Re: A question about emotions, values

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Lyn,

I've found when I have a specific action that I avoid that actually writing down

my thoughts and feelings helps. Specifically I look for what self-ideas might

be in my way. For example, I notice that I somehow get tired of doing routine

things that need to be done every day such as taking a few supplements or even

brushing my teeth. I asked myself what self-concept could be in my way and

found that i was fused with " I'm not the kind of person that can do the same

thing every day. " I do the same when I'm fused with " I don't want to... " I'll

then ask, " What kind of person wouldn't want to? " and that helps me find the

self-concept that I've used with.

I also look at my emotions and see if I'm fused with evaluations of those

emotions. So if I'm feeling stuck, I might ask myself if I'm evaluating that

feeling as a bad thing or something I shouldn't have. I'll also as if it's

possible to move ahead another step while feeling the stuck feeling.

Rodney

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> > >I have a question -- I think it may sound simplistic, but I can't think of

how to deal with this. I feel fairly grounded in my values and have seen how I

can move toward them regardless of my emotions (not always easy, but I see the

value in it and am doing it more and more). The time when this becomes

difficult is in the evening when I'm tired and winding down. This is a time

when I can end up feeling the feelings that I was perhaps too busy to feel

during the day (mostly anxiety.) However, when this happens at night -- how do

I move toward my values? Or do I not focus on this part of ACT at night?

During the day, if I'm feeling anxious I usually will take an action like doing

something I'm afraid of or have been putting off. Or taking care of my body by

exercising, or connecting with someone...etc. At night, all I want is to feel

comfortable enough to go to sleep and this is challenging when I'm feeling

anxious and on edge.

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> > >Please let me know if you need me to clarify -- I'm not sure if this is so

clear.

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> > >Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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> > >Best,

> > >Barbara

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