Re: Work related troubles too.

[Guest guest]

Did you say a bunch of ACT books on her shelf? Gee, that is rather unusual.

Anyway, you don't have to accept anything. All have to's hit the ground here.

That includes your shame stuff. i have been journaling daily now (my key

creative outlet) and I have good news for you...it's going to be okay. Hold

yourself with dignity and compassion. Keep the faith, one day at a time.

>

> Hi list, a few people have posted recently about work related troubles which

has been interesting for me because I have been going through that myself this

last month or so.

>

> It's a very long story, which I won't go into here, but I have been off work

for about 6 weeks now. There had been some stress building up in me due to

various things at work, including job cuts and uncertainty, but I probably would

have kept on ok with that - not enough to make me necessarily NEED to take time

off - although I certainly WANTED to. But then I experienced some really nasty

bullying and harassment from my new boss which was just the last straw. I went

down in a emotional and panic stricken heap. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep,

nausea and choking feeling a lot of the time, crying etc. I guess it would have

been called a " nervous breakdown " in the old days. Not a good place to be....

>

> As I am putting in a workers compensation claim a whole lot of processes have

had to be put in train, including an independent rehabilitation person being

appointed who acts as the liaison between me and my employer to plan/negotiate

my return to work. She accompanies me to my appointment with my medical doctor

tomorrow. I apparently have to be assessed by an independent psychiatrist. The

whole thing is quite invasive and bizarre for me, all of a sudden all these

people are being given access to my medical records, details of my personal life

and situation etc. I am being sort of " put through the ringer " . I have to

trust that the outcome will be positive.

>

> Anyway, I went along yesterday to an initial appointment with a psychologist.

At the end of the session, which was mostly her getting a handle on my

situation, I noticed that she had a bunch of ACT books on her shelf. I had been

referred to her with no knowledge of her " treatment " approach or philosophy. I

had a brief discussion with her about ACT and CBT, I was so relieved that she

wasn't a CBT " fanatic " but an " ACT person " . She told me how she had met

a few times (at workshops or conferences I think) and was really

impressed with his humility and everything about him. Another fan, !

Anyway, I'm seeing her again next week, and will be very interested to see how

it goes.

>

> I'm quite terrified that I'm going to have to go back to work into what

feels for me a very toxic and " dangerous " place for me with the hateful and

aggressive boss that I have. She is a person that I have known socially for

some years, which adds a layer of murkiness and " yuckiness " to the situation.

What's interesting for me is the amount of " shame " feelings that have been

coming up for me in relation to this whole thing. And knowing that I am going

to have to accept those feelings and act (by going back to work) despite them,

when everything in me yells out " keep away! " " not safe! " . Urrggggghhhh. Not

sure I'm ready for that at all. Just thinking about it brings up the feelings of

panic etc.

>

> Anyway I'll report back on my " ACT therapy experience " , and how I find it.

I've never actually seen an ACT practitioner before, all my knowledge about it

has come from books and reading and this list. I'll try not to have too many

preconceived ideas, could be difficult!

>

> Kate

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much Theresa, good thing to remember - drop the " have to's " . Even

though I was pleased that the psychologist was an ACT person, part of me

immediately went " uh oh, she's going to `make me` go back to work because I'll

`have to` just learn to accept the horrible feelings and act in spite of them,

because that's what ACT is all about " - RUN AWAY! RUN AWAY!

I don't like seeing myself as a weak, pathetic, dribbling incapacitated person,

but that's unfortunately how I'm viewing myself at the moment.

Kate

> >

> > Hi list, a few people have posted recently about work related troubles which

has been interesting for me because I have been going through that myself this

last month or so.

> >

> > It's a very long story, which I won't go into here, but I have been off work

for about 6 weeks now. There had been some stress building up in me due to

various things at work, including job cuts and uncertainty, but I probably would

have kept on ok with that - not enough to make me necessarily NEED to take time

off - although I certainly WANTED to. But then I experienced some really nasty

bullying and harassment from my new boss which was just the last straw. I went

down in a emotional and panic stricken heap. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep,

nausea and choking feeling a lot of the time, crying etc. I guess it would have

been called a " nervous breakdown " in the old days. Not a good place to be....

> >

> > As I am putting in a workers compensation claim a whole lot of processes

have had to be put in train, including an independent rehabilitation person

being appointed who acts as the liaison between me and my employer to

plan/negotiate my return to work. She accompanies me to my appointment with my

medical doctor tomorrow. I apparently have to be assessed by an independent

psychiatrist. The whole thing is quite invasive and bizarre for me, all of a

sudden all these people are being given access to my medical records, details of

my personal life and situation etc. I am being sort of " put through the

ringer " . I have to trust that the outcome will be positive.

> >

> > Anyway, I went along yesterday to an initial appointment with a

psychologist. At the end of the session, which was mostly her getting a handle

on my situation, I noticed that she had a bunch of ACT books on her shelf. I

had been referred to her with no knowledge of her " treatment " approach or

philosophy. I had a brief discussion with her about ACT and CBT, I was so

relieved that she wasn't a CBT " fanatic " but an " ACT person " . She told me how

she had met a few times (at workshops or conferences I think) and

was really impressed with his humility and everything about him. Another fan,

! Anyway, I'm seeing her again next week, and will be very interested to

see how it goes.

> >

> > I'm quite terrified that I'm going to have to go back to work into what

feels for me a very toxic and " dangerous " place for me with the hateful and

aggressive boss that I have. She is a person that I have known socially for

some years, which adds a layer of murkiness and " yuckiness " to the situation.

What's interesting for me is the amount of " shame " feelings that have been

coming up for me in relation to this whole thing. And knowing that I am going

to have to accept those feelings and act (by going back to work) despite them,

when everything in me yells out " keep away! " " not safe! " . Urrggggghhhh. Not

sure I'm ready for that at all. Just thinking about it brings up the feelings of

panic etc.

> >

> > Anyway I'll report back on my " ACT therapy experience " , and how I find it.

I've never actually seen an ACT practitioner before, all my knowledge about it

has come from books and reading and this list. I'll try not to have too many

preconceived ideas, could be difficult!

> >

> > Kate

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thnaks for sharing your work experience. I have had and am stil having such an

experience. A person was sort of gas ligting me for lack of a better expression.

It really shook my confidence and caused so much stres I would make mistakes. I

wish I had stood up for myself instead of falling apart. I am still trying to

stand up for myself. I went from having cofidence in my field to not knowing

which end is up. Unfortunalty there isnt many jobs.

> > >

> > > Hi list, a few people have posted recently about work related troubles

which has been interesting for me because I have been going through that myself

this last month or so.

> > >

> > > It's a very long story, which I won't go into here, but I have been off

work for about 6 weeks now. There had been some stress building up in me due to

various things at work, including job cuts and uncertainty, but I probably would

have kept on ok with that - not enough to make me necessarily NEED to take time

off - although I certainly WANTED to. But then I experienced some really nasty

bullying and harassment from my new boss which was just the last straw. I went

down in a emotional and panic stricken heap. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep,

nausea and choking feeling a lot of the time, crying etc. I guess it would have

been called a " nervous breakdown " in the old days. Not a good place to be....

> > >

> > > As I am putting in a workers compensation claim a whole lot of processes

have had to be put in train, including an independent rehabilitation person

being appointed who acts as the liaison between me and my employer to

plan/negotiate my return to work. She accompanies me to my appointment with my

medical doctor tomorrow. I apparently have to be assessed by an independent

psychiatrist. The whole thing is quite invasive and bizarre for me, all of a

sudden all these people are being given access to my medical records, details of

my personal life and situation etc. I am being sort of " put through the

ringer " . I have to trust that the outcome will be positive.

> > >

> > > Anyway, I went along yesterday to an initial appointment with a

psychologist. At the end of the session, which was mostly her getting a handle

on my situation, I noticed that she had a bunch of ACT books on her shelf. I

had been referred to her with no knowledge of her " treatment " approach or

philosophy. I had a brief discussion with her about ACT and CBT, I was so

relieved that she wasn't a CBT " fanatic " but an " ACT person " . She told me how

she had met a few times (at workshops or conferences I think) and

was really impressed with his humility and everything about him. Another fan,

! Anyway, I'm seeing her again next week, and will be very interested to

see how it goes.

> > >

> > > I'm quite terrified that I'm going to have to go back to work into what

feels for me a very toxic and " dangerous " place for me with the hateful and

aggressive boss that I have. She is a person that I have known socially for

some years, which adds a layer of murkiness and " yuckiness " to the situation.

What's interesting for me is the amount of " shame " feelings that have been

coming up for me in relation to this whole thing. And knowing that I am going

to have to accept those feelings and act (by going back to work) despite them,

when everything in me yells out " keep away! " " not safe! " . Urrggggghhhh. Not

sure I'm ready for that at all. Just thinking about it brings up the feelings of

panic etc.

> > >

> > > Anyway I'll report back on my " ACT therapy experience " , and how I find it.

I've never actually seen an ACT practitioner before, all my knowledge about it

has come from books and reading and this list. I'll try not to have too many

preconceived ideas, could be difficult!

> > >

> > > Kate

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You have my sympathy . I had never experienced such bullying before. I

was just so taken aback at the personal vindictive nature of it, made worse as I

said by the fact that I've known this person socially for quite a few years and

never had any conflict with her before.

Are you able to get any assistance with your situation in your workplace? I

know what you mean about jobs, my field is very narrow and if jobs weren't so

hard to come by I would just be saying " F*** it - I'm out of here " . Don't have

that luxury unfortunately.

My rehab person said something interesting to me yesterday - that confidence is

the first thing to go and often the last to return.

I know I need to take the time to " build some resilience " (that seems to be the

latest catch phrase). I feel positive that the ACT psychologist I will be

seeing can help with this.

Kate

> > > >

> > > > Hi list, a few people have posted recently about work related troubles

which has been interesting for me because I have been going through that myself

this last month or so.

> > > >

> > > > It's a very long story, which I won't go into here, but I have been off

work for about 6 weeks now. There had been some stress building up in me due to

various things at work, including job cuts and uncertainty, but I probably would

have kept on ok with that - not enough to make me necessarily NEED to take time

off - although I certainly WANTED to. But then I experienced some really nasty

bullying and harassment from my new boss which was just the last straw. I went

down in a emotional and panic stricken heap. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep,

nausea and choking feeling a lot of the time, crying etc. I guess it would have

been called a " nervous breakdown " in the old days. Not a good place to be....

> > > >

> > > > As I am putting in a workers compensation claim a whole lot of processes

have had to be put in train, including an independent rehabilitation person

being appointed who acts as the liaison between me and my employer to

plan/negotiate my return to work. She accompanies me to my appointment with my

medical doctor tomorrow. I apparently have to be assessed by an independent

psychiatrist. The whole thing is quite invasive and bizarre for me, all of a

sudden all these people are being given access to my medical records, details of

my personal life and situation etc. I am being sort of " put through the

ringer " . I have to trust that the outcome will be positive.

> > > >

> > > > Anyway, I went along yesterday to an initial appointment with a

psychologist. At the end of the session, which was mostly her getting a handle

on my situation, I noticed that she had a bunch of ACT books on her shelf. I

had been referred to her with no knowledge of her " treatment " approach or

philosophy. I had a brief discussion with her about ACT and CBT, I was so

relieved that she wasn't a CBT " fanatic " but an " ACT person " . She told me how

she had met a few times (at workshops or conferences I think) and

was really impressed with his humility and everything about him. Another fan,

! Anyway, I'm seeing her again next week, and will be very interested to

see how it goes.

> > > >

> > > > I'm quite terrified that I'm going to have to go back to work into

what feels for me a very toxic and " dangerous " place for me with the hateful and

aggressive boss that I have. She is a person that I have known socially for

some years, which adds a layer of murkiness and " yuckiness " to the situation.

What's interesting for me is the amount of " shame " feelings that have been

coming up for me in relation to this whole thing. And knowing that I am going

to have to accept those feelings and act (by going back to work) despite them,

when everything in me yells out " keep away! " " not safe! " . Urrggggghhhh. Not

sure I'm ready for that at all. Just thinking about it brings up the feelings of

panic etc.

> > > >

> > > > Anyway I'll report back on my " ACT therapy experience " , and how I find

it. I've never actually seen an ACT practitioner before, all my knowledge about

it has come from books and reading and this list. I'll try not to have too many

preconceived ideas, could be difficult!

> > > >

> > > > Kate

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Sometimes, help starts with just saying it out loud. Its almost like you think

your lossing your mind. So lets, say to ourselves and each other, I beleive in

you.

Thanks

Lin

> > > > >

> > > > > Hi list, a few people have posted recently about work related troubles

which has been interesting for me because I have been going through that myself

this last month or so.

> > > > >

> > > > > It's a very long story, which I won't go into here, but I have been

off work for about 6 weeks now. There had been some stress building up in me

due to various things at work, including job cuts and uncertainty, but I

probably would have kept on ok with that - not enough to make me necessarily

NEED to take time off - although I certainly WANTED to. But then I experienced

some really nasty bullying and harassment from my new boss which was just the

last straw. I went down in a emotional and panic stricken heap. Couldn't eat,

couldn't sleep, nausea and choking feeling a lot of the time, crying etc. I

guess it would have been called a " nervous breakdown " in the old days. Not a

good place to be....

> > > > >

> > > > > As I am putting in a workers compensation claim a whole lot of

processes have had to be put in train, including an independent rehabilitation

person being appointed who acts as the liaison between me and my employer to

plan/negotiate my return to work. She accompanies me to my appointment with my

medical doctor tomorrow. I apparently have to be assessed by an independent

psychiatrist. The whole thing is quite invasive and bizarre for me, all of a

sudden all these people are being given access to my medical records, details of

my personal life and situation etc. I am being sort of " put through the

ringer " . I have to trust that the outcome will be positive.

> > > > >

> > > > > Anyway, I went along yesterday to an initial appointment with a

psychologist. At the end of the session, which was mostly her getting a handle

on my situation, I noticed that she had a bunch of ACT books on her shelf. I

had been referred to her with no knowledge of her " treatment " approach or

philosophy. I had a brief discussion with her about ACT and CBT, I was so

relieved that she wasn't a CBT " fanatic " but an " ACT person " . She told me how

she had met a few times (at workshops or conferences I think) and

was really impressed with his humility and everything about him. Another fan,

! Anyway, I'm seeing her again next week, and will be very interested to

see how it goes.

> > > > >

> > > > > I'm quite terrified that I'm going to have to go back to work into

what feels for me a very toxic and " dangerous " place for me with the hateful and

aggressive boss that I have. She is a person that I have known socially for

some years, which adds a layer of murkiness and " yuckiness " to the situation.

What's interesting for me is the amount of " shame " feelings that have been

coming up for me in relation to this whole thing. And knowing that I am going

to have to accept those feelings and act (by going back to work) despite them,

when everything in me yells out " keep away! " " not safe! " . Urrggggghhhh. Not

sure I'm ready for that at all. Just thinking about it brings up the feelings of

panic etc.

> > > > >

> > > > > Anyway I'll report back on my " ACT therapy experience " , and how I find

it. I've never actually seen an ACT practitioner before, all my knowledge about

it has come from books and reading and this list. I'll try not to have too many

preconceived ideas, could be difficult!

> > > > >

> > > > > Kate

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

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