Re: Quiet yes to expeirience, nos and all ( was Re: Sorry to everyone for too many posts

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Henrik, thanks for asking. Really just sitting with the process and noticing how deliciously private and undramatic it is. Mostly now just noticing I'm alone with observations sometimes and just having that be okay without adding a bunch of stuff on top of it.Without trying to defend my experience, having it sound right, so others will agree or whatever. Learning to honor wherever I am, stand in that fully -- even (maybe especially) if my experience feels scary, lonely, unpopular, ignored by others. No drama. Saying fully yes to whatever pain is there, whatever joy is there. With no need to go further..Kind of like values, you

know?Gracefully, quietly, embracing it all. That's what I meant by the drama and being my age. I'm really noticing it's so not fruitful to explain, prove, reason my way through life. As if I could anyway! My experience is what it is. End of story! It's that simple.A really new and good thing to just be with. :-)Warm Regards,TerryTo: ACT_for_the_Public ; ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 2:36

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Interesting, Terry! do you want to do it publicly? I mean let it lead you to the goodies/values. What's on the other side of it?with warmthHenrik Yes, thanks for reminding me I'm part of the human race! It really isfunny. And serious. This stuff will lead me to many goodies, my valuesif I really let it inform me. :-)>> We've all done it. You gotta

laugh.>>>> ________________________________> > To: ACT_for_the_Public > <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%40yahoogroups.com>> Sent: Wednesday, 19 October 2011, 2:13> Subject: Sorry to everyone for too many posts>>> Â> I got hooked.>> I resign the drama club.>> Sorry for the commentary. I tried to delete what I could.>> Goodness, I just want to move forward and be my age. Can anyone> relate?>

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Terry, I love your words here. Much to reflect on and sit with.

Thanks,

Helena

To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Saturday, October 22, 2011 5:11:32 PMSubject: Re: Quiet yes to expeirience, nos and all ( was Re: Sorry to everyone for too many posts

Henrik, thanks for asking. Really just sitting with the process and noticing how deliciously private and undramatic it is.

Mostly now just noticing I'm alone with observations sometimes and just having that be okay without adding a bunch of stuff on top of it.

Without trying to defend my experience, having it sound right, so others will agree or whatever.

Learning to honor wherever I am, stand in that fully -- even (maybe especially) if my experience feels scary, lonely, unpopular, ignored by others.

No drama.

Saying fully yes to whatever pain is there, whatever joy is there. With no need to go further..Kind of like values, you know?Gracefully, quietly, embracing it all. That's what I meant by the drama and being my age. I'm really noticing it's so not fruitful to explain, prove, reason my way through life. As if I could anyway! My experience is what it is. End of story! It's that simple.

A really new and good thing to just be with. :-)

Warm Regards,

Terry

To: ACT_for_the_Public ; ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 2:36 PMSubject: Re: Re: Sorry to everyone for too many posts

Interesting, Terry! do you want to do it publicly? I mean let it lead you to the goodies/values. What's on the other side of it? with warmth

Henrik

Yes, thanks for reminding me I'm part of the human race! It really isfunny. And serious. This stuff will lead me to many goodies, my valuesif I really let it inform me. :-)>> We've all done it. You gotta laugh.>>>> ________________________________> > To: ACT_for_the_Public > <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%40yahoogroups.com>> Sent: Wednesday, 19 October 2011, 2:13> Subject: Sorry to everyone for too many posts>>> Â> I got hooked.>> I resign the drama club.>> Sorry for the commentary. I tried to delete what I could.>> Goodness, I just want to move forward and be my age. Can anyone> relate?>

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Thank you Terry,

It sounds like a great process you're in.

I can relate to: "Learning to honor wherever I am, stand in that fully -- even (maybe especially) if my experience feels scary, lonely, unpopular, ignored by others. "

The pull to do the opposite that is there for me all the freaking time: do what "feels safe", trying to be a part (even at the expense of my inner hunches), trying to be popular, trying to get attention - all sounds like narcissism. The pull to act that way is enormous and also unconcious.

Warm regards,

Henrik

Henrik, thanks for asking. Really just sitting with the process and noticing how deliciously private and undramatic it is.

Mostly now just noticing I'm alone with observations sometimes and just having that be okay without adding a bunch of stuff on top of it.

Without trying to defend my experience, having it sound right, so others will agree or whatever.

Learning to honor wherever I am, stand in that fully -- even (maybe especially) if my experience feels scary, lonely, unpopular, ignored by others.

No drama.

Saying fully yes to whatever pain is there, whatever joy is there. With no need to go further..Kind of like values, you know?Gracefully, quietly, embracing it all. That's what I meant by the drama and being my age. I'm really noticing it's so not fruitful to explain, prove, reason my way through life. As if I could anyway! My experience is what it is. End of story! It's that simple.

A really new and good thing to just be with. :-)

Warm Regards,

Terry

To: ACT_for_the_Public ; ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 2:36 PMSubject: Re: Re: Sorry to everyone for too many posts

Interesting, Terry! do you want to do it publicly? I mean let it lead you to the goodies/values. What's on the other side of it? with warmth

Henrik

Yes, thanks for reminding me I'm part of the human race! It really isfunny. And serious. This stuff will lead me to many goodies, my valuesif I really let it inform me. :-)>> We've all done it. You gotta laugh.>>>> ________________________________> > To: ACT_for_the_Public > <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%40yahoogroups.com>> Sent: Wednesday, 19 October 2011, 2:13> Subject: Sorry to everyone for too many posts>>> Â> I got hooked.>> I resign the drama club.>> Sorry for the commentary. I tried to delete what I could.>> Goodness, I just want to move forward and be my age. Can anyone> relate?>

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I've googled this and I see no posts on it.Could be a virus but if it was in Yahoo itself it would have posts from others about the problem.I can't find any

- S C. Foundation ProfessorDepartment of Psychology /298University of NevadaReno, NV 89557-0062 " Love isn't everything, it's the only thing "

hayes@... or stevenchayes@...Fax: Psych Department: Contextual Change (you can use this number for messages if need be):

Blogs: Psychology Today  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-out-your-mindHuffington Post  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steven-c-hayes-phd

If you want my vita, publications, PowerPoint slides, try my training page or my blog at the ACBS site:  http://www.contextualpsychology.org/steven_hayes

http://www.contextualpsychology.org/blog/steven_hayes or you can try my website (it is semi-functional) stevenchayes.com

If you have any questions about ACT or RFT (articles, AAQ information etc), please first check the vast resources at website of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS): www.contextualpsychology.org. You have to register on the site to download things, but the cost if up to your own values.

If you are a professional or student and want to be part of the world wide ACT discussion or RFT discussions go to http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy/join

orhttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/relationalframetheory/joinIf you are a member of the public reading ACT self-help books (e.g., " Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life " etc) and want to be part of the conversation go to: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join

 

LOL..although not so bad, heh?! :-)

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Thanks very much Steve. This

has been a very strange sort of violating feeling, rather uncomfortable

and I'm scratching my head about it and also looking to see what else comes up around this here with me. (Always an opportunity!) I had several responses for Henrik in my draft folder at one point a few weeks ago, which I use as a a quasi on-line journal of sorts. I had no intention to make these private thoughts public right now, (and perhaps never), but rather as noted here, just sit with them, which is new for me these days, a very valuable process. What's really odd is I haven't gone to the draft folder for a good many days now, more than a week..so no chance I accidentally hit send on one of them yesterday. In any case, thanks much for looking into it. warm regards,terryTo: ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Wednesday, November 2, 2011 8:55 PMSubject: Re: Quiet yes to expeirience, nos and all ( was Re: Sorry to everyone for too many posts

I've googled this and I see no posts on it.Could be a virus but if it was in Yahoo itself it would have posts from others about the problem.I can't find any

- S C. Foundation ProfessorDepartment of Psychology /298University of NevadaReno, NV 89557-0062"Love isn't everything, it's the only thing"

hayes@... or stevenchayes@...Fax: Psych Department: Contextual Change (you can use this number for messages if need be):

Blogs: Psychology Today http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-out-your-mindHuffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steven-c-hayes-phd

If you want my vita, publications, PowerPoint slides, try my training page or my blog at the ACBS site: http://www.contextualpsychology.org/steven_hayes

http://www.contextualpsychology.org/blog/steven_hayes or you can try my website (it is semi-functional) stevenchayes.com

If you have any questions about ACT or RFT (articles, AAQ information etc), please first check the vast resources at website of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS): www.contextualpsychology.org. You have to register on the site to download things, but the cost if up to your own values.

If you are a professional or student and want to be part of the world wide ACT discussion or RFT discussions go to http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy/join

orhttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/relationalframetheory/joinIf you are a member of the public reading ACT self-help books (e.g., "Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life" etc) and want to be part of the conversation go to: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join

LOL..although not so bad, heh?! :-)

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> > >> We've all done it. You gotta

> > laugh.

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> > >> ________________________________

> > >> From: "theresa.linder@" <theresa.linder@>

> > >> To: ACT_for_the_Public

> > >> <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%40yahoogroups.com>

> > >> Sent: Wednesday, 19 October 2011, 2:13

> > >> Subject: Sorry to everyone for too many posts

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> > >> Â

> > >> I got hooked.

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> > >> I resign the drama club.

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> > >> Sorry for the commentary. I tried to delete what I could.

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> > >> Goodness, I just want to move forward and be my age. Can anyone

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I enjoyed both your responses! ;-)Henrik Thanks very much Steve.This has been a very strange sort of violatingfeeling, rather uncomfortable and I'm scratching my head about it andalso looking to see what else comes up around this here with me.(Alwaysan opportunity!) I had several responses for Henrik in my draft folderat one point a few weeks ago, which I use as a a quasi on-line journalof sorts. I had no intention to make these private thoughts public rightnow, (and perhaps never), but rather as noted here, just sit with them,which is new for me these days, a very valuable process. What's reallyodd is I haven't gone to the draft folder for a good many days now, morethan a week..so no chance I accidentally hit send on one of themyesterday. In any case, thanks much for looking into it.warm regards,terryTo: ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Wednesday, November 2, 2011 8:55 PMSubject: Re: Quiet yes to expeirience, nos and all( was Re: Sorry to everyone for too many postsI've googled this and I see no posts on it.Could be a virus but if it was in Yahoo itself it wouldhave posts from others about the problem.I can't find any- S C. Foundation ProfessorDepartment of Psychology /298University of NevadaReno, NV 89557-0062"Love isn't everything, it's the only thing"Fax: Psych Department: Contextual Change (you can use this number for messages if need be):Blogs:Psychology Today http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-out-your-mindHuffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steven-c-hayes-phdIf you want my vita, publications, PowerPoint slides, try my trainingpage or my blog at the ACBS site:http://www.contextualpsychology.org/steven_hayeshttp://www.contextualpsychology.org/blog/steven_hayesor you can try my website (it is semi-functional)http://stevenchayes.comIf you have any questions about ACT or RFT (articles, AAQ informationetc), please first check the vast resources at website of theAssociation for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS):http://www.contextualpsychology.org. You have to register on the siteto download things, but the cost if up to your own values.If you are a professional or student and want to be part of the worldwide ACT discussion or RFT discussions go to<http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy/join>orhttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/relationalframetheory/joinIf you are a member of the public reading ACT self-help books (e.g.,"Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life" etc) and want to be part ofthe conversation go to:http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/joinOn Wed, Nov 2, 2011 at 5:50 PM, > wrote:> > > LOL..although not so bad, heh?! :-)> > > > > > > >>> > > >> We've all done it. You gotta> > > laugh.> > > >>> > > >>> > > >>> > > >> ________________________________> > > >> From: "theresa.linder@" <theresa.linder@>> > > >> To: ACT_for_the_Public > > > >> <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%40yahoogroups.com>> > > >> <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%40yahoogroups.com> > > >> <mailto:ACT_for_the_Public%2540yahoogroups.com>>> > > >> Sent: Wednesday, 19 October 2011, 2:13> > > >> Subject: Sorry to everyone for too many> > > >> posts> > > >>> > > >>> > > >> Â> > > >> I got hooked.> > > >>> > > >> I resign the drama club.> > > >>> > > >> Sorry for the commentary. I tried to delete what I could.> > > >>> > > >> Goodness, I just want to move forward and be my age. Can anyone> > > >> relate?> > > >>> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > >> >> > > > > >