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Hi ,

Regarding your question about Celexa, I was on that for years for depression with good results for treating my depression and no side effects - but be aware that there can be undesirable side effects in some people. I think there may be other meds more appropriate for anxiety that are faster-acting and for short-term use. I once took Klonopin as needed, and it did wonders for me and I only had to take it a couple of times a week when I was really stressed out. So I would suggest that you ask his doctor if something else may be more appropriate for anxiety rather than starting with a drug for depression that may be required long-term and may be difficult to go off of in the future. However, I am not the doctor and maybe he or she feels that depression is the unlying cause of the anxiety your son is experiencing, but your description did not sound as though that is the case. A lot of doctors aren't really savvy about psychotropic meds, so be sure you find one who is and also one who isn't just about prescribing meds for everything automatically.

I think the book you suggested is great. Anything by Russ is excellent and easy to understand as an introduction to ACT. I would also suggest The Happiness Trap for a newbie to ACT.

You can let him know that he may indeed always have such thoughts as never being able to find a great job or girlfriend, but those thoughts aren't necessarily true and can't have any power if he learns to view them as just his mind jerking him around; it is over-reacting to a perceived threat when there is none - minds do that. He can move forward with action toward his values in his work and relationships, which is the only way he will one day achieve his goals, and let his mind chatter on as it may while he does that. Eventually, he will just notice his mind chattering in the background and not let it get in the way of valued living. In time, the mind chatter may lessen or go away, but that should not be the expectation; acceptance (allowing what is to just be) is called for rather than trying to change what is.

I hope this is helpful in some way. Hard to know what to say! I have never had any success in introducing my sisters to ACT, but I let them know how it is working for me anyway. They get the concept (superficially) but don't want to really do the work it takes to practice it. If your son is like that, perhaps you will only show him what it's all about by living it and being an example.

Helena

From: " Vanbuskirk" <leslie.vanbuskirk>To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Saturday, January 21, 2012 3:46:05 PMSubject: my son

Well, I haven't been on here in a while!! Been having more success with my practice of accepting and defusion. Well, nothing lasts forever as we all know. During the time that my 28 year old son was home for Christmas, he said some things that gave me the inkling that he was beginning to have some anxiety struggles. I didn't know how to approach the subject with him, so before he left I just told him that what he might sometime be feeling was normal, everybody had those feelings. Well, I thought he seemed, from his phone calls, to be doing pretty well. Then this past Tuesday night, he called and said he had had one of those anxious days and just began sobbing. I have not heard him cry like that since he was a little boy. I tried to pull all of my ACT info out of my head but it is hard to explain to someone else!! He finally said, can I just come home. He had personal and sick time he could take off. I said of course. He came Wednesday afternoon and is in quite a state of anxiety. He is very nauseated and can hardly eat and the anxiety feels overwhelming. I decided to call a doctor friend and he prescribed Celexa for him. He began that yesterday but he is still so frozen with the anxiety. He has never done this before and is just paralyzed by the fear of never feeling better. I know a lot of what I am saying is not what ACT would say, I know he needs to get better at feeling but at this point he really does just need to feel a little better before he can begin processing ACT. He bought the Confidence Gap? Do yall think that is a good intro to ACT for someone who is not at all familiar with it? Also, anyone have any luck with Celexa? It is so hard for me to know what to say. I feel like sometimes my explaining of ACT has made it worse. For instance he said to me, you mean I am never going to quit thinking that I'll never find a good job or stop thinking I'll never find a girl to be in a relationship? I think I have just confused him!!HELP!!!

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Oh Helena thanks for the response but the longer he is here and the more he

opens up I see he has been struggling for several months and it just now has

gotten to a point of crisis. I think he does have symptoms of depression

possibly brought on by anxiety. He is hardly able to eat and is not sleeping

much. He really is not able to function on his job right now, so I think he

needs the long term medication. He is so overwhelmed by the uncomfortable

feelings that he is stuck,only able to concentrate on how miserable he is. I

know that feeling all too well but I don't know how to help him without him

feeling like I am pushing him. IT is so hard, I want him to feel better but I

don't know what words are going to give him comfort and relief!!!

>

>

>

> Hi ,

>

>  

>

> Regarding your question about Celexa , I was on that for years for depression

with good results for treating my depression and no side effects - but be aware

that there can be undesirable side effects in some people.  I think there may

be other meds more appropriate for anxiety that are faster-acting and for

short-term use.  I once took Klonopin as needed, and it did wonders for me and

I only had to take it a  couple of times a week when I was really stressed

out.  So I would suggest that you ask his doctor if something else may be

more appropriate for anxiety rather than starting with a drug for depression

that may be required long-term and may be difficult to go off of in the

future.  However, I am not the doctor and maybe he or she feels that depression

is the unlying cause of the anxiety your son is experiencing, but your

description did not sound as though that is the case.  A lot of doctors aren't

really savvy about psychotropic meds, so be sure you find one who is and also

one who isn't just about prescribing meds for everything automatically.

>

>  

>

> I think the book you suggested is great.  Anything by Russ is

excellent and easy to understand as an introduction to ACT.  I would also

suggest The Happiness Trap for a newbie to ACT.

>

>  

>

> You can let him know that he may indeed always have such thoughts as never

being able to find a great job or girlfriend, but those thoughts aren't

necessarily true and can't have any  power if he learns to view them as just

his mind jerking him around; it is over-reacting to a perceived threat when

there is none - minds do that.  He can move forward with action toward his

values in his work and relationships, which is the only way he will one day

achieve his goals, and let his mind chatter on as it may while he does that. 

Eventually, he will just notice his mind chattering in the background and not

let it get in the way of valued living.  In time, the mind chatter may lessen

or go away, but that should not  be the expectation; acceptance (allowing what

is to just be) is called for rather than trying to change what is.

>

>  

>

> I hope this is helpful in some way.  Hard to know what to say!  I have never

had any success in introducing my sisters to ACT, but I let them know how it is

working for me anyway.  They get the concept (superficially) but don't want to

really do the work it takes to practice it.  If your son is like that, perhaps

you will only show him what it's all about by living it and being an example.

>

>  

>

> Helena

>

>

>

> my son

>

>  

>

>

>

>

> Well, I haven't been on here in a while!! Been having more success with my

practice of accepting and defusion. Well, nothing lasts forever as we all know.

During the time that my 28 year old son was home for Christmas, he said some

things that gave me the inkling that he was beginning to have some anxiety

struggles. I didn't know how to approach the subject with him, so before he left

I just told him that what he might sometime be feeling was normal, everybody had

those feelings. Well, I thought he seemed, from his phone calls, to be doing

pretty well. Then this past Tuesday night, he called and said he had had one of

those anxious days and just began sobbing. I have not heard him cry like that

since he was a little boy. I tried to pull all of my ACT info out of my head but

it is hard to explain to someone else!! He finally said, can I just come home.

He had personal and sick time he could take off. I said of course. He came

Wednesday afternoon and is in quite a state of anxiety. He is very nauseated and

can hardly eat and the anxiety feels overwhelming. I decided to call a doctor

friend and he prescribed Celexa for him. He began that yesterday but he is still

so frozen with the anxiety. He has never done this before and is just paralyzed

by the fear of never feeling better. I know a lot of what I am saying is not

what ACT would say, I know he needs to get better at feeling but at this point

he really does just need to feel a little better before he can begin processing

ACT. He bought the Confidence Gap? Do yall think that is a good intro to ACT for

someone who is not at all familiar with it? Also, anyone have any luck with

Celexa ? It is so hard for me to know what to say. I feel like sometimes my

explaining of ACT has made it worse. For instance he said to me, you mean I am

never going to quit thinking that I'll never find a good job or stop thinking

I'll never find a girl to be in a relationship? I think I have just confused

him!!HELP!!!

>

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I appreciate everything you have said. This is new territory for me, knowing how

to be there for my child when he is suffering. I always wondered if my children

would go through this like I have and been scared to death that it would happen

to them. God, I want to help. I need to know how to be supportive without

causing him more stress. You may be right about the anxiety med. Was Klonopin

the only one you tried? Do you think it is better or about the same as Ativan or

Xanax?

So far, it hasn't sucked my down the tubes. Now I can't say that I am not

worried sick about him, I think I need to be able to allow myself to have those

feelings. I have to feel what I feel. I think it is natural for me to want to

figure out a way to help him get rid of this. My sleeping and appetite are out

of whack too. But is it not ACT consistent to let myself feel upset about my the

terrible hurt my child is enduring? Don't I need to allow myself to have those

uncomfortable feelings? Thanks so much for your responses, that is what I need

now more than anything, just some dialogue to help me while we go through

this!!!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi ,

> >

> >  

> >

> > Regarding your question about Celexa , I was on that for years for

depression with good results for treating my depression and no side effects -

but be aware that there can be undesirable side effects in some people.  I

think there may be other meds more appropriate for anxiety that are

faster-acting and for short-term use.  I once took Klonopin as needed, and it

did wonders for me and I only had to take it a  couple of times a week when I

was really stressed out.  So I would suggest that you ask his doctor if

something else may be more appropriate for anxiety rather than starting with a

drug for depression that may be required long-term and may be difficult to go

off of in the future.  However, I am not the doctor and maybe he or she feels

that depression is the unlying cause of the anxiety your son is experiencing,

but your description did not sound as though that is the case.  A lot of

doctors aren't really savvy about psychotropic meds, so be sure you find

one who is and also one who isn't just about prescribing meds for

everything automatically.

> >

> >  

> >

> > I think the book you suggested is great.  Anything by Russ

is excellent and easy to understand as an introduction to ACT.  I would also

suggest The Happiness Trap for a newbie to ACT.

> >

> >  

> >

> > You can let him know that he may indeed always have such thoughts as never

being able to find a great job or girlfriend, but those thoughts aren't

necessarily true and can't have any  power if he learns to view them as

just his mind jerking him around; it is over-reacting to a perceived threat

when there is none - minds do that.  He can move forward with action

toward his values in his work and relationships, which is the only way he

will one day achieve his goals, and let his mind chatter on as it may while he

does that.  Eventually, he will just notice his mind chattering in the

background and not let it get in the way of valued living.  In time, the mind

chatter may lessen or go away, but that should not  be the expectation;

acceptance (allowing what is to just be) is called for rather than trying to

change what is.

> >

> >  

> >

> > I hope this is helpful in some way.  Hard to know what to say!  I have

never had any success in introducing my sisters to ACT, but I let them know how

it is working for me anyway.  They get the concept (superficially) but don't

want to really do the work it takes to practice it.  If your son is like

that, perhaps you will only show him what it's all about by living it and being

an example.

> >

> >  

> >

> > Helena

> >

> >

> >

> > my son

> >

> >  

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Well, I haven't been on here in a while!! Been having more success with my

practice of accepting and defusion. Well, nothing lasts forever as we all know.

During the time that my 28 year old son was home for Christmas, he said some

things that gave me the inkling that he was beginning to have some anxiety

struggles. I didn't know how to approach the subject with him, so before he left

I just told him that what he might sometime be feeling was normal, everybody had

those feelings. Well, I thought he seemed, from his phone calls, to be doing

pretty well. Then this past Tuesday night, he called and said he had had one of

those anxious days and just began sobbing. I have not heard him cry like that

since he was a little boy. I tried to pull all of my ACT info out of my head but

it is hard to explain to someone else!! He finally said, can I just come home.

He had personal and sick time he could take off. I said of course. He came

Wednesday afternoon and is in quite a state of anxiety. He is very nauseated and

can hardly eat and the anxiety feels overwhelming. I decided to call a doctor

friend and he prescribed Celexa for him. He began that yesterday but he is still

so frozen with the anxiety. He has never done this before and is just paralyzed

by the fear of never feeling better. I know a lot of what I am saying is not

what ACT would say, I know he needs to get better at feeling but at this point

he really does just need to feel a little better before he can begin processing

ACT. He bought the Confidence Gap? Do yall think that is a good intro to ACT for

someone who is not at all familiar with it? Also, anyone have any luck with

Celexa ? It is so hard for me to know what to say. I feel like sometimes my

explaining of ACT has made it worse. For instance he said to me, you mean I am

never going to quit thinking that I'll never find a good job or stop thinking

I'll never find a girl to be in a relationship? I think I have just confused

him!!HELP!!!

> >

>

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It is just so hard to watch him suffer!! Right now he has just had 3 days of

Celexa and has taken .25 of ativan today. That has relaxed him some but he has

just been on the couch all day. He feels so frozen by it all and I understand

that. I don't know whether to try and push him to get up and do something or

just let him " sit on his hands " as says. I think right now it is ok

to just let him lay there and be gentle with himself. That is such a fine line.

I want him to be compassionate with himself and not be hard on himself, so does

it make sense to just let him be right now? Or is he not going to get better

until he gets moving??? Such a quandry as to what to help him with!!!!

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Hi ,

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > > Regarding your question about Celexa , I was on that for years for

depression with good results for treating my depression and no side effects -

but be aware that there can be undesirable side effects in some

people.  I think there may be other meds more appropriate for anxiety

that are faster-acting and for short-term use.  I once took Klonopin as

needed, and it did wonders for me and I only had to take it a  couple of

times a week when I was really stressed out.  So I would suggest

that you ask his doctor if something else may be more appropriate for

anxiety rather than starting with a drug for depression that may be required

long-term and may be difficult to go off of in the future.  However, I am

not the doctor and maybe he or she feels that depression is the unlying cause of

the anxiety your son is experiencing, but your description did not sound as

though that is the case.  A lot of doctors aren't really savvy about

psychotropic meds, so be sure you find one who is and also one who

isn't just about prescribing meds for everything automatically.

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > > I think the book you suggested is great.  Anything by

Russ is excellent and easy to understand as an introduction to

ACT.  I would also suggest The Happiness Trap for a newbie to ACT.

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > > You can let him know that he may indeed always have such thoughts as never

being able to find a great job or girlfriend, but those thoughts aren't

necessarily true and can't have any  power if he learns to view

them as just his mind jerking him around; it is over-reacting to a

perceived threat when there is none - minds do that.  He can move forward

with action toward his values in his work and relationships, which is the

only way he will one day achieve his goals, and let his mind chatter on as it

may while he does that.  Eventually, he will just notice his mind

chattering in the background and not let it get in the way of valued

living.  In time, the mind chatter may lessen or go away, but that should

not  be the expectation; acceptance (allowing what is to just be) is

called for rather than trying to change what is.

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > > I hope this is helpful in some way.  Hard to know what to

say!  I have never had any success in introducing my sisters to ACT, but

I let them know how it is working for me anyway.  They get the concept

(superficially) but don't want to really do the work it takes to practice

it.  If your son is like that, perhaps you will only show him what it's

all about by living it and being an example.

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > > Helena

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > my son

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Well, I haven't been on here in a while!! Been having more success with my

practice of accepting and defusion. Well, nothing lasts forever as we all know.

During the time that my 28 year old son was home for Christmas, he said some

things that gave me the inkling that he was beginning to have some anxiety

struggles. I didn't know how to approach the subject with him, so before he left

I just told him that what he might sometime be feeling was normal, everybody had

those feelings. Well, I thought he seemed, from his phone calls, to be doing

pretty well. Then this past Tuesday night, he called and said he had had one of

those anxious days and just began sobbing. I have not heard him cry like that

since he was a little boy. I tried to pull all of my ACT info out of my head but

it is hard to explain to someone else!! He finally said, can I just come home.

He had personal and sick time he could take off. I said of course. He came

Wednesday afternoon and is in quite a state of anxiety. He is very nauseated and

can hardly eat and the anxiety feels overwhelming. I decided to call a doctor

friend and he prescribed Celexa for him. He began that yesterday but he is still

so frozen with the anxiety. He has never done this before and is just paralyzed

by the fear of never feeling better. I know a lot of what I am saying is not

what ACT would say, I know he needs to get better at feeling but at this point

he really does just need to feel a little better before he can begin processing

ACT. He bought the Confidence Gap? Do yall think that is a good intro to ACT for

someone who is not at all familiar with it? Also, anyone have any luck with

Celexa ? It is so hard for me to know what to say. I feel like sometimes my

explaining of ACT has made it worse. For instance he said to me, you mean I am

never going to quit thinking that I'll never find a good job or stop thinking

I'll never find a girl to be in a relationship? I think I have just confused

him!!HELP!!!

> > >

> >

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I get it and I have been telling him it is all ok, to be compassionate with

himself!!!! You are helping me so much by your helpful responses. I hope I am

not going over some posting limit because I really need this forum right now. It

is so nice to know it is here!!! It is hard to explain the being ok with his

pain right now to him. I understand that it is hard to be gentle right now but

he doesn't of course since he is not familiar with ACT. He asked me today if it

was weird to think you are being selfish to be anxious. That about killed me. I

said that is just your mind telling you that but it is just what the feeling of

anxiety is telling you right now. I said you are not selfish it is normal to

have these thoughts and feelings. But I didn't get too much into the let your

mind chatter in the background. Don't think he is ready for that. I think he

would interpret me as saying he has to endure or put up with the thoughts and I

don't want to put that on him right now. Does my response sound ok?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Hi ,

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > Regarding your question about Celexa , I was on that for years for

depression with good results for treating my depression and no side effects -

but be aware that there can beÃÆ'‚ undesirable side effects in some

people.ÃÆ'‚  I think there may be other meds more appropriate for

anxiety that are faster-acting and for short-term use.ÃÆ'‚  I once

took Klonopin as needed, and it did wonders for me and I only had to take it

aÃÆ'‚  couple of times a week when I was really stressed

out.ÃÆ'‚  SoÃÆ'‚ I would suggest that you

askÃÆ'‚ his doctor if something else may be more appropriate for

anxiety rather than starting with a drug for depression that may be required

long-term and may be difficult to go off of in the future.ÃÆ'‚ 

However, I am not the doctor and maybe he or she feels that depression is the

unlying cause of the anxiety your son is experiencing, but your description did

not sound as though that is the case.ÃÆ'‚  A lot of doctors aren't

really savvy about psychotropic meds, so be sure you find

oneÃÆ'‚ who is and also one who isn'tÃÆ'‚ just about

prescribing meds for everything automatically.

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > I think the book you suggested

isÃÆ'‚ great.ÃÆ'‚  AnythingÃÆ'‚ by Russ

is excellent and easy to understand as an introduction to

ACT.ÃÆ'‚  I would also suggest The Happiness Trap for a newbie to

ACT.

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > You can let him know that he may indeed always have such thoughts as

never being able to find a great job or girlfriend, but those thoughts aren't

necessarily true and can't have anyÃÆ'‚  power if

heÃÆ'‚ learns to view them as just his

mindÃÆ'‚ jerking him around; it is over-reacting to a perceived

threat when there is none - minds do that.ÃÆ'‚  He can move forward

with action towardÃÆ'‚ his values in his work and relationships,

which is the only way he will one day achieve his goals, and let his mind

chatter on as it may while he does that.ÃÆ'‚  Eventually, he will

just notice his mind chattering in the background and not let it get in the way

of valued living.ÃÆ'‚  In time, the mind chatter may lessen or go

away, but that should notÃÆ'‚  be the expectation; acceptance

(allowing what is to just be) is called for rather than trying to change what

is.

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > I hope this is helpful in some way.ÃÆ'‚  Hard to know what

to say!ÃÆ'‚  I have never had any success in introducing my sisters

to ACT, but I let them know how it is working for me anyway.ÃÆ'‚ 

They get the concept (superficially) but don't want to really do the work it

takes to practice it.ÃÆ'‚  If your son is like that, perhaps you

will only show him what it's all about by living it and being an example.

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > Helena

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > my son

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Well, I haven't been on here in a while!! Been having more success with

my practice of accepting and defusion. Well, nothing lasts forever as we all

know. During the time that my 28 year old son was home for Christmas, he said

some things that gave me the inkling that he was beginning to have some anxiety

struggles. I didn't know how to approach the subject with him, so before he left

I just told him that what he might sometime be feeling was normal, everybody had

those feelings. Well, I thought he seemed, from his phone calls, to be doing

pretty well. Then this past Tuesday night, he called and said he had had one of

those anxious days and just began sobbing. I have not heard him cry like that

since he was a little boy. I tried to pull all of my ACT info out of my head but

it is hard to explain to someone else!! He finally said, can I just come home.

He had personal and sick time he could take off. I said of course. He came

Wednesday afternoon and is in quite a state of anxiety. He is very nauseated and

can hardly eat and the anxiety feels overwhelming. I decided to call a doctor

friend and he prescribed Celexa for him. He began that yesterday but he is still

so frozen with the anxiety. He has never done this before and is just paralyzed

by the fear of never feeling better. I know a lot of what I am saying is not

what ACT would say, I know he needs to get better at feeling but at this point

he really does just need to feel a little better before he can begin processing

ACT. He bought the Confidence Gap? Do yall think that is a good intro to ACT for

someone who is not at all familiar with it? Also, anyone have any luck with

Celexa ? It is so hard for me to know what to say. I feel like sometimes my

explaining of ACT has made it worse. For instance he said to me, you mean I am

never going to quit thinking that I'll never find a good job or stop thinking

I'll never find a girl to be in a relationship? I think I have just confused

him!!HELP!!!

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Your kindness helps me so much. THANKS!!!!!!!!

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Hi ,

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > Regarding your question about Celexa , I was on that for years for

depression with good results for treating my depression and no side effects -

but be aware that there can beÃÆ'‚ undesirable side effects in some

people.ÃÆ'‚  I think there may be other meds more appropriate for

anxiety that are faster-acting and for short-term use.ÃÆ'‚  I once

took Klonopin as needed, and it did wonders for me and I only had to take it

aÃÆ'‚  couple of times a week when I was really stressed

out.ÃÆ'‚  SoÃÆ'‚ I would suggest that you

askÃÆ'‚ his doctor if something else may be more appropriate for

anxiety rather than starting with a drug for depression that may be required

long-term and may be difficult to go off of in the future.ÃÆ'‚ 

However, I am not the doctor and maybe he or she feels that depression is the

unlying cause of the anxiety your son is

> experiencing, but your description did not sound as though that is the

case.ÃÆ'‚  A lot of doctors aren't really savvy about psychotropic

meds, so be sure you find oneÃÆ'‚ who is and also one who

isn'tÃÆ'‚ just about prescribing meds for everything automatically.

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > I think the book you suggested

isÃÆ'‚ great.ÃÆ'‚  AnythingÃÆ'‚ by Russ

is excellent and easy to understand as an introduction to

ACT.ÃÆ'‚  I would also suggest The Happiness Trap for a newbie to

ACT.

> > > >

> > > > ÃÆ'‚ 

> > > >

> > > > You can let him know that he may indeed always have such thoughts as

never being able to find a great job or girlfriend, but those thoughts aren't

necessarily true and can't have anyÃÆ'‚  power if

heÃÆ'‚ learns to view them as just his

mindÃÆ'‚ jerking him around; it is over-reacting to a perceived

threat when there is none - minds do that.ÃÆ'‚  He can move forward

with action towardÃÆ'‚ his values in his work and relationships,

which is the only way he will one day achieve his goals, and let his mind

chatter on as it may while he does that.ÃÆ'‚  Eventually, he will

just notice his mind chattering in the background and not let it get in the way

of valued living.ÃÆ'‚  In time, the mind chatter may lessen or go

away, but that should notÃÆ'‚  be the expectation; acceptance

(allowing what is to just be) is called for rather than trying to change what

> is.

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> > > > I hope this is helpful in some way.ÃÆ'‚  Hard to know what

to say!ÃÆ'‚  I have never had any success in introducing my sisters

to ACT, but I let them know how it is working for me anyway.ÃÆ'‚ 

They get the concept (superficially) but don't want to really do the work it

takes to practice it.ÃÆ'‚  If your son is like that, perhaps you

will only show him what it's all about by living it and being an example.

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> > > > Helena

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> > > > my son

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> > > > Well, I haven't been on here in a while!! Been having more success with

my practice of accepting and defusion. Well, nothing lasts forever as we all

know. During the time that my 28 year old son was home for Christmas, he said

some things that gave me the inkling that he was beginning to have some anxiety

struggles. I didn't know how to approach the subject with him, so before he left

I just told him that what he might sometime be feeling was normal, everybody had

those feelings. Well, I thought he seemed, from his phone calls, to be doing

pretty well. Then this past Tuesday night, he called and said he had had one of

those anxious days and just began sobbing. I have not heard him cry like that

since he was a little boy. I tried to pull all of my ACT info out of my head but

it is hard to explain to someone else!! He finally said, can I just come home.

He had personal and sick time he could take off. I said of course. He came

Wednesday afternoon and

> is in quite a state of anxiety. He is very nauseated and can hardly eat and

the anxiety feels overwhelming. I decided to call a doctor friend and he

prescribed Celexa for him. He began that yesterday but he is still so frozen

with the anxiety. He has never done this before and is just paralyzed by the

fear of never feeling better. I know a lot of what I am saying is not what ACT

would say, I know he needs to get better at feeling but at this point he really

does just need to feel a little better before he can begin processing ACT. He

bought the Confidence Gap? Do yall think that is a good intro to ACT for someone

who is not at all familiar with it? Also, anyone have any luck with Celexa ? It

is so hard for me to know what to say. I feel like sometimes my explaining of

ACT has made it worse. For instance he said to me, you mean I am never going to

quit thinking that I'll never find a good job or stop thinking I'll never find a

girl to be in a

> relationship? I think I have just confused him!!HELP!!!

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