A question about emotions, values

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I have decided one of my values is being fit enough to enjoy things and people I

love in my life. I decide that at this time water exercise is the ideal ( back ,

knee issues) and may be fun as well.

Yet, when I attempt to carry though the plan of going that day, I get stuck. I

feel like I am litteraly cemented in like someone needs to wind me to make me

move. Yet, even if they did they would find my key so hard to turn if getting

the key to move at all. I come up with maybe you dont really want to , maybe

you need an extra umph, maybe your just not used to it, maybe your just too

tired,etc.

At this point, I am not sure what in me is holding me back. Anyone have this

happen? I did drive there yesterday but still didnot participate. I keep on

feeling that there is something that is bothering me that I just cant put my

finger on.

lin

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> >I have a question -- I think it may sound simplistic, but I can't think of

how to deal with this. I feel fairly grounded in my values and have seen how I

can move toward them regardless of my emotions (not always easy, but I see the

value in it and am doing it more and more). The time when this becomes

difficult is in the evening when I'm tired and winding down. This is a time

when I can end up feeling the feelings that I was perhaps too busy to feel

during the day (mostly anxiety.) However, when this happens at night -- how do

I move toward my values? Or do I not focus on this part of ACT at night?

During the day, if I'm feeling anxious I usually will take an action like doing

something I'm afraid of or have been putting off. Or taking care of my body by

exercising, or connecting with someone...etc. At night, all I want is to feel

comfortable enough to go to sleep and this is challenging when I'm feeling

anxious and on edge.

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> >Please let me know if you need me to clarify -- I'm not sure if this is so

clear.

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> >Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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> >Best,

> >Barbara

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