side

> > > of things. I will, as you advise, be grateful for it, while

> > continuing

> > > to support my siblings who are having a much tougher time of it.

> > >

> > > Allgood

> > >

> > >