Re: I stayed with anxiety, looked in deep and found something

[Guest guest]

I have found this myself and have written about it several times on here.

Anxiety to me, is like a child who is looking for security, and just wants to

know everything is going to be OK.

And crying is in fact what children do when they are scared, as it is our

natural and literal release of fear. You get hurt, you cry, it's over. Sometimes

we start suppressing this, especially when you don't have the necessary love and

security from parents to feel comfortable letting go and releasing. You feel

like you have to stay strong for yourself. As we grow older, it becomes taboo to

show our emotions, and we are taught to keep it together, so crying can become

much harder to do.

So personally, when anxiety comes up, I try to remember to treat is with the

love and security that is being looked for by that previous child I was.

Sometimes I imagine hugging my child self, and letting him know everything is

going to be OK, and that is completely understandable that I feel scared

considering, but that I am an adult now, and I have the tools to take care of,

and protect myself.

I think it is a really great technique to start to develop self love and

compassion for yourself, and also to accept this scared side of you.

Best

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> I was with some anxiety. I looked in deeply. I have noticed lately that where

there is panic, anxiety, there is a deep urge to cry that doesn't surface but I

feel it, its like round my sinus area (wonder if that is why I have chronic

sinusitis). in ACT you are encouraged to treat your pain and fear like a child.

The thing is, when I looked in deep into my pain, I have actually discovered a

child. A poor innocent crying in fear, it was me, it was me as a child. And my

first urge was of guilt, this child has been crying  for years and all I have

done is found ways to turn my back on her! I felt the need to hug,to kneel down

at her level,and I actually talked out loud as I soothed this crying child and

cried myself. I felt like I was the grownup, and this unattended pain and fear

the child. It was a painful and emotional experience, not too long, but Its

still there, I can feel it with me. My poor darling me that is still a child, I

will be there for

> you. This time I will.

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> ______________________Signature: Mrs Em Equanimity 

> This is my personal blog where I record my experience applying Acceptance

Commitment Therapy to my anxiety and agoraphobia in particular, and my life in

general. Feel free to browse. 

>

> http://eyeofthehurricane-act.blogspot.com/

>

[Guest guest]

And another thing, if you are having trouble crying. I would just bring your

awareness into that feeling when you are feeling it. No effort, no trying to

elicit something, or expectations. Just allow your awareness to penetrate it,

and see what happens.

Often I find, an image or memory will come, that is looking to be released.

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> > I was with some anxiety. I looked in deeply. I have noticed lately that

where there is panic, anxiety, there is a deep urge to cry that doesn't surface

but I feel it, its like round my sinus area (wonder if that is why I have

chronic sinusitis). in ACT you are encouraged to treat your pain and fear like a

child. The thing is, when I looked in deep into my pain, I have

actually discovered a child. A poor innocent crying in fear, it was me, it was

me as a child. And my first urge was of guilt, this child has been crying  for

years and all I have done is found ways to turn my back on her! I felt the need

to hug,to kneel down at her level,and I actually talked out loud as I soothed

this crying child and cried myself. I felt like I was the grownup, and this

unattended pain and fear the child. It was a painful and emotional experience,

not too long, but Its still there, I can feel it with me. My poor darling me

that is still a child, I will be there for

> > you. This time I will.

> >

> > ______________________Signature: Mrs Em Equanimity 

> > This is my personal blog where I record my experience applying Acceptance

Commitment Therapy to my anxiety and agoraphobia in particular, and my life in

general. Feel free to browse. 

> >

> > http://eyeofthehurricane-act.blogspot.com/

> >

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