Re: mother in law said neglect

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Hi Kathy

Sorry, I didn't explain myself very well. What I meant by the 2nd

time around is that there are some parents on here that had a plagio

baby with baby #1 so when baby #2 came they knew all about plagio and

would have been paying extra attention to ensure that it didn't

happen again but it did. That was something that really made me feel

better (and I am truly sorry for the parents that had to do this all

a 2nd time around and I do not mean to offend anyone with this

comment).

When I first found out that Jordi had plagio I blamed myself. Jordi

is baby #2 for me so I had thought that he was likely sitting in his

bouncy chair more, etc. since I was trying to deal with my 3 yr old

daughter. After talking to many of the parents on here and learning

more about plagio I realized that it wasn't my fault and that I was

being way too hard on myself. As mentioned, we always thought Jordi's

head was a little off right from birth but once he was diagnosed I

still thought it was my fault. Months later I looked at some pictures

fom the birth and noticed that right from birth his head was

mishapen. I also breastfed Jordi so when I thought about how much

time I was holding him and feeding, etc...I knew that I hadn't just

let him " sit around " to cause this.

I think when you first hear the diagnosis you blame yourself for

letting this happen to your baby but after learning about it you will

know for sure that you were not the cause. I hope this helps you

more. try not to feel down. I always think to myself....this could be

way worse...there are people out there dealing with heart and kidney

problems, etc...with their babies. This is something to deal with but

there is a remedy and its a painless one for our babes! Be thankful.

The treatment is really not that bad and it will be over before you

know it too. Believe me, Jordi's 4 months in the band have flown by.

We also did repositioning for 4 months too so I've been dealing with

his plagio 24hrs/day since his diagnosis in February. It really has

flown by!!

hang in there!! You have tonnes of support here!!

Carolyn

> > Hi all,

> > I am new to this process and only had my initial consultation

with

> CT

> > last week. How should I handle such an accusation from my mother

in

> > law? Has anyone had to deal with this situation? I know I am not

> > perfect but I do not feel I created this problem for my son (JT

by

> > the way) due to neglect, perhaps ignorance but definately not

> > NEGLECT. Thanks, Kathy

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