Guest guest Posted October 8, 2000 Report Share Posted October 8, 2000 hi Jill, my name is tessa, im 20. i was also diagnosed with VV, ive had it for a year now. i also have dysplasia/HPV, thats what my doctors say causes my VV. im sorry you have to deal with this in a marriage, i know the struggles with sex and stuff like that are very frustrating. ive been with my bf almost two years now and we havent had sex in a year. here is a webpage of vulvar specialists across the US. http://www.med.umich.edu/whrc/vulvar.html also is UVA the univ of virginia? you also might think about going to NY if you dont mind the travel. dr. howard glazer is in NY, he also has a mailing list for vulvodynia. well i hope that you find some answers and relief soon, we are all here to help. take care tess >From: jvasile@... >Reply-To: VulvarDisordersegroups >To: VulvarDisordersegroups >Subject: new member >Date: Sun, 08 Oct 2000 02:59:12 -0000 > >Hello all, >I just discovered this group while searching for information on >vulvar vestibulitis. Although I have not been completely diagnosed >yet, everything is pointing to it. I just had a vulvar biopsy less >than two weeks ago and the results are confirming the diagnosis. I'm >writing to hopefully touch base with people who can answer some of >the many questions I have about this. First off, I am only 21 years >old, three months into a marriage, and am so concerned about how this >is going to affect the rest of my life!! > >I, like many others, have been seeing doctor after doctor because of >itching, burning in the vulvar area for over two years!!! Finally, >my new doctor suggested that it might be vulvar vestibulitis because >every other test under the sun came back negative. Although he is a >great doctor, I'm looking into seeing a specialist. Does anyone >recommend a specific doctor at UVA or s Hopkins? That's where >he'll be referring me. I'd appreciate any feedback on experience >anyone may have had with any doctor at these two places. Also, if >anyone is my age going through this...please write! I'd appreciate >the wisdom of older women, too. I guess I just need a sounding board >to someone who has a clue what this is!! > >Thanks for listening. Hope to hear from you soon. > >Jill > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2002 Report Share Posted July 4, 2002 I have just been diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. My fasting blood sugar was 105, but the GHb was 6.5. He stated that many of his patients would like to have that percent because they would consider it under control. He wants me to try diet, but did not specify any specific plan. I was on Atkins, and when I told him that he started his sentence with, " I have a real problem with ... " I just knew he was going to say low-carb diets, but instead he said he has a problem with any diet plan. Because the diet plans imply starting and stopping something. He told me I knew what I needed to do, cut back on fat, watch desserts, etc. Sometimes this makes it harder when there isn't a plan. You have to actually make decisions on your own. I've been on and off so many diets, researched diet information, that he's right, I do know what I need to do. I'm using a software program, DietPower. Do any of you also us a software program to track your food intake, etc? Ila East ieast@... Personal Web Site http://mutans.astate.edu/ieast Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Welcome, Karla -- this is a great little community and it has helped me more than I can say. Stick around! -Kyla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Karla -- good for your husband for putting his foot down. Your mother is disturbed and your husband has the right to draw the line at what chaos he's willing to put up with in his own home. An OD certainly qualifies as over the line. Yes, it IS like an addiction: our BPD mothers taught us that WE were responsible for all their miseries, or that we could cure them, or that we made their lives and they had nothing else, etc., etc..... What you need to really take in and believe is that you are NOT responsible for her and that you have the right to your OWN life as an adult, detached from her. Sure, it would be nice if she could sort out a NORMAL, give and take, affectionate relationship with you, but unfortunately, the BPD makes that near impossible. It's time to save yourself. Or, more importantly, it's time to GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION to save yourself and your life with your husband. You can rewrite your relationship with your mother. You can step back and detach from her (living with you obviously means you guys were pretty enmeshed with each other, right?). Her suicide attempt means she needs more serious care than you can give, and if she tries to make it like you're betraying her by not letting her live with you, you should tell her that. You can do it gently, firmly and politely. But you can still say it. Other good books are " Boundaries " by Henry Cloud, " Surviving the Borderline Parent " , and " Understanding the Borderline Mother " .... If I were you, the FIRST thing I'd do is arm myself with information about this disease and what it means you'll be dealing with once you start laying down boundaries about how your relationship will be changing. Good luck -- You deserve a life free of this strife. -Kyla > > Hi Karla, > Welcome to the site! I know exactly what you mean about being addicted to her. > It really is an addiction, just as powerful as any drug. It took me a long time to go LC with my fada. I just kept diving back in for more abuse, until finally I couldn't take it anymore and started my healing process. And it is a process. I've been going through all the stages of grief -- denial, bargaining, anger, etc. I'm doing better after a few months and am even finding some compassion. No desire, thank goodness, for more contact, just a lessening of the rage. It's helped me to realize that we're all at various stages of development and he's stuck at a very immature age that only sees others as objects for his own means. Good luck as you do your healing work. There are many excellent books out there which will help, as well as this group, which is very supportive. > Glad you're here, but sorry you have to be! > AZClown > > > new member > > Hello All, > > My mother was just recently diagnosed with BPD. She had been living > with me and my family for the past 5 yrs, and on New Years night she > tried to OD. My husband, having had enough, did not allow her to > return home. Just just got diagnosed last week. > > I am currently reading Stop Walking on Egg Shells, and I am having a > really hard time right now figuring out what to do. I am having a > hard time seperating myself from her. She is like an addiction, I feel > horrible until I call her atleast once in the day, then I do, and she > makes me feel horrible. But yet, I keep calling! > > I am happy to have found this site, and hope all of you can give me > advice. > > Thank you, > Karla > > > > > > _____________________________________________________________________ _______________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 Hi Kyla, Thank you for your encouraging words and advice. I am so happy to have found this site. It is still unbelievable to me how many people are going through or have gone through the same thing. It has been 3 days now that I have finally stopped calling my mother. On the second day of my not calling she called me at work and took me by surprise. She asked why I had not called and my answer was, I was waiting to see if you would call me. Her reply was to scold me and tell me I am acting like a child. My good friend who is a co-worker was next to me and she knew right away that I was talking to my mom, because she heard my tone of voice. I sounded like a little girl who was scared. After I hung up, I was so upset to realize how scared I was when I heard her voice. I couldnt even speak the truth. I was too scared of how she would react. I have had family members call me as well (my aunts, my mom's sisters) and they have said very negative things to me, and I do nothing but stay silent. This is what is driving my husband nuts. He has refused to let our children see her, my son is 15 and my daughter is 9, they were both there that night when she tried to OD, it was a horrible moment for all of us. Half of me understands his reasoning and the other half is having a tough time. I know I have a long road ahead of me. I am grateful to read all of your postings, as it truly is helping. By the way, I wanted to share with all of you that as I said in my first post, my mother tried to OD on New Years night, this was not her first time. This was her fourth. All of my family acts like its no big deal and seem to ignore the problem. Thanks again, Karla new member > > Hello All, > > My mother was just recently diagnosed with BPD. She had been living > with me and my family for the past 5 yrs, and on New Years night she > tried to OD. My husband, having had enough, did not allow her to > return home. Just just got diagnosed last week. > > I am currently reading Stop Walking on Egg Shells, and I am having a > really hard time right now figuring out what to do. I am having a > hard time seperating myself from her. She is like an addiction, I feel > horrible until I call her atleast once in the day, then I do, and she > makes me feel horrible. But yet, I keep calling! > > I am happy to have found this site, and hope all of you can give me > advice. > > Thank you, > Karla > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ ____________ ___ > Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile. yahoo.com/ ;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR 8HDtDypao8Wcj9tA cJ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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