WARNING SEXUAL CONTENT Re: Re: Nadas and sexual development

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Too much - my Mom was very into making sure I did not " do it. " She had big hang

ups about sex, but I could tell she was obsessed with also. By discussing

inappropriate sexually themed matters with me at a young age, she unwittingly

made sex all the more intriguing to me. But, like I said in my post, I made

some very conscious decisions about how I was going to become active. My mom

was flirty with my sister's husband. She also made frequent comments that I

must be a lesbian when I was goofing around with my best friend. I remember

being so humiliated in front of my female friends because she was always looking

for gay behavior. It's just so twisted - was she oversexed, repressed, gay

herself - I have no idea.

That is terrible about what happened to you your first time. I hope you have

been able to heal from it. What a jerk. Did you still have to see the boy in

school?

The Fels Naptha thing just kills me. We used to have that soap. We also had

Octagon (remember that hideous stuff?). Oh - and loads of Massengill douche.

It's a gross discussion, but I think it's good to get it out in the open. And

yes - love the Dr. Bronner's and Yardley English Lavendar Bars. Also Mrs.

Meyer's Clean Day cleaning prodcuts which also come in lavender. I'm always

very popular when I use them to clean my desk at work. Gosh - I feel so clean

right now .

Tag

WARNING SEXUAL CONTENT Re: Re: Nadas and sexual

development

Tag,

I got weird messages about sex too. Mostly it was because she'd preach

that 'good girls don't' but it was more like 'good girls do it and

don't talk about it.' Nada would want to tell me about how horrible

sex was with my Dad. Then there was the tampon thing, ugh. And then

after she and Dad divorced she'd flirt with MY male friends. Yuk. At

14 when a boy was telling me that I had to have sex with him or he'd

find another girlfriend, I confided in her what was going on and that I

didn't want to have sex with him. Instead of telling me NO, you don't

have to do that, NO you're too young, NO NO NO NO NO,....she told me I

needed some kind of birth control because this is the way boys are and

that it was only going to get worse. It sure did,...instead of

listening to her and getting birth control, I refused to have sex with

him and he raped me. Thanks, nada, wonderful first experience.

I hadn't heard the Lysol wivestale but my nada swore by Fels Naptha.

Remember that lye soap? It was the only soap she'd buy for me. I used

to hide other kinds that I'd sneak in. LOL,...other kids rode their

bikes to the corner store for candy,...I went for soap!! I loved Ivory

bar soap and whenever she'd find it in my bathroom (or wherever I'd

hide it) she'd throw it out. BTW,...Dr.. Bronner's Lavender bar soap is

wonderful!! I guess that's why I hoard it now!!

Mercy

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> Once again, I am so thankful to the members of this board who are

willing to talk through such painful and personal subjects. Reading

all of your posts has brought me another one of those lightbulb moments

and along with that - such relief. This thread is completely

fascinating to me. I got all kinds of weird mixed messages when it

came to sex and bodily functions also. Here are some of the major

things I remember...

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> My nada was always telling me she got an infection from having sex

with my father. I can remember seeing her squat over a pyrex dish in

the bathroom pouring diluted Lysol over her genitals. It was

horrible. Apparently there is an old wives tale about Lysol preventing

pregnancy, but she thought it would make her clean. I can also

remember her douching constantly.

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Tag,

No, I didn't have to see him in school. But (I don't know if I had

posted bits and pieces of this before) I had to face him AT HOME

because my nada had let him move in with us. Remember the thread about

inappropriate friendliness/behavior, yeah,...the Fed Ex guy story and

all,....anyway, this guy was 17 and his mom had kicked him out. Nada

found this out in meeting him in the grocery store where he was working

stock and bagging, didn't know him from Adam but acted like he was her

long lost son and INVITED him to live with us. He was very charming at

first and me being only barely 14 was intrigued by the attention of an

older boy. I had never had a serious BF yet and well,...you get it.

When I confided to nada what happened, she told me that well, that's

just the way men are. Get used to it. He told me after that now I was

damaged goods and no one else would want me anyway so I might as well

let him do to me what he wanted. It was horribly degrading.

He finally left when nada slept with the guy who came to tune the

piano. I think he got jealous because he was sexing up my nada while I

was at school during the day but that's purely speculation.

Mercy

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> That is terrible about what happened to you your first time. I hope

you have been able to heal from it. What a jerk. Did you still have

to see the boy in school?

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