Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Lonley, Thanks for giving me the courage to say how lonely I am. I've been a member of this group for a long time. The same goes for me as far as family blaming any problem I have on " pain pills " I'm too old to date. I'm 72. I have a few female friends at church. Very few. I have bad back problems and other autoimmune problems that made it very difficult to walk, any distance, that is.I ride in the electric carts at walmart. I hate it but I have to. I really feel for the younger folks that are missing what should be the best part of their life. I'll pray for you. Sincerely jobob I too choose not to date. I know it is probably not the best but I cannot really go anywhere without doubleing up on my pain meds. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 --- " tallpaul610 " wrote: > > I have not dated and feel that it would be unfair to date anyone I > didn't know prior to the accident. Is this rediculous? Hello - Welcome to the list, although I'm sorry for the pain that brought you here. Why would you feel it was unfair to date someone who did not know you BP (Before Pain?) If you're like me, you're a very different person - and maybe even a better, more tolerant, more compassionate person! - since having to deal with chronic pain. So why not let someone get to know the better " new you, " instead of only spending time with people who are stuck with their expectations of what you were like before you were injured? That seems much more unfair, especially to you! To give you some hope, I have a very good friend who is married to a man who suffered polio as a child, and suffered even more from post- polio syndrome that hit in his 40s, confining him to a wheelchair and degrading his health horribly. She met and married him AFTER the post-polio syndrome hit, so she's never even known him when he could get around on crutches and was relatively healthy. Does she wish she'd known him when he was younger and stronger? No. It just doesn't matter to her. He's who she loves and she deals with his health as it comes. There are people out there who can look past the disabilities and see the person, not what that person can do or not do. So give yourself and that potential person out there the gift of getting to know the wonderful you as you are now - and of course, keep working on always making yourself the best possible person you can be despite your pain! My mantra is, " Pain may be inevitable, but suffering is optional. " Cheryl in AZ Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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