RE: Re: Byron and ACT

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I am so glad to see someone getting it. Its about loving what is at the present moment ( because thats all we really have) or where we are right now. I use ir when I cant let go of my feelings- a defusion technique-yes. Yet it helps me really look at the judgement I am making. ( examples: I cant go swimming because I am too fat, I am upset because My husband needs to get up from the couch and be more productive) Then it helps me accept not only what I am feeling but what someone else is doing. Then I am more ready to change my actions.

It may not fit in all cases but I do believe in the work.

Lin

To: ACT_for_the_Public From: DarrellGKing@...Date: Fri, 30 Sep 2011 06:41:26 -0400Subject: Re: Re: Byron and ACT

I liked that.D

"I look now to make room for it, honor it, give it (and me) lots of breathing space, learn from it. It's all grist for the mill. It's really about expansion of all of me, not trying to change anymore."Here is a quick example where I used BK's method today when I was in the grips of anxiety, because of trying to control it, and resist it....you tell me if you think it helps me to "honor" my experience or "talks myself out of my experience""I shouldn't be having this anxiety, is this true?" - Well, I can't absolutely know that, so NO"How do I feel when I believe I shouldn't be having this anxiety, yet I am" - I resist it"Who would I be without this thought that I shouldn't be having this anxiety" - Accepting, ok with itTurn around"I should be having this anxiety" - well yes, because I am (reality)(that was all that I needed...it vanished for the rest of the day)> >> > I was trying not to respond but i think I have something to offer. My knowledge of Byron came from these postings. I think it was that suggested her to me It helped me defuse from my own thoughts, move toward my values ,etc. However, I did read an ACT book first. Maybe becasue I had read ACT first, I got Byron . I am sure what we get out of a book is differant for everyone just like our thoughts. > > There is many free resources for Byron other then Amazon. http://www.byronkatie.com. Blog, newsletters and downloads that brings up some examples that has been written down here. > > > > I have invited several friends to listen, they too believe she has something. Does she have all the answers -No- in fact she invites you to find your own answers- you do the work. > > Thats just my opinion on Byron . I dont want to make this a Byron site either as ACT has much to offer. If you google ACT, there are many free resources also. Excerpts from book, entire chapters, downloads, I often see new informational links and read others understanding of how to use ACT tools. Al have been a help in my own understanding.> > Each persons' problems, suggestions and feedback have a lot to offer. I am so gratefull to be a small part of it. > > I am off to kripala to attend Byron 's workshop this weekend. if there was a workshop on ACT in my area (CT - How about it?) , I would definetly go.> > Lin> >>