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Strictly speaking, ACT doesn't endorse them because they're seen as a mostly-ineffective form of argumentation against negative thoughts. On the other hand, If you find they're helping you, there's no reason to stop them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > > Is there anything to be said for listening to positive affirmations. Or is it in conflict with ACT. Or is it beneficial to use diffusion connection, expantion aswell as affirmation from time to time.> > > > Or are the affirmations harmful.> > > > Here is the affirmation video I was listening to> > just so you know the type if stuff I am talking about> >

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Hi Andy,

What's your experience with using affirmations? You may want to do your own

experiment and see. ACT looks at workability with things as the ultimate sort of

" grade " if you will.

My experience? Affirmations can be a tricky, even seductive thing..they can work

in the short run and not so well in the long run. (And maybe something you've

already noticed and therefore are suspicious about). For me it depends on how I

use them, the function they're providing for me. If I'm using them to feel good

or otherwise cancel out or control discomfort they have a very short half life

in my experience. And if I begin to fuse with them, which many people including

myself tend to do, then more suffering will likely ensue. If I use them more

broadly and lightly as a guide-post for committed goals, as something that helps

inspire toward moving forward with valuing behavior, then by all means, I take

them along for the ride!

Hope that helps a bit.

terry

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Thanks Jim and all for all your replies....

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food for though

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I will only fuse with the thoughts if they are helpful!

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in conflict with ACT. Or is it beneficial to use diffusion connection, expantion

aswell as affirmation from time to time.

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The problem is that affirmations work, but only if you do not really need them.A recent study showed that pretty clearlyWhy?Because if you really need them they are like being used as a weapon against something and voila, there you are into the usual avoidance --> rebound

mode.However I think affirmations are fine if they truly affirm.Then they are more like remembering.Think of it this wayYou are a cupYou CONTAIN all things you know about that are good and bad.

If affirmations mean I AM or I HAVE only the good, the bad things will scream for attentionIf you say I AM the bad, your ability to live in a vital way is diminishedAffirmations should thus always have this quality

I contain all things I know about that are good and bad ... and oh by the way not to subtract the bad things that includes the good thingsI am the cup, not the contents poured into it- S

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Is there anything to be said for listening to positive affirmations. Or is it in conflict with ACT. Or is it beneficial to use diffusion connection, expantion aswell as affirmation from time to time.

Or are the affirmations harmful.

Here is the affirmation video I was listening to

just so you know the type if stuff I am talking about

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Thanks for these important distinctions. I knew they were helpful somehow, and

now that you mention it, why yes, this is precisely their utility!

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> Thanks for these important distinctions.

The problem is that 99.9999999999% of the population don't know that there's 2

sides to

the coin, and there are a lot of vulnerable people out there.

I was one of these people 13 years ago while I was having the cancer & brian

injury

treatment ........ I tried affirmations but I couldn't persist because I knew

damn well

that it wasn't real. I tried all those types of things .....

But all of those motivational books and sites will continue to print these

things because

it's what PEOPLE WANT TO HEAR. They want to hear that there's hope. They don't

want or

can't face the reality. It's too painful, too difficult or they haven't become

" aclimatized " / gotten used to " reality " yet.

Know what I mean?

We're lucky that we're one step ahead .....

iolanda

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Marriage is a great institution – but I don’t want to live in an institution ;-)

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Yes, good point, huge problem. And why these nuances are so important to detail.

I have seen this problem too all over our culture-- with individuals, with large

groups, with entire organizations--all which essentially identify and fuse with

slogans, platitudes, affirmations.

There is a sobriety program called WFS that sprung up in the late part of last

century and is a good deal about positive thinking and has a list of

affirmations or statements for members to adhere to and practice every day. In

fact one of them reads: " I am my thoughts " . For reference, see here:

http://www.ajpip.com/addictions/statements.htm

Absolutely no longer affirming if you feel as though you really need them--and

yet that's sadly the place from which most affirmations are tapped into. And it

happens sometimes rather slowly, the eroding of effectiveness and my, how we

hold on to what doesn't work anyway, because " one time it did " ! I can see where

even those statements in WFS from an ACT perspective might be useful, although I

don't know I'd recommend them now to anyone suffering with addiction.

With self as context and the other processes in play, finding as Steve noted

it's an entirely different ball of wax. In fact, I'd have to say almost

everything is different for me now. And I'm just an infant with this work. I

get so caught up in the noise of my mind that along with doing meditative work,

I am giving affirmations another go at it as quick, gentle reminders, cues for

behavioral goals and values. Really only an extension of and in support of

values, like a whisper from friend.

Will report back as to how useful they are for anyone curious.

terry

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> The problem is that 99.9999999999% of the population don't know that there's 2

sides to

> the coin, and there are a lot of vulnerable people out there.

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> I was one of these people 13 years ago while I was having the cancer & brian

injury

> treatment ........ I tried affirmations but I couldn't persist because I knew

damn well

> that it wasn't real. I tried all those types of things .....

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> But all of those motivational books and sites will continue to print these

things because

> it's what PEOPLE WANT TO HEAR. They want to hear that there's hope. They don't

want or

> can't face the reality. It's too painful, too difficult or they haven't become

> " aclimatized " / gotten used to " reality " yet.

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> Know what I mean?

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> We're lucky that we're one step ahead .....

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> iolanda

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Thanks your reply was very helpful to me, It's makes sense to me that we have to

except the good and the bad, they are all part of me.

I suppose some affirmation practices can set one up for a struggle against

reality.

Cheers,

Andy

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