Re: Accepting your unacceptance

[Guest guest]

I get what you are saying! I know you are speaking to the group and not just to

me but since I am taking a " therapy " day from work today, I am spending a lot of

time online with the group in hopes of wrapping my head around this a little

better! How could I shift my perspective with regards to my anxiety? Accept the

fact that it is difficult to accept the anxiety? I think somewhere here I am

judging myself for having times when anxiety gets the best of me and slows me

off of my normal pace. See, that is judging right there isn't it? I consider one

pace acceptable and another as unacceptable. Remembering 's sitting on your

hands helps me a little but it is so easy for me to slip into how I am supposed

to be!!!!

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> It can take a long time to accept something that one truly deems to be

> " negative " states of being...it's takes a real shift in perspective to be able

to see how those states are actually here to serve you, and help you grow and

mature as a human being...how it's our thoughts about these states that make

them " negative " , and cause our resistance to them, and not the state itself

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> Often times we resist our own resistance to them, and it just creates a

vicious cycle

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> So until then, try accepting your unacceptance of them...the unacceptance is

quite understandable is it not, given everything you've been through...years of

pain, suffering, and wired conditioning at work here, that don't generally just

reverse overnight...

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> Best,

> VC

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[Guest guest]

yes, do just that...accept that this is hard for you...

accept our shared humanness...that we all want to be happy and suffer less...

accept that we aren't perfect creatures that always have it all together, yet

want everyone to think we are because we are afraid they won't love us if they

met our vulnerabilities

accept that if it's there, that it should be there, if only because it is

accept that it goes against the grain of what we have learned our whole lives,

to allow these states to be, instead of fighting back like we can in the outside

world

if your anxiety was a child, how would you treat her...with love and affection,

or with scorn and hate? Would you tell her everything is going to be ok, that

she can handle this, or would you push her away and tell her that something is

wrong with her?

ask yourself what would love do in this situation, and then give it to yourself

question the thought that says " Im supposed to be perfect all the time " ...it's

untrue

this is self-love and compassion at work

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> > It can take a long time to accept something that one truly deems to be

> > " negative " states of being...it's takes a real shift in perspective to be

able to see how those states are actually here to serve you, and help you grow

and mature as a human being...how it's our thoughts about these states that make

them " negative " , and cause our resistance to them, and not the state itself

> >

> > Often times we resist our own resistance to them, and it just creates a

vicious cycle

> >

> > So until then, try accepting your unacceptance of them...the unacceptance is

quite understandable is it not, given everything you've been through...years of

pain, suffering, and wired conditioning at work here, that don't generally just

reverse overnight...

> >

> > Best,

> > VC

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