A Question Regarding Values

[Guest guest]

Here's a dilemma that I'm facing: how do I know when to do something that is

valued, like being caring and honest with those close to me, without this

meaning giving in to OCD urges to be truthful, or merely being fused with

thoughts, e.g., " I can't keep things from my parents and still be a good son. " ,

In reference to a difficult experience I had a few years ago.