Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 You need to get out of there. You're too enmeshed in this emotionally volatile and unhealthy situation. (I read your other post before I read this one.) You need to live your own life. I think on some level, you know that. The prospect of living on your own must scare you because 1) you've stayed in this situation for the last 5 years, and 2) you keep wanting to change THEM so that it would be easier to stay, instead of looking at the natural option to leave and strike out on your own. It's just easier to manage them, right? If I were you, I'd take the time to ask myself: Is this the life you want? The preferred victim of a BPD father? Getting into daily arguments with a man whose emotional age is that of an angry child? There's a big world out there just waiting for you to go out and take a bite out of it. Why retreat from it and settle for this insanity? Maybe a good therapist can help you sort out what is scaring you about living on your own. Sure, it looks like you've got a free place to live -- but even your computer is in their house, making you further enmeshed with them. It seems you've settled for this living arrangement at a HUGE cost to your well-being, emotional health and sanity, which is priceless. It's as if you've faded into the background of their life. What about YOUR life? You were born with the basic human right of having your own life in the world -- every human being is created with special talents and gifts, and there is a life out there waiting for you that uses your talents and gifts. The aspects of you that make you unique -- that make you YOU. I hate to see it buried beneath the overpowering presence of a BPD. -Kyla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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