Re: Chroic Muscular Tension

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Kaivey, I really like this: Then, I allow myself to be exactly as I am in that moment. kind to yourself.

That works so well for me. "Allowing myself to be exactly as I as I am in each moment" could be my mantra. Since I've found the ACT tools, I have found that it is possible to be compassionate with myself even when I am not measuring up to what I or others think is BEST or even GOOD. It has made all the difference for me. I was feeling like crap (emotinally) all weekend, and I just made room for that and treated myself with kindness anyway. I took some deep breaths, made a special cup of tea, took a hot bath in some scrumptious scented bath salts, and pampered myself instead of beating up on myself for not feeling the way I SHOULD.

Helena

To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:45:35 AMSubject: Chroic Muscular Tension

I have been looking around the web about my condition which is chronic muscular tension. Some people say that this condition is a form of fibromygia, but with me it has been caused by chronic stress. It is like your whole body has a chronic headache and it is difficult to enjoy music or anything really. Meditation, mindfulness, and progessive muscle relaxation is impossible with this condition. I am seeing my doctor soon and I will find out what she say's.

Squirming with tension all the time I have been unable to face work again since being off, but now the worry about being off work is causing much more distress so going back is has become less painful - it's like I can't win. Anyway I liked this article that I found on the web (posted below) written by someone who suffers like me.

Wow! I think I will just make that salad wholemeal spelt bread (I baked it myself) sandwich ooozing with that special single estate Tuscani olive oil someone gave me for Christmas. (followed by a beer - No! I'm only joking).

Kv

http://www.thehealthylifecoach.com/tag/chronic-muscle-tension/

Compassion:

Stop trying to force yourself to change or be "better," and you make way for change to evolve on its own.

I had to stop trying to be kind to myself and start applying gentleness and love. What does that look like? It means that in the moment when I am beating myself up over something, instead of adding another layer of beating myself up (for being such a jerk to myself), I recognize the futility of doing so. Instead, I say, "Wow, I notice I'm really beating myself up here." Then, I allow myself to be exactly as I am in that moment.

The ultimate kindness is to say, "It's okay to be exactly as I am right now." Whatever you're doing, whatever you're feeling, whatever results you're getting – none of it matters. Remember, you won't create change with force. You'll create change with love. And unconditional love for yourself means loving yourself where you are right now. And THAT means being kind to yourself about where you are right now.

If you're overeating right now, it's okay.

If you're struggling in your business right now, it's okay.

If you're not achieving top quality in your efforts right now, it's okay.

If you're beating yourself up right now, it's okay.

If you're ignoring your body's wisdom right now, it's okay.

If you're behind in your to-do's right now, it's okay.

Whatever it is, it's okay.

Your mind might say, "Aaagh! Oh no! If I say it's okay, I'll turn into a blimp/never accomplish anything/never get my list done/never be pain free…etc." I'm here to gently, kindly, remind your mind that's not true. In fact, it's the ONLY way that you'll lose weight, become pain free, or accomplish what you want. Self-kindness is THE ticket. The wonderful thing is, you can be kind to yourself even when you're not being kind to yourself. You can say, "Wow, I'm really beating myself up over eating that chocolate cake. And that's okay."

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Yes, it was really nice reading that about forgiveness. I'm in deep guilt about being off work and I haven't been able to see my new doctor yet as I had to change surgeries(if she is really kind to me it will melt much of my guilt away).

The article below is a lot ot read but I have posted in case someone finds it interesting who may suffer like me. This lady seems to sum up the condition quite well. Occasionally, out of desperation, I have even rubbed ibuprofen gel all over my body to stop the aching so that I can sleep. Dihydrodocodiene + paracetomol takes way the pain a bit but it only works when taken once every three days as the body gets used to the opiate after one go.

Kv

Please help, 24 yrs old, severe chronic muscle tension since 17, feeling hopeless.?

I have tried just about everything to help myself feel good again. I have MAJOR muscle tension and knots all over. My neck, shoulders (all around and on/under blades), back, hips....these areas all have major lymph congestion and tension. it started when i was 17 in my mid back. i thought it was just scoliosis. it eventually spread to having achy legs as if someone were crushing them and in my neck and shoulders got severely tense to the point of cut off circulation and headaches.

I KNOW exercise is key and i have to keep everything in motion and eat right, water, etc. every time i go to stretch its like a severe shooting pain in my hamstrings, shooting pain in my neck and thru my arms. if i overstretch its like i let toxins loose into my system and it makes everything worse. doctors have thrown around the Fibromyalgia term but i dont think thats what it is. i can handle extremely deep tissue on my back. every massage therapist i have gone to says im their "deepest" patient. cant do that on my legs though it feels like knives raking thru my skin. my neck has so many knots my chiropractor thought they were bones out of place! (may be a dumb chiropractor but seriously!)

i have tried cleansing, different diets, different specialists. does ANYONE have ANY ideas as to WHY my muscles are so tight? i know i have been uptight in the past and thats how they may have got that way along with substance abuse. but i have had a major change of attitude but obviously the damage is done...is there any way i can reverse this? i need to do some strengthening exercises but its almost like that releases toxins as well and i end up making things even more tense...how can i get them to loosen up w/o taking hot baths, laying down to rest, and getting massages and adjustments all day?? what the heck am i missing? all suggestions are welcome and appreciated....

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thanks, but im pretty sure its not fibro....its not even pain most the time...its like severe tension, like everything is in a knot and im so desperate for relief via pressure, hot applications, or stretching but it never seems like enough

was looking into natural muscle relaxers (yes im "one of those" now) doctors have shoved all those anti-depressants in my face already, none of them helped. but you could be right about the anxiety

i will google that thank u very much... i have seen a rheumatologist when i was 20 or 21...they pretty much told me it was all in my head. thanks again

>> > > Kaivey, I really like this: Then, I allow myself to be exactly as I am in that moment. kind to yourself. > > > > That works so well for me. "Allowing myself to be exactly as I as I am in each moment" could be my mantra.  Since I' ve found the ACT tools, I have found that  it is possible to be compassionate with my self even when I am not measuring up to what I or others think is BEST or even GOOD. It has made all the difference for me. I was feeling like crap (emotinally) all weekend, and I just made room for that and treated myself with kindness anyway. I took some deep breaths, made a special cup of tea, took a hot bath in some scrumptious scented bath salts, and pampered myself instead of beating up on myself for not feeling the way I SHOULD.  > > > > Helena > > > > Chroic Muscular Tension > >  > > > > > > > I have been looking around the web about my condition which is chronic muscular tension. Some people say that this condition is a form of fibromygia, but with me it has been caused by chronic stress. It is like your whole body has a chronic headache and it is difficult to enjoy music or anything really. Meditation, mindfulness, and progessive muscle relaxation is impossible with this condition. I am seeing my doctor soon and I will find out what she say's. > > Squirming with tension all the time I have been unable to face work again since being off, but now the worry about being off work is causing much more distress so going back is has become less painful - it's like I can't win. Anyway I liked this article that I found on the web (posted below) written by someone who suffers like me. > > Wow! I think I will just make that salad wholemeal spelt bread (I baked it myself) sandwich ooozing with that special single estate Tuscani olive oil someone gave me for Christmas. (followed by a beer - No! I'm only joking). > > Kv > > http://www.thehealthylifecoach.com/tag/chronic-muscle-tension/ > > Compassion: > > Stop trying to force yourself to change or be "better," and you make way for change to evolve on its own. > > I had to stop trying to be kind to myself and start applying gentleness and love. What does that look like? It means that in the moment when I am beating myself up over something, instead of adding another layer of beating myself up (for being such a jerk to myself), I recognize the futility of doing so. Instead, I say, "Wow, I notice I'm really beating myself up here." Then, I allow myself to be exactly as I am in that moment. > > The ultimate kindness is to say, "It's okay to be exactly as I am right now." Whatever you're doing, whatever you're feeling, whatever results you're getting â€" none of it matters. Remember, you won't create change with force. You'll create change with love. And unconditional love for yourself means loving yourself where you are right now. And THAT means being kind to yourself about where you are right now. > > If you're overeating right now, it's okay. > > If you're struggling in your business right now, it's okay. > > If you're not achieving top quality in your efforts right now, it's okay. > > If you're beating yourself up right now, it's okay. > > If you're ignoring your body's wisdom right now, it's okay. > > If you're behind in your to-do's right now, it's okay. > > Whatever it is, it's okay. > > Your mind might say, "Aaagh! Oh no! If I say it's okay, I'll turn into a blimp/never accomplish anything/never get my list done/never be pain free…etc." I'm here to gently, kindly, remind your mind that's not true. In fact, it's the ONLY way that you'll lose weight, become pain free, or accomplish what you want. Self-kindness is THE ticket. The wonderful thing is, you can be kind to yourself even when you're not being kind to yourself. You can say, "Wow, I'm really beating myself up over eating that chocolate cake. And that's okay." > >  >

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My apologies about all these posts. I was reading her description again

and it came to mind how that the tension is so severe in my neck that my

hair stands up on end because it is so briitle and stiff due the blood

supply is being cut off lowering the nutriments getting through to my

scalp. I read about how this happens to hunger strikers once and then I

thought, yeah, that is what is happning to me.

Kv

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> > Kaivey, I really like this:Â Then, I allow myself to be exactly

as

> I am in that moment. kind to yourself.

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> >

> >

> > That works so well for me. " Allowing myself to be exactly as I

as

> I am in each moment " could be my mantra. Â Since I' ve found the

ACT

> tools, I have found that  it is possible to be compassionate

> with my self even when I am not measuring up to what I or others think

> is BEST or even GOOD. It has made all the difference for me. I

> was feeling like crap (emotinally) all weekend, and I just made room

for

> that and treated myself with kindness anyway. I took some deep

> breaths, made a special cup of tea, took a hot bath in some

> scrumptious scented bath salts, and pampered myself instead of beating

> up on myself for not feeling the way I SHOULD. Â

> >

> >

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> > Helena

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> > Chroic Muscular Tension

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> > Â

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> > I have been looking around the web about my condition which is

chronic

> muscular tension. Some people say that this condition is a form of

> fibromygia, but with me it has been caused by chronic stress. It is

like

> your whole body has a chronic headache and it is difficult to enjoy

> music or anything really. Meditation, mindfulness, and progessive

muscle

> relaxation is impossible with this condition. I am seeing my doctor

soon

> and I will find out what she say's.

> >

> > Squirming with tension all the time I have been unable to face work

> again since being off, but now the worry about being off work is

causing

> much more distress so going back is has become less painful - it's

> like I can't win. Anyway I liked this article that I found on the

> web (posted below) written by someone who suffers like me.

> >

> > Wow! I think I will just make that salad wholemeal spelt bread (I

> baked it myself) sandwich ooozing with that special single estate

> Tuscani olive oil someone gave me for Christmas. (followed by

a

> beer - No! I'm only joking).

> >

> > Kv

> >

> > http://www.thehealthylifecoach.com/tag/chronic-muscle-tension/

> >

> > Compassion:

> >

> > Stop trying to force yourself to change or be " better, " and you make

> way for change to evolve on its own.

> >

> > I had to stop trying to be kind to myself and start applying

> gentleness and love. What does that look like? It means that in the

> moment when I am beating myself up over something, instead of adding

> another layer of beating myself up (for being such a jerk to myself),

I

> recognize the futility of doing so. Instead, I say, " Wow, I notice I'm

> really beating myself up here. " Then, I allow myself to be exactly as

I

> am in that moment.

> >

> > The ultimate kindness is to say, " It's okay to be exactly as I am

> right now. " Whatever you're doing, whatever you're feeling, whatever

> results you're getting †" none of it matters. Remember, you won't

> create change with force. You'll create change with love. And

> unconditional love for yourself means loving yourself where you are

> right now. And THAT means being kind to yourself about where you are

> right now.

> >

> > If you're overeating right now, it's okay.

> >

> > If you're struggling in your business right now, it's okay.

> >

> > If you're not achieving top quality in your efforts right now, it's

> okay.

> >

> > If you're beating yourself up right now, it's okay.

> >

> > If you're ignoring your body's wisdom right now, it's okay.

> >

> > If you're behind in your to-do's right now, it's okay.

> >

> > Whatever it is, it's okay.

> >

> > Your mind might say, " Aaagh! Oh no! If I say it's okay, I'll turn

into

> a blimp/never accomplish anything/never get my list done/never be pain

> free…etc. " I'm here to gently, kindly, remind your mind that's

not

> true. In fact, it's the ONLY way that you'll lose weight, become pain

> free, or accomplish what you want. Self-kindness is THE ticket. The

> wonderful thing is, you can be kind to yourself even when you're not

> being kind to yourself. You can say, " Wow, I'm really beating myself

up

> over eating that chocolate cake. And that's okay. "

> >

> > Â

> >

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