Re: Need your help... @ Stan:-)

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Hi Stan:-)

your email was soooooo wonderful stan, and jazakallah khair for all the kind

words. U know i am sitting down right now sipping on my, like, 10th cup of tea,

coz i caught the flu;-( and havta admit i am absolutely surpirsed at myself for

being so sick and YET posting such loooooooooooooooong replies to everyone. It's

like nothing stops me, not even the flu, i tell ya!:-(

it was very interesting what u spoke about science. I very strongly belive that

there is always something to learn and gain from every person. If nothing, then

atleast look at the wrold from their eyes, and that in itself is a fasinating

expereince.

Which reminds me of a story, which perhaps doesn't even relate to this, but i

still want to share, u know i have this non muslim friend, she is like

insaaaaaaaanly intelligent. She's a genius. She has a great deal of trouble

mkaing and keeping close relationships and frindsships coz she really feels

people r not at the same intellectual level as her hence dumb. She confides in

me a lot, and opens up to me completely, while our lifestyles r 180degrees

opposite, not to mention i can't recall the last time i spoke 'intelligent',

but everytime she would come to me telling me 'y' she didn't wanna do anything

with so and so person coz he/she was so dumb, i would keep reminding her ,

" don't let your strongest points become ur weakness " her being a brain is no

doubt a huge positive in her favour, but if that is 'preventing' her from

connecting and bonding with people, then that blessing has infact become a curse

for her. (btw, in the same way when it comes to anxiety i believe that 'let ur

weakness become ur strength.) And i would always remind her that there is always

somehting new, unique to learn from all kinds of people, the smart asses, the

not -so smart asses, the religious, the not- so religious, the weak , the

strong, the kind , the mean....i feeel like there is a way to connect and bond

with every human being, u just havta find that one connection.

If i start a hate list stan then i can think about countless painful

expereinces, when me and my kids were openly cursed in public, when at airport

secuiry i was asked to take my shirt off in public (which i didnt ofcourse),

when people have seen me with my kids and just pulled their children closer to

them, and tell em , in front of my kids, " stay away from these people kids! " ,

when my little niece who was 3 yrs old at the time & was walking with my sis,

and some college guys laughed and said out loud, " wouldn't it be fun to rape

this young muslim kid " ..omgoodness i have tons and tons if i start talking

about freinds expereinces too....but the bottom line is hate breeds hate,

revenge breeds revenge..

and in the end that is not the life i want for myself or for my kids. i want to

teach my kids just one principle, be compassionate towards others as u would

like the world to be kind & compassionate towards u.

Hate 'ignorance' but don't ever hate 'the ignorant', hate 'oppression' but don't

hate 'the opressors', hate 'racism' but don't ever hate 'the racists'. coz

bottom line we can condemn 'an act' but as a human being , who r u and i to

condemn another human being?...give every person the benefit of the doubt b4 u

to draw a conclusion about his actions.

ok stan i think i reaaly need to take a break from writing and from posting

here, coz now i should start working on my presentation for oct 1. .

not to mention from the looks of it, by the end of this year, every single one

in this group will know every single thing there is to know about and her

family:-)

wasalaam:-)