Being social-Friends- TC-Pain

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone,

Well now that I am feeling a bit more like myself I have started to notice

something strange. People are very upset with me, and the fact that I can't

drink, I can't dance till 4am in high heels... and I am very slowly getting back

into the land of the living and social activities.

I had my best friend, who has heard my struggles call me boring. My hubby thinks

I should be good to constantly go out. We had a huge fight because he wanted to

go to a bar and I started to feel pain after dinner.

I mean- I go to PT, I switched to Oxycontin (morphine = fatigue).. I put on make

up and nice clothes, I look fine so I should be fine right?

They are now pressuring me to go to a 4am bar after my Birthday party this

weekend so we can dance, sit etc from 9:30am-4am+. I don't think I can do it! 

How do you navigate this? Have you lost friends? 

[Guest guest]

My thought on friendship is, friends there are many different types, those who

you just see every once in a while -- as my Mom so eloquently puts it " going out

to lunch friends " and then there are those who are true and loyal and will stand

by you through thick and thin. These however, are few and far between, and do

not come often. I can count my dear friends such as these on my hand, as I only

have about 5 or so of them. If your " friends " still refuse to hear you, listen

to your concerns, in this case about going out, being social, and the fact you

no longer drink, they in IMHO are not really friends at all.

I have lost friends due to living with TSC and living through such adversity,

but I have also gained in heart what I have lost in " number. " Meaning, I've

honestly learned who my close friends are. I sympathize and agree it is not

easy, and can be very lonely at times. What about joining a yoga class or seeing

if your adult education department through your local high school, school

district or community center has a cooking class or something else you may enjoy

doing. This way it would allow you to do something fun and meet others!

Warmly,

TSC Group Moderator

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> Hi Everyone,

> Well now that I am feeling a bit more like myself I have started to notice

something strange. People are very upset with me, and the fact that I can't

drink, I can't dance till 4am in high heels... and I am very slowly getting back

into the land of the living and social activities.

> I had my best friend, who has heard my struggles call me boring. My hubby

thinks I should be good to constantly go out. We had a huge fight because he

wanted to go to a bar and I started to feel pain after dinner.

> I mean- I go to PT, I switched to Oxycontin (morphine = fatigue).. I put on

make up and nice clothes, I look fine so I should be fine right?

> They are now pressuring me to go to a 4am bar after my Birthday party this

weekend so we can dance, sit etc from 9:30am-4am+. I don't think I can do it! 

> How do you navigate this? Have you lost friends? 

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