Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Lou, we all need to dump from time to time. It's not what you're doing to us (in my opinon) that matters; it's what you're doing to yourself. And by sharing with us, perhaps you will find relief in the moment or some words from someone that will help you long-term. You do get back behind the steering wheel of your bus rather quickly these days, don't you? That's progress! Helena To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Monday, January 9, 2012 3:00:44 AMSubject: Sorry for dumping Well Guys,Here I sit again needing to apologise for my dysfunctional behaviour. I crashed pretty badly yesterday and dumped on you all AGAIN...damn it! I'm sorry to do that to y'all. It is no wonder people avoid me. Anyway...I resolve to do my best to keep that death stuff to myself. At least I notice it now and bounce back quicker.Lou Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Your posts are some of my favourite, Lou. There is no need to apologise as far as I'm concerned. I have been going through hell recently myself. Anyway I downloaded one of those on special offer ebooks on CBT for 99p the other day and in it was a case history where someone explained their problems in the most dramatic way and it was riveting reading. But why is it okay for her to tell her story like this, but when I do I feel guilty afterwards thinking that I am being sentimental, over dramatic, and just plain feeling sorry for myself. I'm only saying the truth, and I am not feeling sorry for myself as I am always full of hope. I see that you are feeling more hopeful today too. Anyway, I look forward to your future posts. Sometimes I read a post but there is no need for a reply. I could say thanks, but too many of these jam up the system. Not all posts need a reply, because some are self comtained. All the best, Kv > > Well Guys, > > Here I sit again needing to apologise for my dysfunctional behaviour. I crashed pretty badly yesterday and dumped on you all AGAIN...damn it! I'm sorry to do that to y'all. It is no wonder people avoid me. Anyway...I resolve to do my best to keep that death stuff to myself. At least I notice it now and bounce back quicker. > > Lou > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Has anyone worked out the difference between feeling sorry for yourself, and being self-compassionate? Both of them talk about how much the pain hurts, but one is quite destructive, whilst another can be a salve. One is submissive, one is accepting. I think I caught a glimpse in one of Russ's books:"This pain tells you something very important: that you’re alive, that you have a heart, that you care, and that there’s a gap between what you want and what you’ve got. And this is what all humans feel under such circumstances. It’s unpleasant. It hurts. And you don’t want it. And this is something you have in common with every other human being on the planet". x To: ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Monday, 9 January 2012, 11:30 Subject: Re: Sorry for dumping Your posts are some of my favourite, Lou. There is no need to apologiseas far as I'm concerned.I have been going through hell recently myself. Anyway I downloaded oneof those on special offer ebooks on CBT for 99p the other day and in itwas a case history where someone explained their problems in the mostdramatic way and it was riveting reading. But why is it okay for her totell her story like this, but when I do I feel guilty afterwards thinking that I am being sentimental, over dramatic, and just plainfeeling sorry for myself. I'm only saying the truth, and I am notfeeling sorry for myself as I am always full of hope. I see that you arefeeling more hopeful today too.Anyway, I look forward to your future posts.Sometimes I read a post but there is no need for a reply. I could saythanks, but too many of these jam up the system. Not all posts need areply, because some are self comtained.All the best,Kv>> Well Guys,>> Here I sit again needing to apologise for my dysfunctional behaviour.I crashed pretty badly yesterday and dumped on you all AGAIN...damn it!I'm sorry to do that to y'all. It is no wonder people avoid me.Anyway...I resolve to do my best to keep that death stuff to myself. Atleast I notice it now and bounce back quicker.>> Lou>------------------------------------For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.orgIf you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may unsubscribe by sending an email to ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links<*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/<*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional<*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join (Yahoo! ID required)<*> To change settings via email: ACT_for_the_Public-digest ACT_for_the_Public-fullfeatured <*> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Superb, , what is wrong in recognising how painful things are and then feeling brave but wanting to carry on. When I say to myself this is so bad, I am not feeling sorry for myself, but by aknowledging how severe this is I can then I see hope because I realise how much better things can be when I get through this. Thanks, Kv > > > > Well Guys, > > > > Here I sit again needing to apologise for my dysfunctional behaviour. > I crashed pretty badly yesterday and dumped on you all AGAIN...damn it! > I'm sorry to do that to y'all. It is no wonder people avoid me. > Anyway...I resolve to do my best to keep that death stuff to myself. At > least I notice it now and bounce back quicker. > > > > Lou > > > > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.org > > If you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may > unsubscribe by sending an email to > ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links > > > > Â Â http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Hi Lou, did you delete the post you are referring to? I can't find it, but I remember it. I don't know you well at all so at first reading I couldn't tell if your letter was 'just' poetic...examples interspersed with the hypothetical phrase 'kill me...' or really about hurting yourself. I am new to this group and don't know if there are `rules' about what you wrote. [i am in one group that prohibits writing about despair and suicide—explained that it is not the scope of the group and group participants aren't necessarily equipped to be able to handle such posts.] That aside. I don't think an apology is necessary, I hope to be able to post about my despondent episodes and difficulty in accepting those thoughts. I think it is much much better for you to share these thoughts then `try to be better' in the future and keep them to yourself. I think they need to see the light of day, and the light of our reading them. Please don't keep them to yourself. Best, Wanda in New Mexico Well Guys, > > 'Here I sit again needing to apologise'> Lou > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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