Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Hi ACTorsFollowing a bit of a Barney with my local speech language service over my son's therapy, I requested copies of his medical notes. Several months later I have calmed down and all is moving smoothly. But then the copy of the medical notes came through the post, and I read them, and am absolutely livid. The therapists accuse me and my wife of harassment, intimidation and all sorts of threatening behaviour. All we were doing was trying to get the best for our son, and I swear we never so much as raised a voice in anger. We never swore. We never threatened so much as a curt letter to the managers. But now I am so angry. I think such a sense of injustice is new to me. I know it's not injustice in the grand sense of the word, but I cannot shake how angry I am. It feels so unfair - they were the ones not doing their jobs properly, and they get to write all this shit about us on the medical files.One part of me says I should ignore it - it won't help Adam's therapy ------> DEFUSEAnother part of me says it is wrong and I should start a complaint --------> ACTThe last part of me says: screw this, let's go down there with a baseball bat and give them something to call intimidating and harassing. -----------> KICK ASSNot sure which.Wanted it down on an email - it helps me think x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Thanks for sharing. I get why you're so angry. Utimately, after you defuse, I hope you can kick ass (sans baseball bat)! I have a close friend with a differently-abled child who went through a lot of this kind of shit. From what I learned second-hand, you really need to hang in there and fight them or it will happen over and over. You are a great dad for going to bat for your son like this. He's a lucky boy. Helena To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 5:55:51 PMSubject: RE: Sense of injustice Hi ACTorsFollowing a bit of a Barney with my local speech language service over my son's therapy, I requested copies of his medical notes. Several months later I have calmed down and all is moving smoothly. But then the copy of the medical notes came through the post, and I read them, and am absolutely livid. The therapists accuse me and my wife of harassment, intimidation and all sorts of threatening behaviour. All we were doing was trying to get the best for our son, and I swear we never so much as raised a voice in anger. We never swore. We never threatened so much as a curt letter to the managers. But now I am so angry. I think such a sense of injustice is new to me. I know it's not injustice in the grand sense of the word, but I cannot shake how angry I am. It feels so unfair - they were the ones not doing their jobs properly, and they get to write all this shit about us on the medical files.One part of me says I should ignore it - it won't help Adam's therapy ------> DEFUSEAnother part of me says it is wrong and I should start a complaint --------> ACTThe last part of me says: screw this, let's go down there with a baseball bat and give them something to call intimidating and harassing. -----------> KICK ASSNot sure which.Wanted it down on an email - it helps me think x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 21, 2011 Report Share Posted October 21, 2011 > > With respect to violent fantasies, Randy, I am reminded of the brilliant > opening chapter of Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy. There is a character, > I think the foreman of the construction site, trying to think of a way of > arguing with our hero so he gets out of the way of the bulldozer. He's > left speechless, unable to articulate what he wants to say, and left > wondering why his head is filled with the image of a thousand wild > horseman with spears all shouting at him. I don't remember that scene - I've got to go check it out! Also I just realized why the KICK ASS option in my case made me think that kind of anger would be about " me " rather than about my partner or the situation - it has something to do with my feeling helpless & vulnerable & also judged somehow. I.e. somehow I would be defending " who I am " as if that were what mattered most - " I am not vulnerable!! " " I am not helpless!! " " and " I am a good person doing my best for my partner!!! " Frustration & rage . . . Randy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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