Re: Pregnancy Questions.. Dilemmas

[Guest guest]

That is great that you got all this information -- I think you are taking

the right approach by getting all your answers now. I didn't end up having kids

due to my back and I have an amazing marriage. I just don't know how I could

have managed pregnancy and raising a young child with my back issues. But that

is not my biggest concern for you -- am I mixing up members or did you not say

just the other day your marriage was over? My advice to you is to make sure

your relationship is rock solid before having a child together -- children are

an amazing blessing but they will not make your relationship any better. Such a

big decision! Glad to hear your husband is going to counselling with you --

that is a great next step. DeeTo: tetheredspinalcord

From: lilacs007@...

Date: Fri, 9 Dec 2011 11:10:25 -0800

Subject: Pregnancy Questions.. Dilemmas

I just went in for my new MRI.. waiting on results.

In the meantime I saw Dr. Ismail at U of Chicago OB section yesterday.I wanted

to get my questions answered and to see for myself what he thought, I guess Dr.

Frim sends all of his patients there.

Basically, I LOVED him, as did my husband. He told me C-Section under

anesthesia, and back brace :)Also to start folic acid and send my last 3 years

of paps to him..

As for the meds.. he is not thrilled but OKAY with the morphine, what really

concerns him is the Neurontin and Baclofen (or any relaxers), as well as

Savella.

My dilemma.. The morphine well he said that worst case we would have to deal

with addiction to the baby, and if my pain is severe and I cannot be off pain

meds we need to work on a plan and make sure we both understand the consequences

His real worry as stated above are the other meds, which I need. I tried cutting

the Neurontin (now take 600 Mg 2 times a day max) vs 1200 x 3. And cut the

Savella.. but my legs KILL even worse than they did before..

Does anyone have advice on all of this, and the choices you had to make?

I am to come back in 6 months.. and my hubby and I are heading to counselling

this Saturday, so I hope this can be a reality for me in 2013. I am so ready to

be a mother emotionally. But am so confused and scared about everything else.

I hope someone can share their experiences. I don't, and won't judge. you can

write off list..

[Guest guest]

Thanks Dee!Well I did say that, but we had a long and VERY brutally honest

discussion. He wants to change.He is a product of divorce (BITTER) and anger..We

lost sight of each other, but we have talked and I think with commitment and

counselling we will be good.You are 100% correct about the marriage.I had to

know for myself though.. even if just for the future. I appreciated this doctors

non judgmental attitude, He told me as long as he and I can look at each other

in the eyes and know what we are up against he will do all he can. I heard of so

many stories of pain and suffering because a doctor was not willing to listen. 

I am not sure how we will handle all this but I know our parents are here to

support us, so hopefully we can handle a child in a year (as long as marriage is

great)

If not.. I will adopt!!! 

Subject: RE: Pregnancy Questions.. Dilemmas

To: tetheredspinalcord

Date: Friday, December 9, 2011, 1:22 PM

 

   

     

     

      I just went in for my new MRI.. waiting on results.

In the meantime I saw Dr. Ismail at U of Chicago OB section yesterday.I wanted

to get my questions answered and to see for myself what he thought, I guess Dr.

Frim sends all of his patients there.

Basically, I LOVED him, as did my husband. He told me C-Section under

anesthesia, and back brace :)Also to start folic acid and send my last 3 years

of paps to him..

As for the meds.. he is not thrilled but OKAY with the morphine, what really

concerns him is the Neurontin and Baclofen (or any relaxers), as well as

Savella.

My dilemma.. The morphine well he said that worst case we would have to deal

with addiction to the baby, and if my pain is severe and I cannot be off pain

meds we need to work on a plan and make sure we both understand the consequences

His real worry as stated above are the other meds, which I need. I tried cutting

the Neurontin (now take 600 Mg 2 times a day max) vs  1200 x 3. And cut the

Savella.. but my legs KILL even worse than they did before..

Does anyone have advice on all of this, and the choices you had to make?

I am to come back in 6 months.. and my hubby and I are heading to counselling

this Saturday, so I hope this can be a reality for me in 2013. I am so ready to

be a mother emotionally. But am so confused and scared about everything else.

I hope someone can share their experiences. I don't, and won't judge. you can

write off list..

[Guest guest]

, don't know if I may have missed it or not but has anyone mentioned an

internal spinal cord simulator of some sorts that shoots

electrical impulses to help block the pain or at least change

the perception of pain and makes the pain more tolerable and not need pain

meds or much less. could be an alternative or at least temporary while pregnant.

 just a thought. carol

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To: tetheredspinalcord

Sent: Friday, December 9, 2011 11:27 AM

Subject: RE: Pregnancy Questions.. Dilemmas

 

Thanks Dee!Well I did say that, but we had a long and VERY brutally honest

discussion. He wants to change.He is a product of divorce (BITTER) and anger..We

lost sight of each other, but we have talked and I think with commitment and

counselling we will be good.You are 100% correct about the marriage.I had to

know for myself though.. even if just for the future. I appreciated this doctors

non judgmental attitude, He told me as long as he and I can look at each other

in the eyes and know what we are up against he will do all he can. I heard of so

many stories of pain and suffering because a doctor was not willing to listen. 

I am not sure how we will handle all this but I know our parents are here to

support us, so hopefully we can handle a child in a year (as long

as marriage is great)

If not.. I will adopt!!! 

Subject: RE: Pregnancy Questions.. Dilemmas

To: tetheredspinalcord

Date: Friday, December 9, 2011, 1:22 PM

 

   

     

     

      I just went in for my new MRI.. waiting on results.

In the meantime I saw Dr. Ismail at U of Chicago OB section yesterday.I wanted

to get my questions answered and to see for myself what he thought, I guess Dr.

Frim sends all of his patients there.

Basically, I LOVED him, as did my husband. He told me C-Section under

anesthesia, and back brace :)Also to start folic acid and send my last 3 years

of paps to him..

As for the meds.. he is not thrilled but OKAY with the morphine, what really

concerns him is the Neurontin and Baclofen (or any relaxers), as well as

Savella.

My dilemma.. The morphine well he said that worst case we would have to deal

with addiction to the baby, and if my pain is severe and I cannot be off pain

meds we need to work on a plan and make sure we both understand the consequences

His real worry as stated above are the other meds, which I need. I tried cutting

the Neurontin (now take 600 Mg 2 times a day max) vs  1200 x 3. And cut the

Savella.. but my legs KILL even worse than they did before..

Does anyone have advice on all of this, and the choices you had to make?

I am to come back in 6 months.. and my hubby and I are heading to counselling

this Saturday, so I hope this can be a reality for me in 2013. I am so ready to

be a mother emotionally. But am so confused and scared about everything else.

I hope someone can share their experiences. I don't, and won't judge. you can

write off list..