Re: Re: Differances in how we label things

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Hi Lin,

I guess when you mentioned children, I thought you had some young ones still at home and were probably in your 30s or 40's - so much for the assumptions we make via email communication! I am somewhat older than you, however ...

I'd say that it is a good thing you discovered ACT because I really think it can help you with all that old childhood trauma stuff. We do have to deal with our feelings about the past but at some point, we need to just let it all go and live in the present moment. That is what ACT has helped me with. I really had a story going about my childhood, and even though it was all true, it wasn't the whole story. I now find myself looking back on some pleasurable things that happened in my childhood that I had formerly blocked because I was so caught up in the pain part of it.

I still do things I shouldn't do and don't do things I should! But I am more accepting of myself with all my flaws because I know I am strong and well and my horrid past is over, over, over! This is the first time in my life I am actually excited about living (most of the time). So, forgive yourself and love yourself and forgive everyone everything, if you can.

Helena

To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 9:01:41 AMSubject: Re: Differances in how we label things

Thanks , HelenaYes, I was pretty independent when I left the house but seem to take steps back when I am in a relationship. I acheived quite a bit coming from my background. I am in my late 50's by the way. A man was my first positive influence.Yes, I have had counseling off and on thru the Years. I am quite differant then I used to be becuase of it. Yet, the old feelings come back and the way of reacting to them resurface from time to time. Every once in awhile I need to go back and think about the past. For the first time I am thinking about my reactions to those old feelings.At one time i thought it was only the decisions I made that I needed to know. But now I know , I need to know what actions I chose to protect , defend and survive. Some are definelty not what I should be doing today. Is it not good that we can grow and have a better life every day?Lin