Guest guest Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 I hear your grief Helena. And your love for your sister. Be here, now. For her. For yourself. With compassion and encouragement V hbbr wrote: what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 I had this thought early on about my mother, around age 9. And I'm not sure I have an answer, as I sit here missing her to pieces, but if your sister would tell you, what might she say?With You To: ACT for the Public <ACT_for_the_Public > Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 3:05 PM Subject: Re: Feeding Hunger what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 I send my best wishes to you, Helena. I'm an only child so I don't know exactly what you're feeling. But I know it hurts and I'm sorry.Bruce I hear your grief Helena. And your love for your sister. Be here, now. For her. For yourself. With compassion and encouragement V hbbr wrote: what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2012 Report Share Posted April 7, 2012 Thanks to all who reached out to comfort me last evening. It means a lot to me. You guys are awesome!HelenaTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 6:44:52 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I hear your grief Helena. And your love for your sister. Be here, now. For her. For yourself. With compassion and encouragement V hbbr wrote: what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2012 Report Share Posted April 7, 2012 I don't talk to her about how much I'll miss her. Even talking with my other sister is tough because she is in denial and won't even say the word "death." My sick sister feels guilty about the effect her death will have on her kids (adults) and family members and I keep trying to reassure her that we will all be OK. And we will. The process of dying, especially when it is slow and painful, like hers, is far worse than death itself. She will welcome it when it comes, and I have to support her in that and reassure her that everyone will be able to go on, as we must. It won't be easy.Thank you for the "With You" - that was sweet.HelenaTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 8:05:48 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I had this thought early on about my mother, around age 9. And I'm not sure I have an answer, as I sit here missing her to pieces, but if your sister would tell you, what might she say?With You To: ACT for the Public <ACT_for_the_Public > Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 3:05 PM Subject: Re: Feeding Hunger what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2012 Report Share Posted April 7, 2012 And Terry, I meant to add that I am so sorry you lost your mother at such a young age. How horrible for you. My heart understands what it means to feel "motherless." I know you will always miss her, as I do my mom - who didn't die when I was young but rather abandoned us, which is a kind of death. So we carry on ... learning to love ourselves as we mother ourselves.HelenaTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Saturday, April 7, 2012 10:15:43 AMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I don't talk to her about how much I'll miss her. Even talking with my other sister is tough because she is in denial and won't even say the word "death." My sick sister feels guilty about the effect her death will have on her kids (adults) and family members and I keep trying to reassure her that we will all be OK. And we will. The process of dying, especially when it is slow and painful, like hers, is far worse than death itself. She will welcome it when it comes, and I have to support her in that and reassure her that everyone will be able to go on, as we must. It won't be easy.Thank you for the "With You" - that was sweet.HelenaTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 8:05:48 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I had this thought early on about my mother, around age 9. And I'm not sure I have an answer, as I sit here missing her to pieces, but if your sister would tell you, what might she say?With You To: ACT for the Public <ACT_for_the_Public > Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 3:05 PM Subject: Re: Feeding Hunger what am i gonna do when she is the only person i can call in the middle of the night or very early in the morning what am i gonna do when she diesTo: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 4:03:41 PMSubject: Re: Feeding Hunger I think you fed two spirits, Helena. Plus mine.D Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.)I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. Thanks for listening.Helena -- Darrell G King, RN, CASAC-TRochester, NY, UShttp://darrellking.comDarrellGKing@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2012 Report Share Posted April 7, 2012 I am new to this group and see so much compassion and support in this thread. I sense that you feel it too, Helena. I trust your sister will feel it through you as well. May you both experience continued loving care during this challenging time. Warmly, Charlene > > > > > > Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.) > > > I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. > > > Thanks for listening. > Helena > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2012 Report Share Posted April 8, 2012 Halina I always have more questions, your post gives us all something to think about. I want to expresses sorrow for the lost(es) that perminate our lives in all differant ways. Sometimes, there is necessary losses, and soemtimes it does not make sence years later. Acceptance for me has become a way of life. My question has to do with the hope to heal ourselves. Mother yourselves, you commented. While, I have read some inner bounding material, I find that I am having a hard time feeling like a mother would. Except I dont know what the loving mother is? I know my job as a mother was to build my childerns self esteem, the teacher role and the provider to fufill their physical and emotional needs. Maybe what I am missing is the know how to express a mothering love. Any suggestions for picking what my mother would be like? I think i have to train the one inside. I have never said that out in the open before. It feels good and scary to be found out. Another thing to learn in jus a few words gone by. Lin Happy Easter to all, Lin > > > > > > > > > > > > Sometimes it is more important to feed someone's soul than to feed your own body. (Not if you're physically starving, of course.) > > > > > > I had $50 to spend on groceries this week. Instead, I spent it on getting a bouquet of flowers for my sister who is in the hospital far away. I will not starve, but her spirit will be fed. > > > > > > Thanks for listening. > > Helena > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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