Valentine's Day

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Hi all,

I've been NC for about three months now due to my mom's behavior

towards my children. At the time I specified that I did not want

them to drop in unannounced and I asked them to stop calling. I even

said please. On Valentine's Day mom sent my husband and I, as well

as each of our three children, Valentine's Day cards. She

included " gifts " for the kids, which were anklet socks, all the same

size even though my kids' foot sizes are very dissimilar (ages 8, 6,

and 4) and one of them is a boy. After all, nothing says " I love

you " like girl's socks in the wrong size, right? Anyway, while we

were on vacation this weekend, my eight year old told me that on

Valentine's Day my mom called and talked to my kids on the phone

while I was at work. I had a sitter with the kids at the time who

didn't know any better. Clearly this is out of bounds. I'm just so

angry I could spit nails. It doesn't sound like mom was saying

anything too outrageous, although apparently she asked my 8 year old

what grade she was in now (as if it had been years since she had seen

her) and then made a comment as to how she must be " all grown up

now " . That's actually how I found out about this conversation--my

daughter was really confused as to why grandma might thing she'd be

in a different grade and " all grown up " .

I should add that I didn't give the kids the socks. You probably all

know the creepy feeling you get when you receive a completely

inappropriate gift from someone who's supposed to care about you. I

thought I'd try to spare them that.

Arrrggghhhhhh. I feel like mom just upped the ante. Part of me just

wants to call and scream a hole in her ear, but I know that is just

another way of pulling me back into the fold. Any suggestions?