working with limitations

[Guest guest]

What you say below is true for many - I can't count how many career change

choices I've given thought to, got excited about, investigated and then had the

sad realization set in that I would not be able to perform the duties required.

It's heart-aching at the time, but all that work does help lead you to what you

either need to do (in your case, take care of yourself) or to an adjacent or

complimentary field where you could work. Glass half full ...

I still think it's a good idea to come up with ideas to help others - you never

know what talents others possess and just putting ideas out there may be what

someone needs to supplement their income and/or make their lives more fulfilled.

Kathy

Re: working w/taking narcotics or any meds

Yep I am totally good with agreeing to disagree. No hard feelings towards

anyone and I apologize to if I overstepped my bounds or came across too

harsh. I recently went through something very similar after my last surgery. I

was doing SO GOOD!!!

I immediately started making plans to go to massage school, I was so

excited!!!! I went to several schools interviewing and such and checked into VR

etc. Then my nerves woke up. Then the reality of sitting in class for 8 hours

set in (even alternating sitting and standing....just committing to being

anywhere upright for 8 hours day after day is not possible as I would be in bed

for a week after the first day LOL) Then I realized that even if I did make it

through school..patients would be counting on me to be there 100% and there are

just too many days that no matter how hard I tried I would not be able to give

them that. Then I realized the toll I was about to put on my system and that I

would be doing more harm than good. It was a hard fall. My friends and family

told me after the fact....we thought you were cutting off waaaay more than you

could chew.

But....I changed the dream. Being a caregiver, of course I want to help people

but I have to help myself first or there is nothing to give. Now I focus on ways

that I can help that dont hurt me and make me suffer or cause further damage.

, I have been very concerned about you with your pain and knots and

arm/hand numbness and dropping things and brain scans etc...being the Mama bear

that I am, I just want you to get better not cause yourself more pain and

stress. You are so young! and have so much further to go...

I hope you find something that you love to do that is kind and gentle to your

body.

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> I'll agree to disagree because for every research paper I can produce that

> states the same as I do, there is another one stating the opposite.

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> Kathy

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