Re: Men's Health article that includes some ACT ideas

[Guest guest]

Steve,

Thanks for the link. I like the author's bright and breezy style and the way he

mostly avoids jargon without dumbing down.

Cheers,

Stan

>

> This article might be of some interest

>

>

http://www.menshealth.com/**best-life/worrier-warrior<http://www.menshealth.com/\

best-life/worrier-warrior>

>

> - S

>

>

> C.

> Foundation Professor

> Department of Psychology /298

> University of Nevada

> Reno, NV 89557-0062

>

> " Love isn't everything, it's the only thing "

>

> hayes@... or stevenchayes@...

> Fax:

> Psych Department:

> Contextual Change (you can use this number for messages if need be): (775)

> 746-2013

>

> Blogs:

> *Psychology Today* http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-out-your-mind

> *Huffington Post * http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steven-c-hayes-phd

>

> If you want my vita, publications, PowerPoint slides, try my training

> page:

> http://www.contextualpsychology.org/steven_hayes

> or you can try my website (it is semi-functional) stevenchayes.com

>

> If you have any questions about ACT or RFT (articles, AAQ information etc),

> please first check the vast resources at website of the Association for

> Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS): www.contextualpsychology.org. You

> have to register on the site to download things, but the cost is up to your

> own values.

>

> If you are a professional or student and want to be part of the world wide

> ACT discussion or RFT discussions, join the ACT list:

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy/join

> or the RFT list:

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/relationalframetheory/join

>

> If you are a member of the public reading ACT self-help books (e.g., " Get

> Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life " etc) and want to be part of that

> conversation go to:

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join

>

[Guest guest]

I have a close friend who developed psoriasis which brought on a severe

depression. Doctors could not help his skin complaint and maybe because

his condition triggered BDD he stopped going out so much. Ten one day he

got badly beaten up and this made him agrophobic too. The doctors tried

all sorts of meds on him which didn't work that well. When I go around

to see him he looks fine, but he say's he has spent hours cleaning his

skin up. I have had BBD to, and still do a bit, so I know how painful it

must be for him.

Nowadays his house is in a mess and he just seems to get worse and now

he lives in the bedroom only. He takes no drugs because the last

antidepressants nearly destroyed his liver and it took him 6 months to

redcover. It is depressing going to see him and I fee lhelpless to help

him.

I think to myself if only he could make the effort and go ouy as he is

very good looking despite skin complaint. It would be enormously painful

for him but things would eventually change and he might get a

girlfriend. I gave him GOOYM once and he hated it and he said that was

people who are not that ill. I tell him to go and sit on the bench

outside because the sun can help his condition but every suggestion

frightens him.

I'm going throuh the mincer too, and it is agony, but I feel I now have

no other option. I now realise that when we avoid pain our lives get

dimished and we don't grow. I'm not saying we should invite all pain and

suffering. Minimise pain but try to do some things. I have wasted so

much of my life hoping time would heal but that did not happen. I just

kept becoming sad when I saw people my age so in love.

Through my efforts to meet people I now feel a lot more attractive. I

am begining to realise that I have inner resources and that I am

capable. I also now realise that loads of people have feelings like me

and that I am not unual. I'm beginning to accept myself. I do hope the

pain lessons soon, though, and that's hardly willingness, I know, bit I

do my best, ans someting seems to be working.

Kv

>

> This article might be of some interest

>

>

http://www.menshealth.com/**best-life/worrier-warrior<http://www.menshea\

lth.com/best-life/worrier-warrior>

>

> - S

>

>

> C.

> Foundation Professor

> Department of Psychology /298

> University of Nevada

> Reno, NV 89557-0062

>

> " Love isn't everything, it's the only thing "

>

> hayes@... or stevenchayes@...

> Fax:

> Psych Department:

> Contextual Change (you can use this number for messages if need be):

(775)

> 746-2013

>

> Blogs:

> *Psychology Today*

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-out-your-mind

> *Huffington Post * http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steven-c-hayes-phd

>

> If you want my vita, publications, PowerPoint slides, try my training

> page:

> http://www.contextualpsychology.org/steven_hayes

> or you can try my website (it is semi-functional) stevenchayes.com

>

> If you have any questions about ACT or RFT (articles, AAQ information

etc),

> please first check the vast resources at website of the Association

for

> Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS): www.contextualpsychology.org.

You

> have to register on the site to download things, but the cost is up to

your

> own values.

>

> If you are a professional or student and want to be part of the world

wide

> ACT discussion or RFT discussions, join the ACT list:

>

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy/join

> or the RFT list:

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/relationalframetheory/join

>

> If you are a member of the public reading ACT self-help books (e.g.,

" Get

> Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life " etc) and want to be part of that

> conversation go to:

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join

>

[Guest guest]

Due to exhaustion my last post was completely full of grammatical errors.

kv

> >

> > This article might be of some interest

> >

> >

> http://www.menshealth.com/**best-life/worrier-warrior<http://www.menshea\

> lth.com/best-life/worrier-warrior>

> >

> > - S

> >

> >

> > C.

> > Foundation Professor

> > Department of Psychology /298

> > University of Nevada

> > Reno, NV 89557-0062

> >

> > " Love isn't everything, it's the only thing "

> >

> > hayes@ or stevenchayes@

> > Fax:

> > Psych Department:

> > Contextual Change (you can use this number for messages if need be):

> (775)

> > 746-2013

> >

> > Blogs:

> > *Psychology Today*

> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-out-your-mind

> > *Huffington Post * http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steven-c-hayes-phd

> >

> > If you want my vita, publications, PowerPoint slides, try my training

> > page:

> > http://www.contextualpsychology.org/steven_hayes

> > or you can try my website (it is semi-functional) stevenchayes.com

> >

> > If you have any questions about ACT or RFT (articles, AAQ information

> etc),

> > please first check the vast resources at website of the Association

> for

> > Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS): www.contextualpsychology.org.

> You

> > have to register on the site to download things, but the cost is up to

> your

> > own values.

> >

> > If you are a professional or student and want to be part of the world

> wide

> > ACT discussion or RFT discussions, join the ACT list:

> >

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy/join

> > or the RFT list:

> > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/relationalframetheory/join

> >

> > If you are a member of the public reading ACT self-help books (e.g.,

> " Get

> > Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life " etc) and want to be part of that

> > conversation go to:

> > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join

> >

>