Dr. Brene Brown

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Hi Group:-)I hope it is ok to share this here, i am a huuuuuge fan of Dr. Brene Brown. She is offering a 6 week e-course on 'Lessons in Love, Shame & Worthiness.' for only $99. To me, deep down, we all already know what we should be doing, or what needs to be done to reduce suffering (as far as engaging in our Erps/Exposures/Committed Actions), but where we get stuck, or atleast i talk for myself when i say that , where i used to get stuck was, what comes in the way of me doing what needs to be done. Mostly it would be all these emotions that i so readily labeled as Neg., hence would try every possibly way to somehow avoid expereicening them. Emotions like: Fear, Shame, Vulnerability, Guilt etc etc. For me Brene Browns definations of these emotions helped a great deal, to use that wonderful 'Acceptance' tool of ACT , to transform my relationship with these emotions. http://hopefulpublishing.org/ordinary-courage-six-weeks-with-brene-brown-and-jen-lemen/ Dr. Brene Brown:Vulnerability= The most accurate Measurement of Courage. Because to be Vulnerable is to be honest, to let ourselves be seen. It is an emotional risk we take. Vulnerability is the birthplace for joy, love & belonging. When

we r in our best vulneratibilty, meaning

open, willing to share with people not only our strengths but also our

struggles, that’s what moves us towards emphathy. When we stop caring what other people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we are defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable.Empathy= It's about being

vulnerable to people in their

vulnerability. Empathy is what moves us towards deep meaningful relationship. Empathy is the anetode to shame

Shame= Shame is the fear of disconnection, it is Vulnerability

at it’s worst. Shame

the most primitive human emotion we expreince. We can’t get rid of shame, but we can be resilient. Shame drives 2 primary ways of thinking: Never good

enough & Who do u think u r. Courage- original

def. from the Latin word cur-heart, who u r with Ur whole heart. Courage is the ability to tell ur story AND like who u r in the process

of doing itPerfectionism= It Is simply a defense mechanism, that leads to

this thought process; if I do it perfect , live perfect, look perfect, I can

avoid or minimize feeelings of shame, judgement, and blame. The thing about perfectionism is that it is destructive & addictive. U can’t

avoid or minimize feelings of shame, judgement and blame, as they r a part of the

human experience. Perfectionism is not

so much healthy striving , but a way to really protect ourselves from feeling

less than.Worthiness: a strong

sense of love and belonging. Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have so because they believe they r worthy of love and belongingWholeheartedness- living from this deep sense of worthiness. What wholehearted people have in common, is they have the courage to be imperfect, & the compassion to be

kind with themselves first, then to others. They have connection as a result of authenticity. They r willing to let go of who they think they should be, for who they really are. And they fully embrace Vulnerability. Blame – a way to discharge pain and comfort.Authenticity- Authenticity is not something we have or don't have. It's a practice -- a conscious choice of how we want to live. It's the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen. Authenticity is about having the courage to be vulnerable, and engaging with the world from a place of worthiness. -K Designs."" Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes.

That way, when you criticize them, you're already a mile away AND you have their

shoes." ~ a very pious intellectual