A question about impulse/process control

March 11, 2008

I thought this might make a good stand alone topic. You could go

along way towards helping me understand the dynamics of my own family.

It has been mentioned that our BPD family members have or display the

mentality of a 3 year old during a temper tantrum. All day today

while going through these posts, I have been wondering about impulse

control. Some of the stories exhibit clear signs of out of control

behavior and inappropriate responses to conflict no matter how small.

Let me explain.

My son has Sensory Integration Disorder Syndrome and it involves a

miscommunication in his brain which diconnects his actions from his

thought processes. He is very impulsive and when he gets excited he

is all over the place. Both my son and I recognize that this is a

processing issue and we are working on this. We do exercises every

day to " re-wire " his growing brain. Some are physical exercises and

some are cognitive/handwriting exercises. He has made so much

progress and I am so very proud of him. Eventually he will grow out

of it.

I wonder if some BPD people had the syndrome and never were able to

cope with it or grow out of it. Fortunately, I caught what was going

on with my son when he was 3 and am working actively to bring it

under control. What about others, who never were diagnosed?

This will seem like a question out of left field, but do any of you,

your siblings or your parents exhibit learning disabilities? Dyslexia

or any of the other forms of information misprocessing? Are they

prone to being, shall we say, not graceful?

I have dyslexia and for years I thought I was just slow. It wasn't

that at all. I was diagnosed when I was in 6th grade but my parents

maintain that they were never told by the school. In this case I

believe them, since this was back in the '70s. I remember taking

tests and being put in remedial classes for handwriting and math. I

also remember having trouble with spelling. I didn't realize what I

had until I was in my senior year in college when I happened to pick

up a book that listed 15 signs of dyslexia and I had 12. I think all

you needed was 9 to say for sure if you had the problem or not.

I don't mean to pry, and I really am courious. I have a cousin who is

frequently out of control and she used to mirror write when she was a

child. Any feed back or observations would help.

Thanks.

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