Life altering changes Was Re: Bill Re: Home from hospital....

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We have all had life altering changes in our lives; Ms being the one that unites us here. With divorce I found that getting past blaming myself was the hardest for me. I realized that the saying that it takes two to pull the marriage wagon only works if the two are pulling together at least 90% of the time. What it takes for each set of two to work together is different for each couple. For instance, if the couple includes the "hen-pecked" husband and the marriage is working, I would say that that husband , for some reason, has made the decision to give his wife the right to make the decisions. Probably because he is more comfortable having decisions made for him. If that is working for them more power to them. If this husband changes and changes his mind they will have to both change direction together or compromise or they will be heading for the divorce court. Either of these changes will be life altering.

I know that when we have to make a big change we are apt to make mistakes, some big and some minor. When we learn what works for ourself then we are better prepared to work with the changes in our life.

Life is always changing for each of us but the everyday changes are not life altering. They are part of the learning and growing process.

I am sorry if this is offensive to anyone and I do not really know why I felt the need to write it but I think it is more for me as anyone else.

HAPPINESS and BUTTERFLIES

Lynn Re: Bill Re: Home from hospital....long but funny story at the endTo: MSersLife > I am relatively new to the group but I also am really> glad that you're alright. My husband's partner at work> (he does Htg & Air) is going through a divorce after> 31yrs of marriage. He is staying with us until he gets> his head wrapped around the whole idea of divorce. It> has been quite difficult for him. Mostly because he's> never been alone. He lived at home before he married> her at 21. Now he feels he is too old to start over. I> hope things go smoothly for you whatever happens.> E.> Colorado> > --- Shirley wrote:> > > Thanks. If it works out great if not fine too.> > x0x0x0> > Shirls> > > > MS-Bill wrote:> > Hi > Shirley it has always been good to see> > you emailing the group and > > especially today to let us know you are OK. I never> > have said much about > > the marriage trouble you are having and wanted to> > let you know I am > > sorry you are going through this. I hope you and> > Steve still have some > > kind of chance together.> > Bill> > > > Shirley wrote:> > > > > Hi all! Thanks for all of the concern. lynn> > thanks for getting > > > in touch with me in the hospital.> > > > > > I ended up taking 15-5 mgs valium, 4 or 5 5/500> > Vicodin maybe a > > > zanaflex don't remember and 2 Bartles's and > > strawberry > > > daquiri's. I didn't want to kill myself I wanted> > to sleep! But never > > > could! When I laid down I noticed my respiratory> > rate was very low. > > > So that's when I decided I must have taken too> > much. I wasn't paying > > > attention to how much I was taking at the time.> > But I knew but it was > > > like I forgot I had all ready taken it a few hours> > ago.> > > > > > I didn't OD, I just took too many meds. I never> > did sleep. In fact I > > > was awake 32 hours before I did sleep. Strange> > with taking those meds. > > > Yes, I drove myself. But I was ok. I had to have> > been because at one > > > time there was a police car behind me and he ended> > up passing me.> > > > > > In the ER I was given and IV with glucose. But> > they had to do the > > > drip really slow because they could only get a 22> > gauge (very small > > > bore) needle in my arm for an IV. It took about 24> > hours for one > > > bag to get in me. After about 6 hours I start> > having to pee like > > > crazy. This is nothing new. I've been peeing a lot> > the past two > > > weeks because I was drinking more water to be> > healthier and my mouth > > > was parched a lot. Before they put you in the> > psych ward (they still > > > considered me an OD and suicide) to watch you so> > you're medically > > > stable first. Well, the next day a critical care> > doctor comes in and > > > says, "You can in for one thing but you're going> > to be staying for > > > another reason." I'm like WHAT? He told me my> > sodium level was too > > > low. They like the average of 140. Seizure level> > is 114. I was > > > 120. So so good thing I went in or I could have> > had a seizure at home > > > and no one would have known. He asked me if I've> > been drinking a lot > > > lately. I told him yes for the past 2 weeks or so> > I've been so > > > parched and drinking way more than usual and then> > I'm peeing like > > > crazy too so I made an appt with my urologist to> > see if she could > > > figure out the peeing part. But did you know you> > can drink TOO much > > > water? Yes! I was drinking 200 oz or so a day.> > Between that and the > > > peeing I depleted my sodium. > > > > > > The neuro who came in to see me agreed with that> > doctor and said it > > > was probably my trileptal making my mouth so dry.> > It was cause > > > I didn't have the last 2 doses and was not parched> > anymore. They put > > > me on Lyrica in place of it. It's working cause my> > legs aren't burning.> > > > > > Well, they tested my blood sugar since they had me> > on glucose and i'm > > > on prednisone. It was 160. That's high but I> > figured they wouldn't > > > do anything unless it was in the 200's. I was> > wrong. Here comes the > > > nurse with insulin. I said WHAT?! She said here> > anything over 150 > > > gets insulin. Luckily it was 93 and 123 the other> > 2 times they > > > checked....lol I didn't want to be diabetic too.> > > > > > I was stuck 17 times in 16 hours. Finally they put> > in another IV in > > > the other arm to draw blood from then on. I had> > nothing left to go > > > use and by gosh I wasn't getting a port or> > whatever.> > > > > > Psych came in this morning and we talked. She said> > I didn't need to > > > be treated as inpatient. I'm going YEEHAA to> > myself! But she told me > > > about an intense program they have at their stress> > center. It meets > > > for 3 hours for 3 days. I told her yes I want to> > go if my insurance > > > will pay. I just have to pay the $20 co-pay each> > time. Not bad! But > > > my insurance only pays for 20 psych sessions per> > year. I'll be ½ done > > > by the end of that. So what happens with my> > sessions with each > > > week? I'm applying for Medicare Part B. I have to> > go back to 1999 > > > and prove I've had health insurance each year> > since then or I have to > > > pay a 1% penalty fee for each year. It would be> > and extra $100 or so > > > a month coming out of my SSDI check. So I have> > work to do tomorrow > > > after therapy.> > > > > > The best part!....lololol I couldn't get a hold of> > Steve on his cell > > > to let him know where I was. His cell doesn't> > always work at his work > > > due to the thick walls and such. I had a friend> > text message him > > > cause they go through. She called me back and said> > he was coming to > > > see me. I said that was fine. He gets there and I> > tell him about the > > > meds. At that time I didn't know anything else. He> > gets an attitude > > > with me in his voice. I told him he was and he> > argued with an > > > attitude in his voice. I told him nice you can't> > be nice to me and > > > I'm lying here in a hospital bed because you> > called me selfish and I > > > think you're being selfish now I want you to leave> > now. He said are > > > you serious? I said yes, please leave. So he gets> > up and stands at > > > the door like he wanted to say something but goes> > ahead and leave. I > > > could see he wasn't happy while he was walking> > away. He was there > > > maybe 10 minutes. My friend calls me and told me> > Steve called her > > > pouting(LOLOLOLOLOLOLHAHAHA) that I had kicked him> > out. He didn't > > > tell her why so I did....lol She said good for> > you! Even though she > > > isn't taking sides which she isn't but she> > supports what I did. Steve > > > knew he could call her and she would be honest> > with him too. She told > > > him she must have had a good reason cause she> > doesn't get mad easy. > > > My great nurse knew everything that had happened> > with Steve and I and > > > knew why I was there and she had told me if I> > wanted him to leave to > > > hit the call button and she'd come in and kick his> > ass outta there. > > > She came in after he left and I told her I kicked> > his ass outta > > > here....lol I told her why and she said good for> > you. I called him > > > later and told him that he said I had had an> > attitude in my voice and > > > that's one reason that bothered him and why he> > left. I told him but > > > you noticed I had been talking nicer to you. But> > you are talking that > > > way to me so you have to change too if you want> > this to work. I'm > > > writing all of this down to tell , the> > therapist. He acts > > > differently in there where she see the real me.> > > > > > So, I'm home today and glad to be here. My brother> > is bringing my dog > > > home to me tonight. I had a lot of visitors on> > Tues. > === message truncated ===> > > "Insanity runs in my family. It practically gallops."> Cary Grant> > __________________________________________________>