Re: Search for meaning.....

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hi I didn't see any replies to this post, so i will give it a try.

I think " meaning " is found through our " engagement " in life, like engagement in

the little things, relationships, career, personal & spiritual growth, health,

etc etc, whatever it is you wish to value. It's when we shut ourselves out from

the World (like avoidance), that's when we stop engaging and from there it is a

quick trip down to depression and self imposed anxiety.

Whether or not you choose to do something about something or nothing at all,

either way it is still a choice. I am trying to choose to get a going... i think

there is a bob dylan song..

Awhile back I attended a celebration of life for a family friend, he left us way

too early. Not unlike the funeral exercises in ACT, it was about getting on w

the living, accepting " both sides of the coin " so to speak that life throws you

both pain and joy and that is simply how it is like or not, but along the way,

there is alot to enjoy if you allowed it in.

My sons attended also, i felt it was important that they experience and

acknowledge " both sides of the coin " , not to push the tough stuff away and not

to deal w it like the way i was raised, but to acknowledge both sides because

that is the way of the World, i dunno maybe build some personal and

psychological resiliency like ACT says, so that they can handle such stuff

better in their own future lives.

tc

[Guest guest]

Which post are you speaking to here? Don't see one attached to your comments.

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> hi I didn't see any replies to this post, so i will give it a try.

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> I think " meaning " is found through our " engagement " in life, like engagement

in the little things, relationships, career, personal & spiritual growth,

health, etc etc, whatever it is you wish to value. It's when we shut ourselves

out from the World (like avoidance), that's when we stop engaging and from there

it is a quick trip down to depression and self imposed anxiety.

>

> Whether or not you choose to do something about something or nothing at all,

either way it is still a choice. I am trying to choose to get a going... i think

there is a bob dylan song..

>

> Awhile back I attended a celebration of life for a family friend, he left us

way too early. Not unlike the funeral exercises in ACT, it was about getting on

w the living, accepting " both sides of the coin " so to speak that life throws

you both pain and joy and that is simply how it is like or not, but along the

way, there is alot to enjoy if you allowed it in.

>

> My sons attended also, i felt it was important that they experience and

acknowledge " both sides of the coin " , not to push the tough stuff away and not

to deal w it like the way i was raised, but to acknowledge both sides because

that is the way of the World, i dunno maybe build some personal and

psychological resiliency like ACT says, so that they can handle such stuff

better in their own future lives.

>

>

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> tc

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[Guest guest]

Lou:

happy to read that you are doing good.

I was about to email your regarding original post and I pushed cancel. hope u

did not receive that email.

there is 2 conflict value inside me, to be caring Vs allowing(not give

advice).to allowing means to let others freedom to search for answer.

when I resolve my own conflict, I keep on grow.

Cheers

Jess

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> True Tom,

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> Valued action is what really keeps me ticking and I'm not one to hold back (I

work with restraint somewhat unsuccessfully). I acknowledge that this journey

has had distinct legs/stages to it. Psychological flexibility is a great thing

to teach your children, I work with that too (better on some days than

others). I guess end of the day, it is impatience and frustration that trips

me. I'll be grateful to get to the next leg in this journey.

>  

> I got a great job recently that allows me to practice my one on one

interpersonal skills and for the most part, I lap it all up with pleasure and

privilege even when I mess up. I feel like my ability to relate and respond is

improving as I catch myself in all kinds of modes and come back to the person. I

too think that engagement in what you are doing is key as well. Mindfulness

practice changed the way I see and experience, (actually, continues to change).

I have my significant other, my daughter and derive limitless value from my

interactions with her, regardless of what happens. The next step is groups, so

I can practice the interpersonal skills in a different environment. In

relationships I choose to practice a lot and it does have meaning for sure, in

moments, definitely.

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> Sometimes it's a challenge to be patient while things unfold.

>  

> Thanks for the response,

>  

> Lou

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> Subject: Re: Search for meaning.....

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> hi I didn't see any replies to this post, so i will give it a try.

>

> I think " meaning " is found through our " engagement " in life, like engagement

in the little things, relationships, career, personal & spiritual growth,

health, etc etc, whatever it is you wish to value. It's when we shut ourselves

out from the World (like avoidance), that's when we stop engaging and from there

it is a quick trip down to depression and self imposed anxiety.

>

> Whether or not you choose to do something about something or nothing at all,

either way it is still a choice. I am trying to choose to get a going... i think

there is a bob dylan song..

>

> Awhile back I attended a celebration of life for a family friend, he left us

way too early. Not unlike the funeral exercises in ACT, it was about getting on

w the living, accepting " both sides of the coin " so to speak that life throws

you both pain and joy and that is simply how it is like or not, but along the

way, there is alot to enjoy if you allowed it in.

>

> My sons attended also, i felt it was important that they experience and

acknowledge " both sides of the coin " , not to push the tough stuff away and not

to deal w it like the way i was raised, but to acknowledge both sides because

that is the way of the World, i dunno maybe build some personal and

psychological resiliency like ACT says, so that they can handle such stuff

better in their own future lives.

>

> tc

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[Guest guest]

Hi

They do say that it is better if people can discover answers for themselves. However if the answer is really important for the person and the individual is not getting to it telling him is really best. Best wishes from your friend Francis

To: ACT_for_the_Public From: jessica_ye_au@...Date: Mon, 23 Jan 2012 10:41:32 +0000Subject: Re: Search for meaning.....

Lou:happy to read that you are doing good. :)I was about to email your regarding original post and I pushed cancel. hope u did not receive that email. :)there is 2 conflict value inside me, to be caring Vs allowing(not give advice).to allowing means to let others freedom to search for answer.when I resolve my own conflict, I keep on grow.CheersJess>> True Tom,>  > Valued action is what really keeps me ticking and I'm not one to hold back (I work with restraint somewhat unsuccessfully). I acknowledge that this journey has had distinct legs/stages to it. Psychological flexibility is a great thing to teach your children, I work with that too (better on some days than others). I guess end of the day, it is impatience and frustration that trips me. I'll be grateful to get to the next leg in this journey.>  > I got a great job recently that allows me to practice my one on one interpersonal skills and for the most part, I lap it all up with pleasure and privilege even when I mess up. I feel like my ability to relate and respond is improving as I catch myself in all kinds of modes and come back to the person. I too think that engagement in what you are doing is key as well. Mindfulness practice changed the way I see and experience, (actually, continues to change). I have my significant other, my daughter and derive limitless value from my interactions with her, regardless of what happens. The next step is groups, so I can practice the interpersonal skills in a different environment. In relationships I choose to practice a lot and it does have meaning for sure, in moments, definitely.>  > Sometimes it's a challenge to be patient while things unfold.>  > Thanks for the response,>  > Lou> > > ________________________________> > To: ACT_for_the_Public > Sent: Monday, 23 January 2012 1:12 AM> Subject: Re: Search for meaning.....> > >  > > hi I didn't see any replies to this post, so i will give it a try. > > I think "meaning" is found through our "engagement" in life, like engagement in the little things, relationships, career, personal & spiritual growth, health, etc etc, whatever it is you wish to value. It's when we shut ourselves out from the World (like avoidance), that's when we stop engaging and from there it is a quick trip down to depression and self imposed anxiety. > > Whether or not you choose to do something about something or nothing at all, either way it is still a choice. I am trying to choose to get a going... i think there is a bob dylan song.. > > Awhile back I attended a celebration of life for a family friend, he left us way too early. Not unlike the funeral exercises in ACT, it was about getting on w the living, accepting "both sides of the coin" so to speak that life throws you both pain and joy and that is simply how it is like or not, but along the way, there is alot to enjoy if you allowed it in.> > My sons attended also, i felt it was important that they experience and acknowledge "both sides of the coin", not to push the tough stuff away and not to deal w it like the way i was raised, but to acknowledge both sides because that is the way of the World, i dunno maybe build some personal and psychological resiliency like ACT says, so that they can handle such stuff better in their own future lives.> > tc>