Re: My exposure Therapy today:-)

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Somehow, , I believe you will do just fine! What clinched it for me was " what is imp. to me right now is whether i can actualy physically practise  what i belive in my heart... " because this reference to walking the talk tells me you are not fusing with your anxiety to the detriment of your practice. I am impressed....

D>  > salaamz:-)> This is my longest speech, 20 mins. In the past i have only done 5 to 7 min speeches in my public speaking club. Ofcourse i am nervous. I feel a lump on my throat right now. i am makinf room for it, breathing around it, as we speak.

>> I am NOT prepared, as until day b4 yesyerday i was under the impression the speech was next thrusday, i found out tueday that it is in 2 days, and natural reaction went somethin like this> " SHOOOOOOOOT! "

>> My speech topics r always about what i am passionate about, b4 they used to be comparative religions (similarities) and now i speak about ACT. last week i did a 5 min speech about act metaphor,>> today it is a 20 min speech, so am doing the metaphor again, PLUS all act principles, plus illusion of control, described briefly.

> Obviously speech content is not as polished as i would have liked it to be, didn't have enough time.  but what the TM clubs focus a bit more on is delivery. so voice, gestures, eyecontact, no note cards, movement, approriate pauses, time alloted, speech flow etc etc.

>> Being a social anxiety/phobia suffere for 8 years, presentation anxiety is my bestest buddy:-). what i fear the most is talking in front of people, making eye contct, being the focal atthention etc. etc.>

> But if u ask me, sarah despite this being ur biggest fear, if this anxiety was not there, would u have liked to be able to speak confidentally in front of a crowd, connect with people, have some impact on them? my answer wo0uld be  OFCOURSE, i would.

>> ahaa...theres is a value hidden somewhere under this immense anxiety.>> So today while i talk about defusion, expansion, being present, connecting with my observing self, taking action in service of a value, i will be (hopefully) simultanoeuly be pracitsing it myself while talking FOR 20 MINS!! (shoot:-)

>> result is not as imp (how the speech goes), what is imp. to me right now is whether i can actualy physically practise  what i belive in my heart, i.e. despite any pain/fear/anxiety/sadness being present, can we still move forward, take effective action, not guided by that immensly painful feelings, but rather by a value that we hold so close to our heart?

> whether that value be 'connection', like mine today, or be it, 'making the most of my life on earth, 1 moment at a time moment'.>> wasalaam:-)>> -K Designs.

>>> l>> -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.com

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Hi what a wonderful email I got so many positives out of it! I hope it went really well for you.Its a bit similar to my anxiety/phobia, mine is coping with severe anxiety at work not so much in a social situation. I'm not scared of work I'm just scared of getting in trouble, making a fool of myself in front of others and making a mistake. I think you must be so brave standing up in front of a large crowd and giving a speech. I have a speech to make at my wedding next year which I am not looking forward to I can assure you! I love the '1 moment at a time' moment too! Makes a lot of sense to me. All the best with the speeches. Take careNeilSent from my iPhone

salaamz:-)This is my longest speech, 20 mins. In the past i have only done 5 to 7 min speeches in my public speaking club. Ofcourse i am nervous. I feel a lump on my throat right now. i am makinf room for it, breathing around it, as we speak. I am NOT prepared, as until day b4 yesyerday i was under the impression the speech was next thrusday, i found out tueday that it is in 2 days, and natural reaction went somethin like this "SHOOOOOOOOT!" My speech topics r always about what i am passionate about, b4 they used to be comparative religions (similarities) and now i speak about ACT. last week i did a 5 min speech about act metaphor, today it is a 20 min speech, so am doing the metaphor again, PLUS all act principles, plus illusion of control, described briefly. Obviously speech content is not as polished as i would have liked it to be, didn't have enough time. but what the TM clubs focus a bit more on is delivery. so voice, gestures, eyecontact, no note cards, movement, approriate pauses, time alloted, speech flow etc etc. Being a social anxiety/phobia suffere for 8 years, presentation anxiety is my bestest buddy:-). what i fear the most is talking in front of people, making eye contct, being the focal atthention etc. etc. But if u ask me, sarah despite this being ur biggest fear, if this anxiety was not there, would u have liked to be able to speak confidentally in front of a crowd, connect with people, have some impact on them? my answer wo0uld be OFCOURSE, i would. ahaa...theres is a value hidden somewhere under this immense anxiety. So today while i talk about defusion, expansion, being present, connecting with my observing self, taking action in service of a value, i will be (hopefully) simultanoeuly be pracitsing it myself while talking FOR 20 MINS!! (shoot:-)result is not as imp (how the speech goes), what is imp. to me right now is whether i can actualy physically practise what i belive in my heart, i.e. despite any pain/fear/anxiety/sadness being present, can we still move forward, take effective action, not guided by that immensly painful feelings, but rather by a value that we hold so close to our heart? whether that value be 'connection', like mine today, or be it, 'making the most of my life on earth, 1 moment at a time moment'.wasalaam:-) -K Designs.l