WARNING SEXUAL CONTENT Re: Re: Nadas and sexual development

March 7, 2008

Hi Friendsofcam,

I thank you for your response to my earlier post. However, I have to

respectfully disagree with you. I filled in some details in a

subsequent post to Tag. I did indeed admit my part in being snowed

by an older boy HOWEVER, my nada INVITED him to live in our home. At

the time my Dad was gone and it was her, me and my younger sister

living together. When you are a single mother with two girls, you do

not invite an older teenage boy you just met to LIVE in your home

like your long lost son. She talked him up, she said he was a 'nice'

boy, he had her fooled, he charmed me, I fell for it, he took

advantage of the stupid divorced single mother and her naive,

trusting daughter. She is partly to blame. You just don't do that.

She should have been the parent, I trusted her and he was just an

opportunistic jerk. She set the situation up to affect the rest of

my life,....I blame her AND I blame him. He raped me and she didn't

kick him out, she blew me off with a lame excuse, let him stay and

abuse me too! WTF??? (See, Scout? Perfect.)

I do blame her as well as him.

Kindest regards,

Mercy

>

> Mercy, Your mom definitely did send mixed messages about sex. And

> that was weird to tell you to get a condom. She should have been

> more supportive. However, I don't think that it's her fault that

> you were raped, or that your first experience was rape.

>

> That was the fault of the man who did it. Still, I do believe

that

> being in abusive homes makes us more vulnerable to being

> victimized. Because, it is confusing, lowers our self esteem and

> makes us more fragile. I remember hearing a rapist on the news say

> that he can spot a girl like that out of a hundred girls, walking

in

> the mall, and he can do it in a minute.

>

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